I met him through a mutual friend originally and we got to talking on the side through a mutual hobby even though we didn’t see each other physically often. Fast forward several months and I find out that he just started dating someone through his more boorish acquaintances broadcasting that he, “broke his dry spell,” over a BBS we all frequented.

I was suddenly a green-eyed devil of envy and pondered why was I jealous? Then it struck otherwise cold and heartless me that I finally got a crush on someone without realizing it. More months pass, I hide my feelings and accept the new girl and try to help the two along with their relationship and just remain friends.

As it became painfully clear later that she was an emotional trainwreck of epic proportions and latched onto the first person to pity her, it was getting harder day by day to be the middle man in helping patch up fights between the two where she’d go off the deep end when she was purposefully making herself miserable and dragging him down with her.

One day it’s too much and I tell him that I don’t want to be around them when they’re together or try to mediate her craziness anymore. As I put up with it so much in the past, he asks what caused me to change my mind. “Well, I realized that I’m jealous that a girl like her gets to be with you and I don’t.” Not exactly eloquent but it got the point across. :)

He reveals he’s always been attracted to me, but due to an age gap he was afraid of coming off as creepy and would never have made a move. That his current relationship only happened because he was trying to be a good friend to the girl and she took it and ran with it and he didn’t have the heart to tell her no since she was so emotionally unstable. He tries to still be good to her and she gets even more dramatic. Month later she throws an epic fit and takes it out on him, he gives up entirely on her.

Over seven years later and we’ve now been married for almost one year.

Moral of the story is: All it takes is speaking up once!

My most fabulous relationship EVER started off with ME spending the cash and sending the first email on a dating website. The rest, is history.

For me, the person I want to have as a mate is someone who is above all things physical, also my best friend. I think you may have found that, so go after it!