Recently I have decided I hate my face.
How odd, right? I really like my body, but I just can’t stand my face at the moment. I’m British, slightly pale-skinned, with nice blue eyes and mediocre brown hair. I get very tanned in the summer. My skin isn’t spotty, I just have the occasional one pop up, but I’m quite pock-marked from being a typical acne-prone teenager, particularly around my lower face, lips, and forehead. My lips have an uneven outline from all the break-outs there, the skin on my skin is quite pitted, and so on. I never used to worry about this, but since getting into fashion, photography and Facebook, it’s been a bit of a sore spot for me. I’ve found my skin is quite ‘hairy’, covered in fine white fluff, but also quite dry and flaky, so it doesn’t take well to the foundation I’ve used.
To make things worse, I have an otherwise invisible overbite, so my lower jaw is a little further back than it should be, which casts my lower face in shadows. I could draw attention from the lower half by drawing attention to my eyes, admittedly, but I dislike that bit too; my eyes are lovely but deep-set, making me look tired, and quite far apart. I also have a ‘roll’ of skin underneath them, which I also despise.
So, this was really quite a negative letter. But how can I make my face look better… and healthier?
Sarah
Dear Sarah,
What you are going through is normal. Most people are dissatisfied with the way they look. Want proof? Ask anyone if they like their nose. 99 percent people will say no – it’s too wide, too big, too skinny, or too long – even if their nose is as perfect as Angelina Jolie’s! We have so many plastic surgeries for this very reason.
It happens to all of us: some days, we wake up, look in the mirror and decide that our face is the ugliest thing, ever. Those puffy eyes. That big nose. Those thin lips. That weak chin. In fact, women tend to underestimate their looks by 20%. When we look in the mirror, we often ignore all the things that make us beautiful, and focus only on the things we dislike. And then there’s this other thing we do: compare ourselves to famous models, actresses and other ultra-attractive people. Since you mentioned getting into Facebook and fashion, I believe this is exactly what is happening here. Comparing ourselves to others makes us hyper-critical. Think about it like this: you don’t walk around comparing your brain to Socrates. Then why would you compare your face to Heidi Klum?
Whatever you think you’ve got darling, add 20% to it! :) In addition, remember that the things we dislike about ourselves are often the very reason others find us attractive. Ever heard of these ‘flawed’ beauties, whose whole look is hinged upon imperfections? Madonna (gap between front teeth), Kate Bosworth (odd-eyed), Agyness Deyn (boyish face & body), Sarah Jessica Parker (oh boy, where do I start). Even Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe were insecure about their looks! Studies show that ‘inner beauty’ really does shine through brighter than simple good looks; and confidence & charisma are heaps more alluring than perfect cheekbones or bee-stung lips!
When looking in the mirror every day, remind yourself that you are a beautiful, smart human being and deserve to be happy & successful. You are one of a kind and special. Surround yourself with beautiful things – flowers, things you like, people you find fascinating. Rre-create your own image as someone hip, irresistible, magnetic!
Having said this, if feelings of self-hatred persist, the underlying reason could be much deeper. Depression or Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome can undermine one’s self-esteem. I recommend seeing a specialist if you feel this is the case.
Now, to address your beauty concerns. It sounds to me like your skin could use some moisturizing. Don’t bother with the expensive stuff; most generic brands contain the same ingredients, sans the scent. Experiment and find one that works for you. Always moisturize your skin prior to applying foundation. If you have ‘peach fuzz’ on your face, use a foam sponge to apply foundation, and do so in a dabbing motion to avoid streaking. If your skin still doesn’t look good, Dermabrasion might be an option. It’s a chemical procedure which involves polishing off a thin layer of cells off your skin. It takes about 3 months to heal. Like most cosmetic surgical procedures, it can be expensive, but at the very least you will know what your options are.
Finding something you like about yourself and drawing attention to it is always an excellent idea. If you like your eyes, accentuate them with fun, colorful eyeliners and eyeshadow. Lighter colors will bring your eyes forward. Oh, and fake lashes look amazing on everyone! Good luck, sweetie.
Deerlings: let’s make this into something positive. Tell me what you LOVE about yourself!!!
Got a question for Doe Deere? Submit it to doedeere @ gmail. com.
Ok, I should probably answer my own question. I love, love, love my red hair. Being a redhead rocks! :D
oh sarah! don’t bother your peach fuzz! it was marylin monroe ssecret to look so radiant every time! a little bit sparkly face powder will do the trick! apply it on your face, arms and neckline. you will look like a fairy covered with astral dust!
and don’t worry. if you liked your face before, you will again.
and as for me- i like my legs. and a little bit girly face. i have even been called snow white because of that (dark brown hair, pale skin, raspberry lips and blue eyes)
doe- i love redhead girls! when i was little, i always asked hairdresser to “make” my hair long, curly and red (and that was impossible as my hair were straight dark, and i always had my hair cut like christopher robin from winnie the pooh)
You gave great advice!
Also another underlining issue could be BDD (body Dysmorphic Disorder) which unfortuantely is getting more popular. But that can be fixed or severly lessoned with therapy or therapy and meds.
And I used to get micro dermabrasions in order to get rid oc a chicken pox scar on my face (of course the one I picked at when I was 7 had to be on my face right?) and that is a lot more gently and less expensive way to fix mild skin imperfections. And a normal session costs between $100-150. I had about 6 done and it didn’t get rid of my scar but it did lesson it and it helped to get my pale skin more even toned.
And for me, I love my blue eyes and my naturally pale skin.
There’s nothing I like about my looks. My body especially is hideous. I’m 22, and my skin looks 30, despite always having taken good care of it. Sorry, but I have nothing positive to say.
Thanks for the dermabrasion tip Doe, never heard of a thing like that before.
That’s okay I tend to always hate how my face and everything look. I always feel like the ugly duckling.
Though Doe does give great advice. ^^ And I know what the self loathing body image thing is like. I have horrendous acne, I am sligtly over weight and really short so it looks totally off.
Someday all women will love themselves.
But for today….no.
I love my eyes. :)
They are a very intense blue and in the sun I look like a Husky. :D
I am naturally cross-eyed though, I had two operations about it and that is why my face always looks a bit weird on photos if they are not taken in a specific angle but I really don’t care about it any more. I wouldn’t actually mind having different eye colours or one dilated pupil (like David Bowieeeee <3) but yeah.
Also, I have recently come to love my hair, which has been quite a journey. I had frizzy, Hermione Granger-style hair for most of my adolescence but since a year or so it has gone from bushy to soft and slightly wavy. I am really pleased. :)
I don’t like my legs at all (knock-knees & chunky thighs *sigh*) but I just make sure to not wear things that end below my knees and I always ALWAYS wear tights with skirts, shorts and dresses. Heels also help. :)
Sarah, we all get critical of ourselves and find fault with what really makes us beautiful. we are more beautiful than we tell ourselves we are.
I really should focus on what makes me beautiful, too, so I’ll give it a try!
I actually kinda like my nose. It might be a little fat to some people, but I’ve never had a problem with it. It took some cruel young buys to call me a name to make me think something might be wrong with it. But I think it suits my face great!
I also love my teeth. Two of them might stick out and make me look like a vampire, but who says that’s a bad thing? :)
I love my eyebrows too
I love my (non-natural) long reddish hair. It’s incredibly healthy and thick and I get compliments on it all time. Not as much as when it was 2 feet long; however, since I cut off a foot and donated it to locks of love. After I did that it got a natural wave, though, and I love having that body to my hair now. :)
Right now I’m trying to focus on what I like about my looks since I’ve gained at least 10 pounds in the past year. :( At least that is in my control to change, though.
I like my teeth =). I was naturually blessed with perfectly straight and even teeth – I’ve never had to have braces or a retainer in my life! I think if anything happened to them I’d be devastated!
I’ve been told I have nice lips before too… Although the jury’s still out on that one for me =P.
I love how when I wear my hair out & straight with my fringe it completly changes my look. I never knew how much a fringe would suit me.
I looooove my nose! I thank my mom for my cute nose. I also love my eye color. They are brown, but more of a reddish brown…especially in the summer they can get quite fiery!
I love my waist! I’m not so fond of my hips but with fashion the way it’s going I can get away with alot of high waisted skirts and things that really show off my waist. I also really like my legs and my face.
“…you don’t walk around comparing your brain to Socrates. Then why would you compare our face to Heidi Klum?” Haha, that’s great advice and funny also.
I feel my best feature are my eyes especially when I dress them up. My nose is horrible though. I was a tom boy growing up and always seemed to break it somehow or another so now it has a big bump in the middle >_<
Ok I feel like a dunce asking this but I recently tried to wear some false eyelashes and I could not get them to stay on :/ When should you apply them, before moisturizer? Do you already have a tutorial for that somewhere?
I guess I would have to say that I like my hands a lot. I have small hands with long skinny fingers. They look just like my moms :) I will not go into all the things I dislike about myself, there are MANY :P
Thank you Doe for such a great blog and all the great advise and info!! I cant wait to try your makeup, I love the colors you have created =)
My favourite thing would have to be my eyes. They are large by themselves and when I make them up they can just turn huge! I second the eyelash question though. Where do you find well priced,but good, ones? I only see them at super fancy stores or cheap make-up aisles.
My least favourite thing it probably how muscular I am. I am a pole vaulter, so I have very thick, muscled legs, shoulders and arms. I like how this makes my back look, but I wish I did not have such masculine limbs.
I have to say, I mostly like my face. My most interesting feature is my nose, it has many planes and can look completely different at certain angles. I think it adds interest to my face. I also really like my hands, they are very long, but I have two (naturally) bent pinky fingers that I get from my Dad. I’m sort of proud of them because they are so different. Weird, unique traits are a good thing.
I’m just one of those exceptional people who can find all things about themselves beautiful. My hair, although leaving somethings to be desired, can be curly but still tame (a huge plus for someone like me). My eyes are that odd color brown that myself and my sister call “Poopy Jellyfish,” a name that indicates that they’re brown, but transparent and gleeming, as opposed to that common thick, dark, chocolate brown her eyes reflect. My lips I believe are even more attractive than Angelina’s (or at least in my mind), and my cheeks puff like a Gothic Lolita’s should (with a surplus of freckles). And finally, I’m one of the few women in this world who loves their nose! However long it may be, it’s sharp and upturned, making the cutest Peter Pan-esque feature.
You said to send in one thing we love about ourselves, but I love all.
I love this article!! So true!
For another celebrity example – I personally think the actor Javier Bardem is THE sexiest man ever. I watched an interview with him several months back, and he was asked what he thought about being listed in a magazine as one of the sexiest men alive (I apologize, the video doesn’t appear to be available now).
You know what he said?
He didn’t understand what people see in him. He said he looks in the mirror and sees a guy with a crooked nose, and he doesn’t find himself attractive.
!! He’s absolutely gorgeous !!
Everyone is self-critical. Even those people who we think are flawless human beings. It’s hard not to be when society puts soooo much emphasis on appearance.
Although I could list all sorts of physical attributes I’m not proud of, I AM proud of my eyes and eyebrows. When I want to make an impression, I put all my makeup emphasis on my eyes. Prepare to be stunned!
Sarah, I recommend Tesco’s own moisturiser. It comes in a little white round pot and although cheap is far by my favourite moisturiser. It nourishes your skin but doesn’t leave it feeling greasy and it makes makeup application so much easier.
I’m going through a bit of face hatred myself at the moment. I work with beautiful people the entire week through and can’t help but compare myself to them.
However these are the things I love about myself…
My boobs! I grew up hating how flat chested I was and longed for bigger boobs but one day something clicked and I’ve learnt to love my A-cup chest.
My pale skin. Despite the fact my collegues are all sun worshippers and constantly applying self-tan, I adore being pale, it’s something that makes me stand out.
My stomach! Lots of dancing and a small appetite means I have a thin, toned stomach.
I could make a much longer list about the things I hate about my body but I’m afraid we’d be here a while.
Excellent advice as always Miss Deere.
x
I both love and hate my looks, much depending on my mood. My favorite feature is definatly my hair, it’s very long (I can sit on it and I’m 6 feet tall) and thick and healthy. I also like the shape of my eyes, they’re sort of tilted and almond shaped.
My least favorite feature is my jaw… or the loose skin under my jaw… or the stretchmarks on my thighs… or my all but flawless skin. Lots to choose from. But really, I don’t NEED to be beautiful, so it doesn’t really matter.
I really like my eyes =] They’re blue/grey but have a darker ring on the outside, it really makes them stand out.
I also love being a natural redhead! Although i’ve dyed my hair alot of different colours over the years, I always come back to my natural red. Its so unique and suits me the best =]
As for things i dislike, i can’t stand my nose sometimes. It’s an alright size but has this dodgy little bump in the middle!
Things I like about my face:
I like my hazel eyes, love to wear purple eyeshadows to accentuate the green.
I like my full lips. Not full as in Angelina Jolie ‘full’, but fuller lips:)
I like my eyebrows, there’s very little I need to do with them for upkeep. They are naturally arched and a little thin toward the end. My brother has the same eyebrows, too.
And I love my hair. It’s getting darker as I get older, it’s now a dirty blond. But it’s down to the back of my knees and I get complimented on it ALOT when I’m out with it down.:)
My advice for Sarah in regards to her dry skin.
I’ve always had really dry skin, regardless of what I’ve used to wash it. Especially when I was a teen, my skin would be very flaky and I hated it.
-I’ve been using Pond’s facial moisturizer for Dry Skin for several years now. I apply it liberally after every shower and even when my skin just feels dried out. And it works wonderfully. My skin doesn’t look flaky anymore and doesn’t feel tight and dry, either.
My mom has used this stuff for as long as I can remember and not only have I never seen her face look dry, she also looks quite a bit younger than she is.:D
As for the pock-marks…I’ve heard that mineral foundations can be very good at hiding that.
Good luck!
P.S. I went back and read through the comments again and noticed a lot of girls were unhappy with their skin.
I used to have terrible acne (and still get it quite frequently on my back, which isn’t pleasant). I spent years and tons of my mom’s money on dermatologists and miracle creams. Nothing helped.
About 9 months ago, I cut out cow milk from my diet and switched to vanilla-flavored soy milk. It tastes SUPER yummy (especially over cereal or in a smoothie), it’s just as good for you (all the vitamins and calcium), and my skin is looking better than it has in YEARS. Cow milk is filled with hormones and antibiotics that they have to give the cows to keep them healthy – that doesn’t mean it needs to be passed on to us!
If an animal is brought to a vet’s office with dull fur or unhealthy skin, the very first thing they change is the diet. Humans are animals too! Our skin and hair are direct reflections of how healthy we are.
You don’t have to be super strict about what you eat. Life (and food!) is meant to be enjoyed. However, I promise you’ll look and feel a lot better the more processed and unnatural foods you can eliminate from your diet.
Honestly?
I love my body, I love my face, and [cover you're eyes, I'm about to break the cardinal rule of womanhood]I think I am beautiful.
Seriously.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got some awful complaints about myself, but as a whole I really love the way I look.
Like most people i have hate days but Doe is right to say you need to focus on the positive. I know im definatly awkward looking and used to be made fun of all the time for it, but thats what i think i love most about my looks. they are unconventional. i have HUGE blue eyes and small bow shaped lips, in a super pale heart shaped face with stick streight dark brown hair.
the only thing i would change would be my nose, like Chylde i broke it durring sports and now it kinda hooks to the side.
I tend to not like the way I look, too, and have also recently started getting into fashion, photography, liking fun makeup and hair. It’s hard not to compare ourselves with others we look to. I hate my skin and my eyes are too small and my body proportions are all off.
BUT!! I think I have the most adorable, perfect bellybutton!!
I love my eyes, and skin tone… Well, depending on my mood I like my eyes; most the time anyway.
I love my pale skin, and I absolutely refuse to tan… I also hate being outside for a long time, so it’s not actually hard. I don’t get why being as dark as possible, here anyway, is so popular. It seems kind of bad to me, to have skin literally be the color brown?
Oh, and I’m also with Nicki! I love my teeth, and amaze dentists with themXD. I used to NEVER brush my teeth when I was a kid. They would never get discolored or infected with anything! Now, however, I brush my teeth regularly… But it’s kind of amazing.
I REALLY hate my legs; I’ve got huge thighs and unsightly stretch marks all down them. Easy to cover with cloths, not so much (impossible actually) with bathing suits. And being a swimmer, that’s… Uh… Annoying to say the least.
And my nose… my silly large nose…
Morwen: Sally’s has some. I don’t think they’re badly priced either!
I’m not sure where I should ask this, so I’ll do it here.
Doe Deere, would you mind if I drew you?
For the contest you’ve got going I’ve drawn my sisters, and I though maybe I would do you too. Add a few things, and make it wintery.
1. Would you mind me drawing you
2. If so would that be unfair to enter in your contest? I’m worried that would come across as sucking up somehow.
If it would, I would still very much love to draw you!!~~~
I love my green eyes and my elvish nose!
Sarah, I don’t think many of the women can natually look pretty. (Yes, including the celebrities) I think it has a lot to do with make up, outfits. Doe mentioned before, but use some moisturizer and other stuff and your skin will get better! I’ve been there. My skin was all flaky.. and I’m not going to say it changed overnight… but it’s a lot better now. I know trying all those different products before you find the right one can be tiring… but if you don’t look… you can’t find it.
Ahaha; I’m in a love/hate relationship with my face… it’s such a camelion. Normally, I wear glasses, which make me look like a dorky asian girl. But when I take em off, put on some make up and play with my hair and pay attention to what I wear, I can draw some attention. :P Every woman looks different when they are dressed up vs. not… but my parents tell me I’m an extreme case.. (compliment? I can’t tell.)
I also love my semi-atheletic legs. It gives power to my posture and brings out the “don’t mess with me” feel. I know it’s not pretty, but I sorta like it when I get bruises from dancing/martial arts. I think it shows a couple of bruises aren’t going to keep me from what I love to do.
It always struck me odd… in a way. I mean, how different are our faces anyways? We all got 2 eyes, 1 nose.. and they’re like… what… 1 cm differently positioned than anyone else? Yet, that’s what difines how people recognize us. (I’ve learned there’s a region in your brain that specifically is dedicated to recognizing faces)
Oh yeah… also, I read an article… it put together all the perfect eyes, perfect nose, perfect mouth… and constructed a “perfect” face… except.. it looked absolutely hideous.
So… not everything about you need to be “perfect” to have a pretty face/body. :D
There are a million little things about each of my features that I hate (My jawline is too strong. I’ve got a bumpy pimple scar on my fat nose. My skin is oily. My eyelid creases are uneven and my left eyelid is hooded. My eye colour is boring. My left eye has fewer eyelashes than my right. etc etc etc). Most of them are symmetry related issues, but nobody’s face is perfectly symmetrical, and that would look rather odd anyway, so I’m more or less okay with myself now. I’ve found that if I’m not staring at myself in the mirror 24/7, I don’t notice these things as much. And since nobody else stares at my face for such a long amount of time, chances are they don’t even see the things that get on my nerves. :P
I do love my lips though :D They’re pretty small (well, my entire mouth is), but they’re pretty nicely shaped and I think they’re cute. haha.
And I think Kate Bosworth’s heterochromia is gorgeous.
Something I like about myself… Hmmmm…
I have the same natural measurements as the notorious Dita VonTease, only my boobs are a 34D instead of 34C. Wheeehoo.
i love my eyes. they are slightly almond shaped, dark brown, and i have decent eyelashes.
p.s. that amazing hot purpleish lip color you wear… what is it? i love it.
I love my almond-shaped eyes, triangle face, afro-curly hair, my slender torso, and my lower legs (hips and thighs… we have to work on that… xD ). I wish my smile looked better in pictures, but it looks amazing in person! :D
Another tip for our dear Sarah… try a dermatologist. I, too, have acne break-outs and other skin issues. A good dermatologist will help you get your diet and skin-care regime on track. And no, you *don’t* have to take birth control. :)
Also, I agree with Doe: wear things that make you feel pretty! I’m a bit of a weird case: I’ve been blessed with a naturally slender, curvy body, but clothes that show it off don’t make me feel very beautiful. Instead, I love my super-sweet, modest Lolita fashion because it make me feel like a gorgeous princess. Even though it hides all evidence of me having a butt, I just love those petticoats and knee skirts! ^o^/
Re: Jayne Danger’s post.
I totally agree with everythign she said. What you eat and drink is very important when it comes to your skin.
I’m a vegetarian and eat cheese (but I don’t drink milk or cream…soy all the way baby!) But when I was vegan my skin was amazing. There are way too many hormones in milk nowadays and it’s disgusting. The horemones in milk have been linked to more instances of the following in children: acne, respiratory issues, asthma, quicker onset of puberty. And have you noticed how more and more young girls have HUGE chests nowadays. I’m telling you, it’s the milk.
And cutting down on processed and unnatural foods will only help your skin better…along with drinking lots of water. So eat your veggies!
And I read article once that had the best quote to think about when you go shopping. If your grandmother wouldn’t recognize the food, don’t buy it.
And regardign dry skin…my skin is very sensitive and tends to get dry in the winter and a friend recommended this line to me. http://www.shikai.com/products/borage.htm
Their products are awesome! I use their eye cream and 24 hour moistuizer at night time. And during the day I use another moisturizer with spf of 28. You can find this line at Whole Foods or other stores like that.
On moisturizer tips I like Aveno soothing lotion with SPF 30 and Chamomile. The chamomile tones down any redness you might have. I also like their radiance line too (I used to use it).
And if you find that you moisturizer is to strong or weak in the winter or summer switch to a stronger or weaker product.
For me in the winter my T-zone stays really oily, but the rest of my face like cheeks and chin dry out, so I just put moisturizer there!
The same lotion that works in the summer isnt going to work in winter when you have colder and drier weather.
What I love about me?
*My lips. I really like my lips (not right now as there is a cold sore and it hurts! but they are still pretty). They are full, and slightly uneven outline due to acne (just like you Sarah!) But I think that they are very kissable and one of my best features.
*My eyes. I think they are an amazing shape and color. They shift from blue to grey and some times they are even a little bit green! Sure they are surrounded by purple bags that make it look like I never sleep, but if you look past those… my eyes are gorgeous!
*My hair. I dye my hair a light ash blonde. I am a natural blonde, just a really dark dirty blonde. I couldnt imagine myself with a dark tone like that! I haven’t seen my natural hair color since I was 12! Not many people i know have bright blonde hair, and that makes me stand out in the crowd.
Hmmmm. Well, I’m probably too young to be set in my opinions about myself, as I may “improve” but for now, I am rather unhappy with my ‘stummy’ as I call it, it’s a little rounder than I would like, But i’m working on that :3!Oh, and my heavier thighs are a setback. That’s genetic.But they do sort of balance out the stomach. And I also have ‘on and off’ days, some days I’m all “Ugh. I hate this” and others my outlook is “I don’t care ! I love myself!”
Well….What do I like….
I like my face. I’ve always enjoyed having pretty hazel eyes, because they look nice with a lot of colors(and sometimes they look like they’ve changed colors), because of the brown and green two tone <33. I am also pleased with my lovely spray of freckles across my nose (I don’t like sounding egotistical, but I think they’re cute!), although my nose is a bit hooked at the top, though It’s never been broken (Thank you Grammy!It was your nose too.), though I see tons of people with noses like mine, so I’m okay with it. this is getting rather long…
I also like my pale skin,(though on my legs you can sort of see veins in some places((so it doesn’t look like porcelain, as I wish it did, but that isn’t common ))and I absolutely LOVE my collarbone. It DOES look like porcelain and it’s very nicely shaped, and I’m proud of it:)!
Doe, you are very inspirational. Reading your blog makes me HAPPY!
I love my dimples! I got them from my dad. I like my smile a lot after braces and Crest strips! ;)
I’ve recently come to like my eyes. They are often compared to that of Keira Knightley’s; brown & kind of almond shaped. They are also quite expressive like that of Johnny Depp’s. =)
I like my long, straight golden brown hair. I only wish it were thicker. =/
As far as my body goes, I love love love the fact that I can get completely toned to my satisfaction in as little as 1 week of working out! Which is great because I’m so impatient I’d probably be too discouraged to work out if I didn’t see any progress for more than that. (I could have added this to the “super powers” article!)
I love this entry. I suffered from low self esteem my whole life because mean kids & even family would confirm my fears about my physical imperfections. I remember thinking “I thought no one is supposed to notice these things but me!” Anyway it wasn’t until recently, this year actually, that I finally started to come to terms with my own beauty. Imperfections are not imperfections at all! They are simply qualities that make me unique. I have unusual beauty. I’ve always wanted to be different… so what am I complaining about??
Take it from the girl who grew up looking like a drowned rat (seriously, I once followed this flute player out of town)…learn to like the “inside you” as soon as possible. That sounds REALLY cheesy, but I was a total dork, until one day in my twenties, I decided I liked who I was as a person. Then I noticed that I have beautiful eyes (they’re a super light hazel-y brown) and nice legs, and nice abs. I used to HATE my small boobs…but guess who ain’t saggin’? And who looks “athletic” by default?
Hating the mirror can ruin a day, a week or a lifetime. Well, eff the effing mirror. WHO are YOU? And who are the people that love you?
Also, exercise and water are the two absolute, very best things you can do for yourself. I went through a rough patch a while back and started seeing a therapist…and that was the number one thing she recommended. It helps…try it! Even just a twenty minute walk and getting your 6-8 oz will make a world of difference.
Good luck!
Er, that should read, “6 or so glasses of 6 -8 oz” of water. A mere 6-8 oz total will barely make you have to pee.
…and lord knows those house plants need watered!
this is important to know: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v11/agloriousday/shhh/undeniableevidenceNOSEJOBangie.jpg
i have three things that are my favorite part of me
first is my eyes. theyre a navyblue color and i have always gotten complimenst on them. ive even had people assume that they are contacts
the second is my skin. im super pale so i make sure to liberally apply the sunscreen. and my skin is completely clear, which seems to be really rare at my highschool. at 15 everyone thinks im at least 18
and the third is my butt! everyone says i have a black girl booty. and i love it. my idols marilyn monroe, dita von teese and bettie page were all extremely curvy girls
i’m just going to say, try not to be so hard on yourself, you’ve got everyone else in the world to try and tear you down, you should try and love yourself.
that being said, i love my hair. and sharing it. i have donated to Locks of Love twice now and the feeling that comes with that is amazing.
I struggle with my insecurity over my looks too, all the time. Sometimes I think I look absolutely fabulous, but other times I consider myself so ugly. I always remind myself though, of what I like. Focus on the positives :)
I like my natural hair color. It’s a dark, reddish brown with a few golden hairs mixed in and it’s quite unusual for someone of my ethnicity. I like being different!
I like my lips. They aren’t as pigmented and defined as I like, but I love how plump and pert they are and that I have a noticeable Cupid’s bow. Kind of reminds me of a doll’s mouth, you know the rosebud lips.
I love my collarbone. I have small breasts, so I usually stray from v-neck tops and favor boat neck or off the shoulder tops. I really think my collarbone is perfect (imho of course) lol. It’s not too bony, but nicely defined and shape. I think it makes me look elegant.
I love my red hair and my abnormally large bottom lip.
I don’t have any moisturizer tips…I’ve never had a problem with dry skin, which I guess it’s something to like about myself.
I also like my hair. I took a while for me to come to terms with it; it’s big and curly. People ask me all the time if it’s real, but then usually after they ask me why I don’t straighten it. It’s inevitably the second question I get. It used to upset me, but now I just ask them why they don’t curl their hair, because curly hair is awesome! I can make it so big and rockeresque or sometimes it’s these soft, glossy ringlets. And it’s a pretty colour; brown with a hint of red but in the sunlight is looks a copper colour that I don’t often see on other people. So I’ve learned to love my hair and wouldn’t feel like myself with it any other way. I wish it was a bit thicker though so I could get a bit more volume.
So now that I’m done bragging about my hair, I don’t really have anything else I like. My boobs I guess; they aren’t fantastic but I’m satisfied with them, and that means a lot for me! And I like my height; just average, and my head fits nicely under my boyfriend’s chin, which is convenient for hugging.
Well, some days I feel a little bit more critical of myself, but as of late, I really like my body.
I have my “fat” moments and “fat” days because I am slightly overweight, but I also love my curves. It makes me feel more like a female because I have real curves compared to other girls my age.
I also really love my skin right now. I’m so used to having breakouts and other things, but right now my skin has been really healthy. I think it’s mostly because I’ve been more careful when it comes to removing all my makeup, cleansing and exfoliating my skin. I still have a bit of a ruddy look, but I still love my skin. =]
I have struggled with myself for years. I never tell people but in the annoymus world of internet I can say I have out my body through incredible trauma with eating disorders and drugs and living off coffee and cigarettes.
Even now when I look down at my “fuller” by standards (probably an 8 uk which is 6 us…?) I put on the right dress and my body is better then bridget bardot. well when she was young. Im pretty sure everyone here look beter then her now!
Besides that i dont have much facial love but hey. Iv got killer curves. Paper bag job anyone??
xx