Mon 16 Nov 2009
Doe Deere’s Box of Delights 11/09
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Welcome to November’s DDBD! If you are new to the blog, it’s a little tradition we have when each month where I ask you a question and you give me your answer – in exchange for a chance to win a mystery package! The only way to find out what’s in the box is to win it.
To enter, answer this (and this month’s question is a little strange):
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
My answer: On the outside, I fit (and quite possibly supersede) the expectations of what a typical female is supposed to be. I love dresses and makeup and color pink. On the inside, it’s a struggle: sometimes I feel very much like a boy stuck in a girl’s body! I cross-dress a lot for that reason, haha. I think gender-deviance & ambiguity is fun and find it quite attractive on others!
Your turn, deerlings! You have one week to submit your answer – please post it in comments, not by email – those won’t count! Winner will be picked at random and announced on Monday, November 23.
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November 16th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
I think I break all the gender rules which society set on what a girl is meant to be like. I hang out more with “the guys” and do more boy-ish things, I suppose. However, like you, I do love fashion and make-up and it’s the thing that I find defines me the most.
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November 16th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
For me it depends on the occasion. Sometimes I’m the most girlie of girls and sometimes I’m as tomboyish as they come. I think I’m more of a boy. Being around boys all the time has made me more boyish but I enjoy dressing up and wearing dresses as the next girl. It’s a mixture, a very weird one. Still I’m very happy with it :D.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Interesting question! I find that I very much identify as a “girl” in the sense that I love pretty sparkly things and cute baubles and such. I am, however, much more comfortable in the company of boys…and girls who are not catty. I also am more physically comfortable in jeans and tshirts and flats. But I still love wearing bright fun makeup and getting dressed up for special occasions.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
I’m a girl, but I don’t wear make-up (at least not on a daily basis) and I have short hair. Which is both considered pretty boy-like. I do however wear skirts on a daily basis – so I’m feminine like that.
Behaviour-like, I’m into video games, I tend to make sexual jokes and I’m no stranger to using bad words (Bad habits…) – so I guess that’s considered quite boy-like.
I’m also bad at talking about my feelings… Just like most men! ;)
But after all I’m pretty female-like.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
Oh, and most of the people I consider friends are boys. Thought I’d add that.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
I suppose that physically it varies dramatically.My dress sense and wardrobe ranges from the overtly girly (lolita dresses and the suckh like) to vert tomboyish,scuffed converse and ripped up jeans.Mentaly however i am very girly,i adore boys,shopping and all things sparkly and unique.My dress sense and mentality do not always match for ;)
xoxo
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:03 pm
That is a great question! Considering the fact that I have hair just as short as any boy I go feel like I fit in with my gender because I am still very feminine in the way I dress. But at the same time I as fit in with the boys because of my personality.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
i guess on the oustide, too, i fit in pretty well, but ive been a real tomboy before the age of let’s say…. 17? was wearing army pants, army boots, make-up was a foreign world to me. When i was in grade school i never saw point in Barbie doll and playing dressing up, bleh :P i was paying video games, climbing trees and doind mountain bike, not very popular amoung girls, i tell you :P
Now im completly addicted with make-up and clothing and i kinda go crazy when i spend a day with flats instead of high heels …. but… i still play video games a lot and hate little girl toys…. let aside Hello Kitty (because i’m japanese crazy :P)
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
I think for the most part I dress like the girly person I am. I love to wear dresses and tights. But then some days when I feel more laid back I’ll settle for my favorite jeans and a tank top. Although I must admit that guys’ clothes are probably the comfiest, so that’s an excuse to be boyish!
Also just to add in, it’s my 20th birthday on the 24th so I really hope I win!! Haha.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
really? awesome, the 24th is my 21st! Happy Early Birthday!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
gah sorry for the double post, can you delete the first one please? thank you ^^
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
When I was little, I was more of a tomboy, but today I absolutely love being girly. I love makeup, shopping, the color pink and dressing up. On the other hand, I do like a lot of more boyish things too; I love playing video games, and I drive a truck :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:09 pm
*thoughtful* i don’t. i’m technically transgendered–i am male, on the inside, and desire my outside to fit that.
but i have many stereotypical female behaviours and interests: first off, i sparkle. *wry* i cover myself in glitter and neon and pink is one of my absolute favourite colours and i gotta say, these giant neon green star-shaped earrings? they look FABULOUS on me, baby. second, i’m…maternal. i willingly take care of children, and i’d (really, really) LIKE one of ‘em for myself, but *waves hand* that can’t happen, so. i wear make-up and, say, read this blog. >_> i’m small and thin and (for the moment) female-SHAPED. and you really cannot pay me to cut my hair.
but i’m not a girl. i don’t get girls, i’m better off hanging with a group of boys, and aside from all the glitter my interests tend to stay on the typically male side. i don’t WANT to be called ’she’ or ‘her’ or whatever because it’s something i am violently violently NOT. *fumble* it’s hard to describe. i don’t feel female. i REALLY DO NOT FEEL FEMALE. and i don’t want to be treated as such because it feels wrong and weird and bad.
so.
i guess it’s kinda like in sandra fuhr’s old comic: “you can still be a guy and wear pretty socks.” i know who i am. who i am is a guy who sparkles and does well with young children.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:11 pm
I think on the outside sometimes I don’t fit. I wear a lot of unisex t-shirts and jeans and often very subtle make up. Inside, it’s a mix. I’m interested in typically male activities like first person shooting games, kickboxing and the like. At the same time however, inside I very much want to wear dresses and wear nice make up and love sewing my own clothes. I also have a great addiction to all things glittery.
Sometimes it can be very difficult as a lot of my outside look is based on fear of what my mom thinks and the inability to cope with her comments and ‘jokes’ while struggling inside to look and be what I want, which is the occasional jeans but also nice dresses, spiffy heels and intense eye make up. I think if on my own I would continue to often wear jeans and t-shirts but a lot more girl-ish things. So, in my own reality I think I would be a lot like you, girl-y on the outside but with plenty of boy-ish marshmallow (or maybe caramel, I always imagine boys as caramel) goodness.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:11 pm
Growing up, I just never had very much a concept that gender was something I should fit into. I played sports with my brothers at the same time I swooned over Taylor Hanson. Saying things to me like “girls just shouldn’t do that” is still something I absolutely cannot comprehend. Sometimes I’ll purposely rebel against people’s notions of what gender should look like, even though it’s not something I really spend a lot of time thinking about. (For example, I was contemplating shaving my head for the first time when I was 18 and my dad told me it wasn’t something girls should do…so I did it the next day. I just shaved it for my fourth time a few weeks ago, and I still wear makeup and pretty dresses and look damn good!) I don’t now, nor have I ever felt confused about fitting into one gender or the other. I just am!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
I am sort of in between. I love to wear pretty boho/ hippie skirts but I almost never wear makeup unless I decide to be goth that day. I’ve always been one of the guys and I kind of keep to myself. I’m bisexual and that also puts me my in the guy zone and it’s fun to go “girl spotting” with my husband and our guy friends.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:15 pm
I’m definately not what you would expect for a girl my age, personality wise. I am 15. While most girls my age are stressing over boys and perfect grades I’m at home writing, messing around with my appearance, and just getting to know myself. So, yes. I am girlish, I just don’t act my age. ;)
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
I’m a very logic person, how can i say, i’m not that emotional, not that cute, does not that fan of pink, love to talk about fantasy books,videogames, tv series *nerd* xD, not of everyone expect in girls, it had turn to me feel like a boy in a girl body sometimes, but i do love art, makeup and dressing up, etc.
And i’m the only person to think that boys should like it too. xD
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
I pretty much break all the rules for gender. For years my mum used to ask me if I was a lesbian, I’m not and I always found it funny.
Until recently I hated the color pink (now I’m kind of obsessed with it), I still wear some shirts from the men’s section, and gag at romance movies. I’ve definatly girled up over the past couple years, but I’m still the sort of girl who instead of screaming when I see a snake runs over to grab it.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
Doe,I am a female,I think I don’t fit evenly into either of the genders(male or female).I have to say it’s some what of a 50/50 cross if anything.I love to get dress up and wear false lashes,lipsticks in all shades,but sone times I feel more of a drag queen look when Im finished with my make up.Though I do love to wear one pieces and short dresses so days Ill feel a need for some cross dressing.I feel though fitting into your gender no one really can be exact because of how superficial it really is.we can’t all be Betty Crocker.But I leave you withy love oft raindow hair,ballet flats,short floral print dresses and of course unicorns.maybe I’m heading towards being a woman.oxox-Hannah
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
I am totally girly. I would never go out without makeup and I love everything that glitters. And skirts and dresses are just perfect for me.
And I love everything thats cute and girly. I just ordered new Munchkin cards, only because they glitter!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
I’m definitely not a girly-girl! Sure, sometimes I like being pretty and shopping and all that hullabaloo – but I think I fit more with boys than with girls. I like video games and getting dirty and making fart jokes. :p Girls seem to be put off by my being “abrasive” – when really I’m just a playing around, jokey type of person. I try to reject stereotypical gender roles – that because I’m a girl, I’m expected to like pink (hate it!) and be sweet and quiet at all times – I am not that person.
My girliest vice? I collect aprons, vintage mostly. And then I bake in them. :D
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Well, for the most part I act and think like a girl. I LOVE pretty things. However I am extremely low maintenance, dress very casually, and wear minimum amounts of makeup. I’ve never gotten my nails done, or colored my hair, and usually I’m always in desperate need of a hair cut.
I also live with two boys, so whenever I’m around them I am one of the guys. I really love pointless comedy and fart jokes, and I can be horribly perverted at times in a way that only men can be! I guess it really depends on who I am around at the time.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
I veer more towards male, but I still have very girly qualities. I love typical boy things like cars, video games, and copious amounts of raunchy porn.
But I also love make up and dresses and pastel colors, and other various girl things.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
I love to dress girly and wear bright pink lipstick and hot pink nails so i would say i am girly on the outside. I like the traditional roles of your the sweaty wood chopping male and im the tea sipping girly girl. However i do not always act like that, i make a point to keep a tomboy side that will pick up bugs and cuss like a sailor. just to even things out. too much of one thing can be bad.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
In terms of how I dress, I’m a girl. I don’t even own a pair of trousers and bows and frills make me so happy. I love to cook and love kittens, I wear pink and adore makeup. But everything else is questionable, I love football and wrestling, I prefer men or more androgynous women for friends, I love cross dressing men and I definetly prefer to see women naked. In fact as a photographer I exclusively
photograph women because I find them so much more beautiful.
So I think in terms of the female cliche I both fit it and break it, who needs gender stereotypes anyway? It’s much more fun just being me!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
On the outside, I’m very much a girl. No less than one pound of makeup, lace stockings, skirts, etc. But that’s the interesting thing with the Goth scene; boys can be boys, and boys can be girls, but there’s also lots of great aspects of fashion that naturally cross between gender bounds. For example, Goth men and women both love to wear eyeliner and some foundation, on occasion.
Inside, I’m quite tomboyish. I’ve always been able to tie my knots, build fires and shelters, and find my way in the wilderness. Hehe. Better than most boys, actually!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Wow, Doe Deere! I feel like I fit the description you gave for yourself. I’m super girly on the outside and love pink and fluffy things. But, I also have plenty of interests that are boyish and tend to get along better with guys.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:37 pm
I think I fit the typical gender expectations as I (like you) adore makeup and clothing and generally being a girl! However, sometimes I’m quite conflicted because I often feel that I’m too much of a girl and yet other times I feel that even though I’m very girly I still don’t represent society’s preferred image of a beautiful woman.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:37 pm
What an interesting question! I was a real tomboy until the age of about 15. I had short hair, wore baggy clothes and had no female friends! However, just after my 15th birthday I changed comletely. I became obsessed with the colour pink, spent all my money on makeup and clothes and grew my hair long and girly! Now at 17 I don’t own a single pair of trousers, and my room is painted gold and pink with glitter everywhere. My idols used to be people such as Bam Margera, whereas now they’re female superheroes such as Tarina Tarantino and of course you Doe :) I suppose in the end, although I still play videogames, my friends are all boys and I go quadbiking on a regular basis, I am a true girly girl, both inside and out! <3
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
I’m fairly normal, I’d say, but only because my weird qualities balance out the girly ones. I like to wear eye makeup and wear some feminine shirts, but I’m also a science nerd and sorely wish I had been blessed with male anatomy. I don’t consider myself very pretty and sometimes have minor self esteem issues, but in the kind of relationships I have, that is no issue. I love to draw and sing, and have been told I should consider illustration for children’s books.
Heh, I am me and as long as people accept that, it doesn’t matter!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
I am very much a girl. I love wearing dresses and interesting makeup, I also love pink and boys. Horror movies scares the crap out of me, it takes next to nothing to make me cry and I enjoy shopping way more than watching som silly football game on TV. When that is said, I’m not a typical “girly girl”, I’m more like a “no she didn’t girl”, but far from a boy (all though I have on several occations been mistaken for a boy, without makeup).
Great question!
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:44 pm
I guess I would say it’s a bit of a mix. Outwardly, I am usually found with painted nails and makeup. However, I am not a big fan of dresses and usually opt for super-baggy men’s jeans. Despite my distaste for traditional girly clothes, I am really into fashion and find ways to put a feminine twist on boyish clothing. The inside is pretty much the same story; I spend a great deal of my time reading fashion magazines and trying out makeup-tutorials. Although, I am also a huge fan of MMA fighting and working on cars.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
It very change with my mood and all… Sometimes i really feel like wearing makeup and taking time to do my hair, wearing my heels and feeling sexy. Some other day i just feel like a pair of olf running shoes and t-shirt. I like a lot of thing on the both side. One day i can be very female, the other day i’m playing video game all day long. So i really depends on my mood i guess. Also if i’ve been in a female mood for too long, i tend to have a “relax day” to act like a boy, and vice versa. It’s so a strange thing when we take the time to think about it! xD
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Sometimes I wish there were no genders in the world. There would be so much less confusion on how we are “supposed” to act or dress. Almost every day I find myself wishing that I could switch genders for just one day and see what it would be like. I do enjoy dressing more “boyish” on some days, because honestly it requires much less effort than dressing girly. On the other hand I love dressing up and putting on makeup and frilly dresses and feeling like a princess. I guess you could say I’m somewhere in the middle of my gender or that I change from day to day.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:55 pm
People have called me ‘the girliest girl they know’! But I’m very straightforward, and not afraid of bugs, haha.
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November 16th, 2009 at 2:56 pm
I very much so identify as a girl, but in my group of friends, most of them are guys. I am known as the girl who is almost one of the guys because I am the person they all come to for advice and to confide in. I am very much so a girl in terms of my personality, and I never really feel boyish, but I love being the girl in my group of guys. The best way I have ever heard myself be described is if my friends went on a trip they would want me there because I am a good time and I am not a typical girl, but i would also be the responsible one and make sure they eat.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
I wear frilly dresses, I shop obsessively, I text like crazy, and I explode on the inside when I see something cute. However, I also love off-roading, playing fps games, watching (and shouting at!) boxing matches, and dressing in “drag”–fake moustaches and eyebrows included! I was a major tomboy growing up, and that is a part of me I never want to let go of :] but I am still down for mega gossip over some coffee with girlfriends!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
i am… not quite sure actually! on the outside i be a bright frilly colourful mess, studying makeup and interested in fashion and kittens and whatnot but i definitely love getting my hands dirty and making things-i really want to start in metalwork. or at least jewelry haha! between me and my best friend, im the harsher, ruder, gutsier one more likely to chill in a hoodie and jeans… and hes the boy! so im a bit of both. just a bit girlier on the outside. but thats not to say im not girly in the inside too…
on a completely non gender specific note, where the hell is the apostrophe key?! i downloaded a new internet browser app on my phone and theres no apostrophe wtf!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
I am probably a good in-between on this. I love to dress up, but I love to wear work boots and jeans (I usually am dressed up), and I’m both a giant sissy brat, and much tougher than a lot of girls I know. It really just depends on my mood!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:04 pm
I think I’m more on the girly side… Even if I wear mostly pants, and a LOT of black, I adore anything that is pink and sparkles. Eheh ^^ I dislike sports very much, as well as most “boyish” activities…
PS: I LOVE a girly boy! <3 So pretty!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
Hm… well I am a lolita, so I dress very girly, but I do not like to use products or heat stylers in my hair, or to put makeup on every day… I DO love to do nails though… so maybe I am a mixture?
Mostly I hang out with only guys (I didn’t even realize that until someone pointed out that in all the photos I took of my outings, I was the only girl…), which I think is fun but then I feel bad to go look too long in the Hello Kitty store or clothes stores!
It is hard to say what is “girl” and what is “boy”, so in the end, I hope that I am just happy!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:09 pm
I’m a mix =] While I’m actually very cute and cuddly I’m also one of the guys, and that’s the way it’s always been for me. Even as a kid I had a Barbie and an Action Man. Nowadays I hang out with as many girls as I do boys, I relish female company for mutual love of shopping, make up and boys, but also male company for talk of video games, comic books and “guy” films =D I’m pleased to find that both genders are happy to be silly and immature or wise and worldly at different times. Ah, the best of both!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
I love dressing up, and wearing make up. You know, all that girl stuff. But then some of my style is ‘boyish’. I love shaved heads, I have a shaved patch in my hair. I would just love to have a Mohawk one day. I do not get along with girls, very well. I’m mostly friends with guys or girls that act like guys. Also when I was younger I thought of myself as a boy trapped in a girls body. I even asked my Mother if God sometime makes mistakes and puts boys in girls body’s. So, I guess I’m just a little more boyish. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
LOVE cross dressing! I’m always wearing my boyfriends clothes head to toe! I don’t know why I like doing that so much, it just feels right and call me crazy but I think it looks GOOD on me. Having said this, no matter how manly my clothes are I always wear my hair in a girly style and wear lots of make-up! and I love dressing feminine for special occasions.
Personality wise I like to think I possess the best stereotypically female and male traits hehe. Oh – I can’t get enough of pink and disney princess’s though!
So i’m a really manly girly girl or something.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
My personality is a 50/50 split: I love doing makeup and wearing ridiculous lace and frills, and am also completely at home in ruddy flip flops, boxers, and zombie t-shirts. I’m incredibly sensitive at times and brash and blunt the next. And, though I love my body, I do occasionally wish I had a smaller (if not non-exsistant) bust and less curves; that I could be more androgynous. I don’t follow most gender stereotypes, and I really wouldn’t have it any other way. C:
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Interesting question!
I would have to say i am most definetly a girly girl, i never really showed any interest in boys things. Not boys toys or cartoons. Perhaps i am almost sickly sweet. In fact i act like a little girl way below my years, i think i cling to my gender of female because its the only thing that i feel is correct about me. I sometimes wonder, how life would be if i were a boy but i just can’t imagine it because i so suit being a girl. It is most definetly in my nature, i have never had moments where i wished i were a boy, nor have i ever been a tom-boy in the slightest, because i just love being a girl. It is strange though, that i happen to hang around with girls who are very much tom-boys. Funny that, they always laugh at the things i like ( in a good natured way). When i ask them why they are like that they just insist that although they are tom-boys they do have their girly moments. I do understand some people who are quite boyish or even those who want to change their gender but i don’t feel that way personally although to imagine being a girl and wanting to be a boy or vise versa makes my heart ache, how horrible must that be? But i am most certainly, without a doubt a true girl. Unicorns, Fairies, pink the lot :L Girliest girl you could meet!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
Well, my favourite color is pink, i love make up, glitters, and cute things, but i play to video games, i’m a sort of “geek” i know a lot of things about a computer, i love movie with action i’m geek and girly ! haha
I’m a girl, with man brain -but sometimes i don’t understand my boyfriend at all!- xD
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
Despite the dozens of dresses and heels in my closet, I’m a total boy on the inside! I love dressing feminine and pretty, but no matter how I look, I’ll always be down for a game of touch football or wrestling with my boy. I love any sort of physical game and I’m not afraid to get rough, even if the ruffles on my dress get dirty! When I was younger, I was all boy, inside and out. As I matured however, I began to love to express my feminine and girly side but, no matter how much I love to look dainty, I can’t resist any sort of tom-boyish wrestling or rough housing!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
Well, I am a bit like you to be honest. They say I look like the most feminine female they’ve ever seen, harmless and cute and princess of glitter all in one.
On the inside, however, I feel nothing, nothing at all like a woman. I am ambitious and strong and optimistic and I never cry. When tragedy strikes, I’m the one to take things under control and make the right decision. I won’t let go nor show my femme-ish side (i.e. panicking, crying, breaking down…) until the situation is resolved. I’m also the one to keep my family together when it seems to be falling apart, the one who will do anything it takes to help others, even if that leads me to jobs that are completely unglamorous!
I also get insterested in subjects that girls often put aside, such as philosophy, politics, business… one day I dream of founding my own photography studio and open franchises all over Europe, as it will create imges in a register never seen before.
When I say this to people they go like «wohoo… you sound nothing like the girly girl who first seemed to be!»
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:22 pm
Most people say I am a boy on the inside.
They say my apartment is a single young man’s apartment.
I’ts always cluttered and messy, undone dishes everywhere, my fridge is empty except for ketchup and some beers, and I own a huge ass TV and videogame consoles.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Very interesting question.
As someone who’s questioning (possibly bisexual) I’ve put a lot of thought into this issue. I’ve always been “one of the guys” and had a much easier time relating with them. I do love fashion and make-up although I tend to use make-up in a more subtle way (I love your make-up posts because I like to do my friend’s make-up really outrageous for them). I dress in a tom boy style, although I have am very curvy. I constantly find myself attracted to boyish looking girls and girlish looking boys…I’m not really sure why that is. I find girls more aesthetically pleasing, but I have a stronger physical attraction to boys. Although outwardly it may look like I don’t really identify with my gender, I do. I feel that being a girl is more about being complex and tender and emotional…not about loving sparkles and kittens (although that’s part of it too!)
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:24 pm
It has basically been decided by my friends that I am a gay man that’s also a drag queen in a woman’s body. I love looking fabulous, but frankly I don’t understand my fellow women most of the time.
I have a very aggressive personality. I like violence, guns, gore, and other manly things. If you make me angry, I let you know without doing that weird “I’m not going to tell you why I’m mad but I’m mad at you” thing. I’m very logical and not swayed by emotions at all. Cry your argument at me, and I’ll shoot you down. Format a clear and logical argument, and we’re good. Innuendo is my friend and I have no problem just flat out saying something suggestive. And I kill my own damn spiders.
On the other hand, I love glitter and shiny and bright colors and tacky. And shoes, I have quite the shoe addiction. It creates an odd picture to see me all dolled up in a pretty red dress, striped socks, red flats with buckles, eyes done up big, with huge earrings, but then I start talking about how the blood spatter in Pulp Fiction is atrocious, and that The Usual Suspects did a much more accurate job. And then I see a moose stuffed animal and go squeeeee!
I tend to confuses boys a lot, yet have lots of male friends. The general ruling is that while they would have sex with me, they’d never date me because it would be like dating a bro. Fortunately my boyfriend doesn’t think that.
In conclusion, I just like having boobs. A lot.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:26 pm
I am similar to your explanation in that I love to dress super feminine and LOVE hot pink! Although I have always got a long better with guys or with the other girls that do the same. It’s often that guys joke with me about my male response to things. And I also am attracted to ambiguity especially in men. I enjoy when they are “metro” and have feminine tendencies. I dated a cross dresser and a drag queen before. What can I say? hahaha
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
Lets see
I spend all my time on a pc, I spend all my time playing MMO’s (world of warcraft) on my pc, i built my pc my self, I work in IT and im a technician, and my office is all men apart from me. I drink pints and down shots. I’m not girly girly but damn I cant get enough make up!!!
I never wear skirts always trousers!
Oh and im a full Geek :D And proud of it hehe
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:33 pm
I have a very manly sence of humor and I get along very well with boys of all ages because of it.
But I concider myself a girly-girl, I only wear dresses and skirts, I love shoes and sparkly everything, when I am sad I eat chocolate. I’m a girl.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
I’m quite the ambiguous girl. I dress in biker-ish/rocker/meatal-head style clothes (biker boots, band shirts, leather spiked wrist bands etc…) but always wear bright colorful eyeshadow and lipstick and have very very long hair. One day I dress my usual masculin way and the next I’m in a frilly dress. People have told me that I’m very perplexing. On the inside I have many personality traits and attributes that are considered very masculine: Dominent, ambitious, ruggid, ruthless yet on the feminine side I’m very nurturing and kind. I’m happy being ambiguous because I get the best of both worlds.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
I think gender is mostly a social construct & don’t really subscribe to the belief that there is an existing binary to ‘play into’.
For instance, while I know there are qualities given to both the stereotypical male & female, I would much rather create a new idea – a new archetype where it is permissible for anyone to take part in whatever qualities speak to them.
I identify as a woman. I am capable of pretty much anything.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
I have steadily been getting more girly since I came to college. (and its not because of boys! >\ )
I am an incredibly lazy person, and never had much use or inclination to spend time making myself look good every day. I still don’t in fact, but it is happening more often lately.
I don’t like to consider myself “boyish” though, because I rather dislike boys, and many things associated with them, however I do have many, what would be considered ‘boyish’ tendencies.
I don’t think i could ever become truly girly, rather it is something I appreciate and will occasionally indulge in, just like boyish things and triple chocolate mousse cakes.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
I think that I’m on the border… At school, I feel alot more boyish, its the enforced uniform and the fact that all the other girls are the stereotypical girl… With my own friends outside school I feel alot more feminine, I never really know why.
Love your website :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
This is probably the greatest question that I’ve seen you ask since the book question…wasn’t that last month? :D
Anyway, this question is one I get asked so many times as to why I love androgyny. Why do I do it? Why do I preffer being around guys, why is it imperative to me to be tomboyish.
I never had fit in with my gender, I always wanted to play baseball (not softball), I wanted to play with ninja turtles, but not April, I wanted to be Michelangelo, I wanted to be Gambit, not Rouge when playing X-Men with the neighborhood boys. Even as an adult, I find myself dressing more like a girl, putting make up on, and such, but I never lost that touch of masculinity as I teach my students the importance of Superheros as a political cartoon, and how my wonderful boyfriend smiles when I talk about how much I hate my big boobs. He said that he’s happy to have a girl who likes video games, comic books, and the occasional Professional Wrestling tournaments! Being a girl rocks!
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Melinda Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
ps. I enjoy the fact that I love killing the spiders that plauge my boyfriend day and night…even the cockroaches! But the ferret likes killing those!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:44 pm
According to what society thinks “girly” is i think i fit that pretty well. I love makeup and clothes so much. However…I find that I love to prove how strong I am and do not act weak and hang out with the boys. I never have really liked girls. I end up disliking people too much like me. It’s not that I dislike myself, it’s a clash. I don’t want to be a boy because girls have so much stuff! But if i was a boy I’d be the Jeffree Star type. I’d be a gay boy because I’m into boys haha.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:45 pm
im a girl! and want to be more girly. so yeah, never wanted to be a boy. im just me! but i have always wanted to be more girly, so yeah.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
I fit in pretty well with the girls :)
I do have a couple things I do that are slightly boy-ish though. For example: video games and how much I burp!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:47 pm
I fit pretty well within my gender. I like girly things, jewelry, and clothes. I have my light moments and sometimes like to be ditsy.
I have another side of me too though, I’m very academic, pretty much collecting degrees and going into what was traditionally thought of as a male career. The fact that I’m more into the sciences than literature is also more masculine. I enjoy having an intellectual conversation and can argue with the best of them.
I guess that’s what’s so confusing about me. I look like a girlie girl on the outside and sometimes act like one but if you assume I’m stupid, you’re in for a big surprise.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
I was raised very unspecifically concerning gender roles, I played with toy cars and LEGO and I always hated, pink, purple, dresses, horses and ponys and I never wanted to be a princess when i dressed up in Carnival. I wanted to be a pirate, or a Leopard. My mum asked me if i wanted to take ballet-lessons, i refused. Until the age of about 17 i was quite ungirly, had no boyfriend, didnt use makeup and was happy with my pocket knife in my tent rather than while shopping.
then i somehow discovered my sexuality, the nice parts of my body and how men react on me wearing certain things and looking certain ways. i played with that but never did it really seriously.
and when i started to go the goth way i really discovered new ways of femininity that were not appearing weak or adjusted or slinky to men but that were so much more of a true… bloom of the strong sides of femininity. a feminine beauty that was not dependent from the existence of the other sex, but autonom and standing for itself. I loved this kind of beauty and decided that this is the way i wanna be and the way i want to show my body and my own personality. so i might be quite unspecific for a woman as expected by society, but at the same time i feel like a real woman in every way.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Up until I was about 15, my gender identity was a very confused thing for me. I would constantly wear baggy jeans and a tshirt, with the whole ‘ewww, gross’ reaction to skirts or dresses. I shunned makeup and was insistant on liking ‘boys’ things, I watched wrestling and played football. I didn’t want people to see me as this obvious little girl. My friends were mostly boys and I didn’t want them to not like me.
Then one day I became what I guess is a typical girl, I stopped caring about how others saw me. I now ONLY wear skirts or dresses, I own ONE pair of jeans which I only wear when the majority of my other clothes are ready for washing. I wear makeup constantly, I enjoy doing my hair and since starting university I could be described as a proper little housewife. I love to cook for my flatmates and I clean without grumbling. In fact, doing the washing up calms me down!
I much more enjoy being ‘girly’ if I’m honest! I feel more like ME!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
I am a girl and while I can show my girlish side I also show my boyish side just as much. I love my jeans and t-shirts, cars, hanging with the guys, and playing video games. But just the same I love to wear pretty dresses, makeup, high heels, and painting my nails all sorts of colors. I think if you aren’t a bit of both, it would be hard to understand men and women. I look like I fit into my gender well but in my actions I seem to be more guy minded. And I’m happy with both of my sides.
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
As a computer programmer, I’m in a male-dominated field, and 85% of my friends are dudes. I play video games and watch football and my fingernails see more dirt than nail polish. I loooove to admire girly things like dresses and makeup, but I never wear them because I’m “one of the guys.” I don’t even own any makeup other than mascara and lip gloss. I’m happy with my life and the way that I am, but I often fantasize about being a pretty pretty princess :-)
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:58 pm
I used to be very dead-set against doing things that were stereotypically “girly,” because I hated being told what to do and who to be. Now that I’m more grown up, though, I appreciate so many things on both sides of the spectrum that I don’t really bother to label them anymore. And I like changing my style of dress depending on how I’m feeling on a given day– sometimes I’ll pull of a menswear look, some days I’l do a fun skirt and heels, sometime it’s jeans and a t-shirt. It’s more fun to incorporate everything than to exclude something because of other’s expectations, I’ve learned!
Ps– great question!
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I’m a metalhead, which automatically means I’m attracted to more “boyish” things. Metal is all about freedom, fighting for what you believe in, and (male) cameradierie. My husband says of all the girls he dated, I’ve been the easiest to get along with because I THINK like he does.
In saying that, I have an awesome group of female metalhead friends. We all go shopping together and ooh and aah over corsets and eat too much chocolate. Generally, I self-identify as a “metalhead” first, rather than a gender.
It’s a strange world :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I must say that I am a very girly girl. I like all the girliest stuff like pink, makeup and hat breaking a nail ;)
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:02 pm
This is a very interesting question, especially since I am studying anthropology and sociology. Our gender ideals are set on us from the time we are born. Boys get blue, girls get pink. Girls get an easy bake oven and dolls, boys get trucks and army men. It goes on from there. I find it difficult to believe that anyone can fit in to either of these gender stereotypes.
While many of these stereotypes seem to no longer apply to society most people still expect men to be the big strong protectors, while women cook and clean, etc… I still hear boys make “Get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich” jokes all the time, which proves that these outdated ideals are still in the forefront of many people’s minds.
Now that my speech is done (sorry, couldn’t help it!) I can answer.
Of course I don’t! I may be obsessed with makeup and enjoy skirts and play dress up but I don’t need a man to protect me. I see myself as capable of fending for myself in any environment and certainly don’t see much cleaning in my future! (but cooking is a passion of mine) When I was little I was given Barbies, but I always took my brother’s action figures when I wanted to play. I see myself fitting into both the female and male roles that we are conditioned to believe in.
Sorry about the essay, I just finished writing two of them and I am still in that mindset…
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
I have always been ‘one of the guys’. I can go on for hours having in-depth conversations about more male-oriented things, like comic books, Dungeons and Dragons, and what-have-you. For example, this summer, I found myself hanging out with my guy friends more than my girl friends, and we would play videogames (which I suck at), and play D&D. I was the only girl in the group, and played the only girl. So, both myself and my character would get picked on in that loving way, while at the same time, I know the guys in game and out of game would do ANYTHING for me, and not hesitate to kill someone if something happened to me, and I’d do the same for them. At the same time, though, I’m very feminine. I love dressing up, shoes, makeup, all these things. I care about how I look, and I love doing the more typical feminine things (to every D&D game, I’d bring a new baked good I’d whipped up especially for the guys) and make sure I looked good, even if I had known these guys since I started school and they’d seen me without makeup on more than one occasion. So I really think, that when it comes to gender stereotypes, I fit in pretty well with both. I wrestle with my brothers, and then I’ll go shopping with my sister. And you know what? I wouldn’t change a thing.
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SaffronSugar Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
Kudos for the comic books! My personal favorite is Deadpool : D
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Shea Wheatley Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
Deadpool is awesome! I’m an X-Man girl, when it comes down to it, so I gotta have love for Deadpool.
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Becca Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 7:48 am
Ahhh Deadpool! Hilarious character. Although nothing beats X-men. Well, apart from Sandman…
Katharine Fleming Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 1:45 am
Yay! Another D&D girl! Finally! I play mith my boyfriend and all his friends, so I am often (but not always) the only girl playing.
Good to see that there are more of us out there!
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
I would say I fall ever so slightly on the boy’s side of the fence…but that doesn’t mean to say I don’t like to hop frantically between the two. I think I also grow into my femininity with age and experience.
Being a mummy really brings out my femme persona and I love my natural maternal instincts and the way they influence everything, from my style to my house to the words I use each day. I’ve long admired very feminine style but have always just found it easier to dress like a boy (and stare longingly at windows full of heels and diamonds). Perhaps I am a gay man trapped in a woman’s body?
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
Yes, quite a bit. I’ve always been a bit of a tomboy – when I was little I remember beating up my male classmates on occasion (they always started it, though.). These days I like typical “guy” things like violent video games, bbq ribs at Hard Rock Café and classic rock music :) Though I really think those should be general “people” things rather than “man” things. Visually, I rather like androgynous fashion, like men’s slacks, blazers, tailored lace-up shoes and fedoras. One of the things I want most in the world is a pinstripe suit!
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Lexi Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
I, TOO, WANT A PINSTRIPE SUIT :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:05 pm
I think I am pretty much a girl through and through! Anything that glitters or sparkles, I LOVE, fairies, make up, dressing up… If I had been born a boy I would definitely have been the campest guy around!
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
For a long time I was really butch, but lately I’ve taken to wearing makeup and girlier clothes. I wear my hair short (shorter than my boyfriend!) but I don’t have a crew cut or anything. Ironically, when I was dressing more “boyishly” I had long hair, go figure. I love to look good and I love being a woman, but I don’t strive to be feminine or girly. I just do and wear what I like, and sometimes that results in me appearing or acting more traditionally “masculine”. For example, I’m a Computer Science major. In America at least, CS is probably one of the most male-dominated fields in existence. Not like the presidency or anything, but still.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
I’ve always wanted to be a princess! I love to dress super feminine and I always try to behave as well as I can. On the other hand I like many things which are considered “boyish”: sports, computers, gadgets… I even work as a software engineer. I also enjoy hanging out with my guy friends as much as I enjoy spending time with other girls. But does it really make me less feminine?
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
I think I am pretty much a girl through and through! Anything that glitters or sparkles, I LOVE, fairies, make up, dressing up… If I had been born a boy I would definitely have been the campest guy around!!
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
I think I’m a perfect oo faced coin.
Even though I can be the girliest girl ever, and wear makeup and do my hair everyday, and all that fun stuff, I must admit that I tend to “think” like a man: I tend to solve problems with my logic and not emotions (which is, supposedly, more of a manish behaviour), and when it comes to it I can be such a business man.
However, this is how women are behaving like more and more with each passing day.
In the end it all comes to adapting to the momment =)
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
I both have a girlish and boyish side; I love clothing and fashion, I dance belly dance, like to be glamorous, talk about feelings and that kinda stuff but I also play football (soccer), love boxing, sometimes have burping competitions (not very glamorous!) and I don’t mind getting filthy if I’m out in the forest… What sides I show to others all depends on who I’m with and what mood I’m in (though I’m more often in the girly mood). In general there are lots of conflicting qualities in me, I’m shy and confident, optimistic and melancholic etc and it sometimes makes it hard for me to know who I am.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Well, I like all things girly – I do like to dress up, put on make up and buy lovely dresses. Also, I love to regularly change my hair color and all that. I too enjoy shopping and chit-chatting with my bests, but still, I’m often told, emotionally I’m more like a boy: I tend to not talk about my emotions and have a pretty… well, lax view on love and marriage.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
When you see me for the first time, you probably think I’m a girly girl with my colorful outfits, lots of pink and purple, my hair and makeup are always done. And basically everything I like is something girls like (example, hello kitty, flowers, bunnies, my little pony)
But I’m also very boyish too. I have a lot of facial peircings, which i know a lot of people don’t find feminine. I have the sense of humour of a guy (bodily functions are still so funny, and im almost 19)
I also have a lot of guy friends, so I’m used to being around them so if a hot girl walks buy, i’ll make a comment to them about her.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
You know, I’m not entirely sure if I fit or not. For me, my experience of the female gender role is changing constantly. When I was in elementary school I was pretty girly, always playing dress up and such. Middle school, I really felt that I was more of a “tomboy” and I would be posing in front of the mirror flexing what little muscles I had. :)
High school, some of the same, but near the end I got a bit more girly again, but in a different way. It was like…Instead of pink-and-dresses I was more of a blue-girl? I mean that I was feminine, but perhaps leaning more towards what could be considered lesbian tendencies.
Now that I’m in college, I feel like a totally comfortable mix of feminine and perhaps again what many would consider a lesbian “butch” tendency. Some days I want to wear a dress and mascara and flirt….other days baggy pants and a sweatshirt.
I think I can say that with each day I am more comfortable in my own skin. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
I was just doing a research paper on gender identity! This is too cool.
Anyway, I’m a girl, and I don’t think I fit either mold. I don’t fit with guys, and I don’t fit with girls. I’m just kinda there.
I’m “too tall” (5′9″, probably taller, actually, as I’m taller than a baseball player who claims to be 5′10″) and I’m much more interested in girls than boys, while I really get along better with guys and boyish girls than boys. I can’t stand chick flicks (for the most part). And if I wouldn’t get in trouble for it, I would totally get a mohawk in a second.
But at the same time, I like wearing skirts, playing up my female physique (I’m darn proud of my big boobs and hips), and wearing makeup. And I have the most amazing mothering instincts (half the time my friends call me Mommy). I don’t really care for senseless violence or toilet humor, and when I see a sad movie, I cry (which is almost every movie I see, as I like psychological/philosophical/gay movies).
And I’m really interested in transsexual/transgender studies. It fascinates me. And I ADORE drag queens. We have two cops at our school who do drag at the gay bar on Friday nights, and I always want to go talk to them, but I chicken out, haha.
All-in-all, gender roles have never made that much sense to me. Why should what’s in your pants decide your whole future, you know? :P
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Lexi Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Oh, and I like being the one driving and spoiling my partner in a relationship.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
On the outside yes. I dress femininly and I like it. I also have a lot of ‘girly’ tastes. But I’m a mathematician which is typically associated with men and I’m told I have a somewhat boyish outlook with respect to friends, relationships, and such.
Its a complicated matter, but I’m comfortable with both aspects of myself.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:22 pm
oh!
i’m definitely over the top girly girl!
cant help it. frilly dresses and lots of makeup just seem to be the best for my personality.
and i feel like a girl too. wich is really great. i actually used to play with only boys when i was little. i actually didn’t have any friends who were girls! xD
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:24 pm
on the outside, I definately appear to be super feminine. but that is partly because I just enjoy clothes and dressing, so I put a lot of thought into it. however, I have mostly masculine ideals and interests, and I cannot relate to the majority of women.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:29 pm
I can’t say I’m very girly at all. I mean occasionally once and a while I’ll feel pretty and want to dress up in more then a pair of blue jeans and an outrageous top and put on a dress or skirt. But those are few and far between.
I’ve been hit on by girls that thought I was a guy at certain points in my life and I have no problem with dressing more masculine and pulling it off. Its fun at the very least. I like that I can straddle that line of male and female.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
All throughout high school my parents called me androgynous. I took it as an insult because I knew they meant it as an insult. But, if called that now I wouldn’t mind.
Although, I wouldn’t be considered androgynous now, I’m not necessarily overly feminine either. I spit, I burp, and I swear just like all of my guy buddies. I play violent, zombie video games, and I watch hockey on the TV. I’m not very fashion forward (more of a fashion failure if you ask me), and mostly wear jeans, simple shirts, and a pair of beat up vans. I’m also clueless on how to style my hair or put on make up, so I usually avoid those task too. (I suppose that’s the stereotypical boy).
That being said, I love pink, glitter, fairies, kittens, dandelions and I dream about one day being able to wear high heeled shoes! I love watching Moulin Rouge (Ewan McGregor makes me swoon) and the Food Network. And, baking gives me the warm fuzzies. All of which I usually associate with some sense of femininity.
I suppose for me it depends on the day or the weather or how I’m feeling if I want to fit in with my gender or not.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
Honestly I don’t fit very well with humans period. XD
Though as far as gender goes.. I’m really REALLY girlish.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:37 pm
I don’t “fit” within my gender very well. I don’t (at least not currently) dress like the “typical” girl. I wear lots of dark colours. I have no and don’t need no sexual orientation. I am not “clean” to certain peoples standards. I fit no mold but my own. I am learning how not to struggle with this.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:40 pm
I think that how well you fit in with your ‘gender stereotype’ is something that changes as you grow. In my experience anyway. I used to be a huge tomboy, would only wear dresses when made too (but when I did I realised I loved them) and would rather play with my brother than my sister, and in the sand with cars etc. As I grew up it was a continuing theme, but without as much resistance to ‘girly’ things. By the time I was about 16 I was in full girl mode, though!
Now, as a mother of a baby girl, I am more girly than ever!! Possibly on my daughters behalf… Anything girly and cute, pink or aqua, Marie Antionette themed gets bought and put in her room. Cupcakes, nesting dolls, shoes (my baby literally has more shoes than I do) and ribbons are a must have in my life now!
And if my little girl ever decides she’s a tomboy, she’s perfectly welcome to hand me over all her girly stuff, lol!
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
I think I tend to look more girly on the outside then I am on the inside but I think I am evenly matched between boy & girl qualities.
On the girl side, I am a bit high maintenance (I don’t go out makeup less often and you won’t find me camping or stayign at places with community bathrooms) and I love shopping, doing makeup, doing my hair, cute Japanese toys (I collect hello kitty & tokidoki items) and fun clothes.
On the other side I love androgynous looks, LOVE horror movies and gore, love books/movies about serial killers (forensics and forensic psychology facinates me), playing video games, and reading comics. Also growing up, most of my friends were guys. Girls were too catty for me. Even today, my closest friends are guys. I also chopped off my hair into a pixie cut when I was in my early 20s.
Oh yeah, I also hate to cook. My bf does all the cooking in our place. Role reversal much? :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
I almost fit the typical girl gender. I have bows, clips, makeup, dresses, etc for girl type things. I wear them almost all the time. However, I fit the boy gender role as well. I have no problem walking around in basketball shorts, sometimes I let the hair on my legs grow because I’m not going anywhere for that time, I also mess around with computers, and I don’t mind getting things in the house fixed with my handy hammer. I feel a little crazy since I like both boy and girl things but then again I can get a lot of my to do list done all on my own!
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
I am neither!
I am the girl in grunge and rock and punk rock clothes and I am also the girl in frilly dresses and skirts. I am a fighter, I am gentle, I am brave and strong and beautiful.
In a time when we came be everything we dream of you cant expect us to fit any role, because we are making our own! ^-^
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
I think that all gender stereotypes in themselves are just as pointless as all other stereotypes. Gender traits should not be made in broad generalizations and it is sad that society does not teach us this at a young age. Crossing over into a “gender specific” way of dressing or acting although being less shocking today it will always be a point of discomfort to our society as a whole.
that being said, i do consider myself to follow certain stereotypical standards of being male and female. I find that my method of thought is typically more of a masculine based one. I generally am pretty forward and in your face which usually ends up with me saying what most people would consider inappropriate. A lot of swearing and dirty jokes and all around pretty shocking behavior (for a female). On top of that i spend a lot of time with guys, which has lead to a pretty male outlook on how i act. A night of hanging out regularly ends in wrestling matches and i am always waking up in the morning covered in bruises.
I kind of unconsciously make up for the fact that i do not act feminine by dressing in a hyper feminine fashion. I wear heels and skirts and dresses six out of seven days a week. I refuse to leave the house without my hair and makeup done and i love to shop.
I dont really think that my actions make me any less of a woman, but i am constantly being told that I am a “man” in other peoples eyes. People seem to need to make sense of others by labeling them as representing a certain gender (subculture, age, etc.). It is a coping mechanism to make others seem less threatening. I do not think that this needs to stop, I only ask that people pay attention and make their own observations separate from that of societies.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
I’m in most ways the typical girl. I love pink, glitter, kitties, Marie Antoinette, and cupcakes, almost to the point of it being painful. You’re more likely to find me baking or styling someone’s hair then you ever would near a more “male” oriented activity. But, there are exceptions to this “female” category I fall under. I love gore. Horror movies make me giggle, slasher films bring an odd joy to my day. I’d rather watch that then a love story any day. And I tend to get along better with guys, as we have similar outlooks on relationships, friendships and life in general. Most of my guy friends love that I don’t believe that every couple should be monogamous to be happy. I also have short hair, and prefer it that way. I’m an odd balance of more masculine beliefs and am more feminine in how I carry myself and how I appear.
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
i’ve alway been a tomboy. when i was little my family used to joke that all i needed was a little penis (haha) and i would be a boy. i always loved to get dirty and play rough… i didn’t even start wearing makeup until i was 16 and even then i only used mascara. but, as the years go by the girlier and girlier i become. i still for the most part stick to skinny jeans and a simple top but, i feel as i get older i become more in touch w/ my femininity and the power of my looks/body.
i think it took so long for me to get here because for so long i was uncomfortable with my body. wearing a sweatshirt and jeans hides the imperfections so much better than a dress..since leaving my teen years behind i have dropped 40lbs and instead of the plain old mascara and sweatshirt i opt for skinny jeans, fitted top, my signature sexy red knee high boots,and of course i never go out w/out putting on some eyeliner, mascara, and of course my shimmer dust (absolute necessities).
i still love the boy stuff: dirtbiking,football (my love),shooting guns,old cars & motorcyles (grew up on the back of my dad’s Harley) but i am also way more in touch w/ the inner raver-diva that was suppressed for so long!
i love being a girl and almost everything that comes with it! <333
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November 16th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
I’m pretty girly most of the time, although I have a huge love for wearing mens business attire. Sometimes I feel like girls are too catty and high maintenance to be like me, but sometimes I am also catty and high maintenance! So I think I’m a good mix of the two. I also find androgyny beautiful and artistic, but would not want to be mistaken for a boy…
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
i fit in as a girl because i am pretty feminine. my body shape is womanly with my larger hips. i dress pretty girly too and i love buying clothes. i like my little domestic crafts & baking.
but growing up, i was such a tomboy! and some of these things really stuck with me. i like making messes, getting dirty, and making noise. the reason i prefer wearing dresses is to not have to worry about putting together an outfit and basically just wear a big shirt.
so i am really a mix that i am very happy with, best traits of both genders!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
Sure, I love dressing up and doing all that fun girly stuff, but I also like to dress in a somewhat masculine manner. I’m not exactly a cuddly person – in the sense that I don’t give free hugs and in the sense that I’m a nice, friendly warm individual. I’m always polite and respectful, but being a bubbly, charming type clashes with my personality. I also love action movies like no other…guns and GUNS – moar! And I’m a geek girl. I love math, physics…all that fun stuff. I think it’s sad that there aren’t more girls in the sciences. In my Physics AP class, there are 5 females in a class of 30 D:
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
I’d say I’m pretty much a girl, inside and out :P However, I wouldn’t call myself girly, per se. I’m not a huge fan of dresses and skirts, I’m more of a jeans and sweater kinda gal. And most sweaters I wear are from the men’s section – they get all the comfortable ones! I love makeup though, so and that way I guess I would call myself girly (*cringe* I hate that word!). I definitely like the boys, but I’m not much of a flirt (by which I mean I’m not a flirt at. all).
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
Because I’m a makeup artist, and a shoe and bag fan, people often assume I’m a girly-girl, but honestly, I’m far from it. I would even have clasified myself as a bit of a tomboy growing up. Nowadays, I despise “chick flicks”, romance novels, and fashon TV. I’m much happier reading sci-fi, graphic novels or watching a good comedy movie. I’ve actually been described as a man’s woman, which is fine with me.
Do my likes and dislikes make me any less womanly? Of course not, because like most women, I refuse to fit into a stereotypical mold, and instead prefer to define my own womanhood!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
I LOVE fashion, makeup, and all things girly! So, in that sense, I am a typical girl. But, I am also very competitive and I love sports. So, I am a little bit of both!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:08 pm
My personality and style are the epitome of girly. My general interests, however, seem to always resonate better with the guys. I think that is why I get along better with guys than girls as friends. A buddy of mine once said “Geez Cindy, you are like one of the guys, only you get to wear a dress and it’s okay.”
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
I think I’m very girly in the typical sense. I don’t like slumber parties, romance movies/novels and I’m not very motherly. Most of friends are males because I feel like I click with them more. I don’t like pink, frilly cute things but at the same time, I love wearing tight clothes, mini dresses and heels.
It’s an odd combination. Sometimes I feel like I don’t in anywhere.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:10 pm
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
I am a girl and right now I certainly look very modern-girly but I have always been a bit of a tomboy on the inside. I’ve never felt like my gender was truly separated into “female”, and as such I find it incredibly easy to hold down conversations with guys without coming across as “flirty” or “easy”. I love androgynous fashion so for a long time my hair was cut ‘boy short’ and I would frequently be mistaken for a “little boy” or “sir”. People who knew me said I was a beautiful boy, which was a huge compliment to me! I love men, and I think that’s why I love to emulate them in my own feminine way (similar to Ed Wood dressing like a woman and being straight).
A lot of it comes from my favorite musicians: David Bowie, Mick Jagger, Marc Bolan, Adam Ant, Freddie Mercury—who all had a certain je ne sais quois about them that made them beautiful and androgynous. Not to mention all that glitter certainly adds a lot of GLEE!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
I fit in both genders, actually. I am a 50% mix of both. I am often seen wearing a button up men’s dress short and vest, blue jeans, boy shoes. I often put my hair up and let my bangs go where they may, if I even bother with my hair. I love playing football and Halo. I love comic books and actually learned to read as a child with them.
I can also lift up to 300 lbs. I don’t know if that’s manly but it’s certainly heavy, lol. I have a deep alto/tenor speaking voice which often leads people to think I’m a man over the phone or on live chats. I am protective and aggressive only when the time calls for it. I also love to be a lady’s prince charming and love doting on my lady (if I am dating one at the time.)
On the flip side: I am curvy (DD chest, hug hips and svelt waist). I love wearing mini-skirts and corsets. I love make-up and when’s it a very special occasion I will try my damndest to look nice. I love high heels and love wearing them just for kicks. I cut my own hair and sometimes put it in these adorable looks. It makes me feel nice and feminine. I love red lipstick and going show shopping.
When I sing, I am a high soprano (And an alto…and a tenor…not the point! lol). I hate spiders because when I was a child I was bitten by plenty in my bed one night…I’m also afraid of the dark. I am very nurturing and loving. I love children very much (My niece calls my “Mom” because her own mother is not around her as much as I am. plus…you know…I do Momma things with her.)I love being the girl in relationships with men and being doted upon.
So…I suppose I fit very well into both of my genders :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:17 pm
Oh. I should also probably mention I grew up on a farm with my dad and brother where we did lots of things like build new buildings and breed sheep, milk cattle, and all that good stuff. I loved it. Although, sometimes it was embarrassing to go to school in the morning and not have time to change from work clothes from being at the barn since 6:30 A.M….but, you got used to it.
I alo have many male friends who I get along amazingly well with. But, I also have several ladies who I get along with the same way. I like the balance.
Carry on!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
I definitely look like a girly girl, I wear dresses & skirts a lot, don’t go out without make-up…And I enjoy a lot of girly things, pink = goooood, I love Blythe dolls, etc. But I also enjoy boy stuff, and feel perfectly fine being one of the boys when my bf hangs out with his friends at our place.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
I am soooo girly… That’s in part the reason why I was never good at sports!!! I don’t like to sweat, I love to smell like flowers instead… I love to be treated like a lady!!!
I’m very fond of Princess Maxima :) (and she’s argentinian like me…), a classic feminine beauty.
Love,
Laura
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
I’m very much on the line between the two. I think I am mostly quite feminine being interested in make-up and dresses etc. But I think at times I feel quite masculine (video games, a laser force birthday party etc). Alot of the time when I feel girly and pretty and do my make-up as such it comes off with a rather cool and grounding touch of masculinity, which I used to hate, but I’m staring to enjoy it.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:18 pm
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
Gender is sooo overrated XD What ever you are comfortable with, is really up to you really right~
buuut in terms of the social aspects, yes…I guess I am a tad like you. I do like dressing up, putting on a full face and flaunting ‘girlish’ style, but at the same time, my mannerisms can be ‘rough’ like a guy, and the things that might gross out girls, don’t gross me out, and in fact at times I like participating in (ie farting competition with my male friends lol)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
I am a girl through and through. On the outside, on the inside, backwards, forwards, you name it. I have loved to dress up since I was a child, and would insist on wearing a dress every single day. I would refuse to go to school if my socks did not have two layers of ruffles on them! I wish I could still wear two layers of ruffled socks and a party dress every single day, and be taken seriously by professors and potential work places! Since I can’t display my extreme girlyness in ruffled dresses (all of the time, at least), I get away with what I can. I wear heels every chance I get, the poufiest dresses and skirts that still look grown-up, and lots of feminine colors. I can get away with being as girly and ridiculous as I want on Halloween, and I definitely take advantage of it! I also decorate my home in extravagantly girly style. My kitchen is cupcake themed, and my dressing room is hot pink with black chandelier print on the walls. I also have a cupcake tattoo, which is my ultimate symbol of girlyness, even when I am wearing jeans. I am still as girly as I was as a child, even when I am hiding it!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:21 pm
i fit in pretty well, i guess the answer doesn’t matter as long as you feel secure in your own skin. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:21 pm
I’m pretty girly on the outside. I’m petite and I spend a lot of time on my makeup every morning.
I went to school for architecture where I was usually the ONLY girl in class. I drink my whiskey straight, I know a lot about construction, and I have no problem standing up to my male superiors when necessary. Maybe that just makes me more of a woman. ;)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
I was just thinking about this the other day, actually. I’m definitely girly in being addicted to makeup, skirts, puppies, and pretty jewelry. However, I have some “boy” qualities, like liking football, not doing laundry, and not putting up with petty girl drama. Also, I used to beat boys at arm wrestling. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:26 pm
Cheesy as it may sound, I just fit within the category of ‘me’. Gender is such a confused concept these days that I don’t think it’s worth worrying if you fit within expectations. (Granted, there are some people who do have to worry about such things, since they cause them active problems in their lives, but that’s a whole ‘nother story.)
On the ouside, I look supremely feminine; I’ve got long hair, an hourglass-y figure, and am rarely seen out of a skirt. But I also love science fiction, videogames, and all that kind of stereotypical boy-nerd stuff. I try not to define myself by eitherset of interests, though — I’d rather just concentrate on indulging both!
And yes, yes, yes to gender-deviance being attractive! I like my girls boyish and my boys girlish.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:29 pm
As far as my perception of myself goes, I’m not exactly sure if I do fit within the traditional boundaries of my gender. As far as the first impression goes, I’d probably be what’s expected of a female : I almost exclusively wear skirts, I wear boots with slight high-heel, I seem pretty calm, it’s usual to see me read a book or drawing and my hair, despite being short, is brushed and elegant.
However, when people gets to know me, they’re usually surprise. I will not be shy to express my love for traditionally boyish things, whenever it will be videogames, Kind of crude (but still respectful of people) humor, politics, etc. I do not know if girls are actually supposed to be more serious, but I almost never hesitate to blurt out any eccentricity that comes to my mind.
In conclusion, I’d say I’m a good mix of both and can therefor evolve pretty well with both genders, as I can at least perceive their point of view most of the time.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
I’m a very unconformist person, I don’t want to resign to be a girl or a boy if I like both genders. So one day I wear frilly dresses and red lipsticks, and the next day I dress like a dandy. I won’t say what gender I am because this don’t really matter. I think that all persons are women and men at the same time (but in different levels), because some of the things that we know as girl-like or boy-like are just prejudices and social conventions.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
I’m definitely more girl than boy a lot of the time. I’m in love with fashion and make-up (although it usually doesn’t show since I’m a poor college student and wear mostly jeans and hoodies with basic black eyeliner), I gossip like a little old lady and on the inside I’d love a little romance in my life. I have long hair that I love and wouldn’t cut short for the world, and I love high heels. I love to cook even though it breaks my code of laziness.
However, on the other hand I’m very boyish in my habits. I’m a horror movie nut, a ridiculously sloppy and messy human being and I hate to clean (my roommate hates me for this). A good deal of my friends are guys and I kind of prefer to drink with them (slash do other illegal things with them) over going out with my girlfriends. I’m kind of a commitment-phobe, which is stereotypically a boyish thing too.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
I used to hang out with mostly boys when I was younger, and then in secondary school ( Highschool, whatever you want to call it) I got more girl friends. At first I was really boy-ish in dress sense, but now my dress-sense is really dependent on what I feel like. Sometimes I like looking girlish, sometimes I like androgyny, and sometimes I go for the no-nonsense look/ business look with a fun twist such as bright tights and funky heels. I almost always wear make-up, but again, that depends on my mood that day! When people ask me what style I have, I honestly don’t know. I mix and match different things, because I find standard and normal is quite boring ( esp. here in the Netherlands, and in the small towns.) Though of course, if you like that sort of thing, by all means, go for it! People never question my gender- but when I tell them I play for both teams, they’re always surprised. Ah well!
My behaviour is a mix as well- talking about feelings is NOT my forte, for example, and sometimes I get sick of chattering girls and I just want to hang with the boys! But I love to shop, I love watching make-up tutorials I will never be able to replicate and I love fashion!
p.s this is actually the first time I’ve commented because I couldn’t figure out how to before XD
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
I may not always dress like it, but i really love girly fun dresses and colors and makeup. But according to some of my friends, I have a guy-like sense of humor. As far as other things go, I don’t really know.. probably a mix of both :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
I like a lot of things guys like, video games, loud rock music, moshing, comics and dinosaurs. But I think I look and dress very girly.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
I would say I’m definitely female with strong male tendencies. I have a running joke with my friends that there is a 13 year old male residing in my 20 year old female brain. I really have a disgusting sense of male adolescence humor (I’m talking semen jokes and fart noises a la American Pie) and there is nothing I loathe more than discussing my deep, inner feelings – I tend to avoid conversations like that by making jokes and brushing questions off. I’m also quite like a guy in my attitudes towards relationships and sex. I also enjoy typically male-favored action movies and comedies.
As for my outer appearance, it’s a tossup. Some days I love wearing girly things like skirts, tights, and high heeled booties. Other days I dig a loose-fit tee, a pair of comfortable jeans, and sneakers. I often keep my hair short, so I guess that also leans more towards the male side of the spectrum. One thing that never changes though is my love of make up. I will not leave the house without makeup on, the brighter the better! I have lots of female friends and acquaintances, but one of my closest friends, and the one I consider most like myself, is male.
If I had the chance to choose a gender though, I think I’d stick with being female. We have a way better selection of cute clothes and cosmetic products =).
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
I know that I am externally a beautiful girl, but I’ve ALWAYS been a tomboy! I consider myself to be 90% gay, so my femininity fluctuates along with my mood. I was lucky enough to find a boyfriend who appreciates my boyish side; we play video games and pull childish pranks together.
As for my girlish side, it’s almost nonexistent, but since moving out I’ve found a joy in sewing and cooking. But I’ll NEVER be a housewife!
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
My friends and family always laugh at me and my “girl crushes” – Dita Von Teese, Kat Von D, Sharon Den Adel…what, they’re hot!
I usually get along with boys more than girls – I was on the boys football team for a while(!), which was fun. I’m much happier in the pub where I can catch up with friends rather than a club where I can’t hear myself think. And comics = best things ever. (I don’t see why they’re always classified as a ‘guy thing’ though…)
Generally I’m pretty girly when I want to be. Definitely a hopeless romantic, and a bit of a drama queen. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Tough question, for sure. I, like a lot of you, display qualities of both stereotypical masculine and feminine persuasions. Example: i look very girly most of the time. I love makeup and big poofy skirts and hats and accessories of days gone by. I also know more about cars than my husband. I’ve ridden motorcycles in the desert since age 12. Shotguns, camping, hockey, marine corps – I’ve been in some very masculine settings, believe you me. Does it make me less a woman? I think not!
I like to think the traditional gender stereotypes are deteriorating, cross contaminating each other to a blur. I hope, soon, the only thing that makes someone masculine or feminine is their chromosomes/biology.
My husband can be bent over my hello kitty sewing machine making plushies, while I disassemble old computers. He’s all man, I’m still the lady :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
I’m a gay boy trapped in a girl’s body pretending to be a man impersonating a female when deep down, I feel like a third gender, or a strange balance or a girl who was once ugly and doe not feel very pretty…
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
Let’s be real here for a moment. If I make you uncomfortable, we can go back to being fake again.
Frankly, gender is bullshit. Its something that humans made up to place roles upon the two sexes. Gender creates problems, especially when you look at trannies or hermaphrodites. No, I’m not either of those, but I am a woman and I recognize what trouble genderization can do for those subject to it.
Maybe its just me, but I think everyone is taught so much about celebrating our similarities because of the racism of the past 5000 years, but I think its important to celebrate differences too. Most importantly though, I don’t think trying to fit into a label, gender or otherwise, has helped anyone. Be yourself. I am. I don’t look at myself as male, female or some third gender. I am me.
xoxo
andee nero
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
I think myself coming to terms with the girly me it’s something quite new.
I mean, I’ve always felt as a girl/woman, no doubts about it, but I’m the only daughter of my parents, while I have three younger brothers, all of them in their wiiild teenagehood, and I got to spend a lot of time between guys, even through highschool.
I didn’t wear a nice dress to prom, just a skirt, flats and a rock-band tee, and I remember everyone being disappointed at me because I behaved so ungirly… I didn’t use make up at all (the rest of the girls overused it, seriously) and I’d rather joke with the boys than sharing gossip and chatting with my girl-mates.
It was when I started college that I became more vain, and I saw the feminine and cute side of me, I started taking more accurate care of my face and the way I looked, though I still find myself wearing whatever feels comfy and using glasses instead of lenses, and not worrying about scrubs and gloss sometimes, so I think I’m 70%girly and 30%boyish! And I love the fact that there’s that double side of me, I make good friends amongst girls and better pals amongst the guys :D is good to keep a balance though!
xxx
ira
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:53 pm
Sometimes I think I’m rather androgynous – I have a boyish, slim build and I have short hair. I take advantage of my figure (or lack thereof) to pull off all sorts of cool Asian street fashion, which seems to suit me the most.
BUT, I am always wearing makeup, and I am told I have feminine, delicate features – slender wrists and neck, big eyes, full lips, etc.
On the inside, however, I am a stereotypically girly girl despite my feminist leanings. I would be 100% happy with my life if I could just live in a house that I can decorate again and again, with a lovely garden outside, and a big kitchen so I can cook all sorts of delicious things. I also love sewing, painting, and playing the piano.
So, overall, more girl than boy.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
I don’t fit my self into a gender really. I am a girl with all the curves to show so, but really, I just never bothered “”fitting into a specific gender”" I’m to lazy to do that.
I do adore makeup, and shopping, and girl activities like that but only because I am an artist and those are ways to express my self. I do enjoy more manly activities like video games and what not. I do dress girly, but more steam punk/goth, and I find asexual looks very interesting.
One time someone called me a “”mystery wrapped in an enigma”" and I think that fits me quite well.
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I’m a mixture of both, and a little of neither at times, I think.
I did, for a while, identify as gender-queer and spent quite a lot of that time dressing as neutrally as possible, even now I’m generally more comfortable in a pair of guys jeans and a graphic t-shirt than in a skirt or a dress, and as for heels, forget it.
I will wear a dress on occasion, but I’ve generally got to make it a little feminine somehow, either my hair will be gelled up somehow (I keep it pretty short) or I’ll chuck on a pair of Doc Marten boots rather a cute pair of flats.
As for my personality, I’m a weird mix there too, I’ve lived in houses that were, other than me, all male all the way through my time at Uni and I’ve always been considered one of the guys. I like it like that though, makes me feel far more comfortable than being around a large group of girls. I’m a hopeless romantic though, much as I might front that I don’t believe in spending my life with some special person, I really do.
Best of both worlds, I guess :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
Being in the same class with about 20 boys and only 4 girls, of which I only really spend time with one – kinda makes you a little more masculine. I have always kinda felt like a boy in a girl’s body, but not in any sexual way. Just in the way of wanting to be able to be confident without people calling you names. Or laugh at sexist/racist jokes. For some reason you can’t think those things are funny if you’re a girl.
I also wear men’s clothes. I have inherited my cousins’ old jeans and cardigans and I wear them with pride, and style. Often mixed with skirts and robes.
This last year I have realized that I feel a lot more feminine when I’m with my boyfriend. Maybe I feel more secure with him and don’t feel like I have to be so “macho” as I do in school. Although, my sense of humor never quits me.
I would probably say I’m a tomboy. Or just myself. Stereotypes ruin life and I don’t believe you should measure who you are in how stereotypically boyish or girlish you are. I believe you should be yourself. Be it in pants or skirts, with or without makeup. Who cares as long as you feel good.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
Doe, you spoil us. Plus, this is probably the most interesting DDBD so far.
In my opinion, I fit into both and neither categories. I happen to be an “bro” and an utter women. I have a lot of good friends, and I’m really close to my guy friends. They’re like brothers to me, and in a way, they treat me a bit like a brother, too. Except, I get hugs. Huhuhu. I also happen to have this very perverted humour from a male perspective. I want a snake for a pet, and a motorcycle. Lastly, I’m quite strong (physically and other), tough, and not afraid of getting dirty. I can probably kick the ass of someone twice my weight or size, unless they’re a skilled fighter.
However, I’m a girl because I love clothes, make-up, shoes, etc. I’m good at sewing, knitting, and typical girly things. Plus, I love my feminine curves and I’m not afraid to flaunt, although, I sorta wish I could have been better endowed.
But, other than our physical differences, I don’t think that our behaviours should be categorized as male or female. I find that it leads to stereotyping. Then again, stereotyping is a stereotype in itself. If that makes sense.For example, cooking, cleaning, being perverted, and loving clothes and shoes are becoming quite uni-sexual. Soon, I hope things like mechanics, and knitting follow. As well, I’m loud, boiterous, and sometimes cocky, which are usually more male traits, but people don’t find it very manly coming from me.
Oops, I just realized how long this is getting. Sorry for the essay. =P
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:05 pm
I totally *do* the andro thing. I always need to be balanced!!
My best friends are all males…each dually nerdy and musically/artistically inclined (like myself). I have never felt comfortable in “girly” clothes, although I still like to and put effort into looking good (my makeup and short hair MUST be perfect), and I like being told I’m pretty. I am innocent of romance (though I am romantic in my notions!) and I don’t have a rough nature, though I am very argumentative and cynical at times.
I LOVE sci fi, gore, D&D, math, politics, quick/witty/dry humour…
On the other hand, I LOVE drama (keep it fictional, plz), charming boys, pretty things (can’t wear pretty things though…can’t pull them off), chocolate, lingerie, intimate conversations.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
I guess I am a utilitarian girl. I wear jeans when needed, but I enjoy skirts and makeup (and extremely frilly fashions! Goth Loli anyone?). But I find that that doesn’t stop me from being interested in things that are normally associated with the boys. Not so much sports, but video games and action movies! I’ve found that when I talk to guys, they never think of me as a girl, more like just another nerdy guy to talk to (despite the fact that I might be in a miniskirt and red lipstick!).
I’ve found I challenge normal perceptions of what girls should do, less in activity, but more in personality. In that way I am rather intense and I don’t really hesitate to speak my mind and I make a lot of jokes, and a lot of people find that kind of intimidating in a girl. (Am I the only one that’s noticed that the guys are expected to be funny and girls are only allowed to laugh?)
I don’t usually think about my gender. I guess I just consider how I want to look at the time.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:09 pm
Personally, i feel like both, outside and inside sometimes. Half of my clothes are guy’s clothes, or what a guy would wear, but i love wearing dresses and skirts, and pretty things.
Inside, i feel like i’m both, but more like a girl, in the fact that i am a girl. I mean, i like video games, being beastly, and rolling around in mud and other ‘tomboyish’ adventures, but i prefer to act girlier.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:13 pm
a little bit of both, for me. seeing as i am a girl, i do have a soft spot for makeup and shopping and slumber parties where you eat popcorn and braid hair and watch The Notebook, but as far as my musical taste and outdoorsiness, I definitely have a boyish streak.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
There’s very little about me that is ‘boy-like’, I like makeup and dresses. I’ve never been interested in things that are still considered male dominated like sports or camping.
My one concession is that I prefer to keep my hair on the shorter side (a fact that drives my boyfriend nuts). The cuts, in my opinion are always girly though.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Well physically I look like a girl. I usually don’t go out without makeup, though I usually don’t wear dresses or skirts. I do like pretty clothes, but I’d take a comfortable pair of jeans over a sparkly dress any day!
On the inside I know I’m a girl but I fit in so well with the guys. I work with 5 guys and 1 girl (my friend who actually just started a couple weeks ago). I live with my boyfriend, our son, my dad and brother. I’m usually around all these guys so I love dirty jokes and video games.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
I think I fit in with a very particular subset of females- “broads.” We drink beer and bourbon, we tell salty jokes, we change our own tires, and we do all of it in bright red lipstick. We don’t squeal at babies, we don’t wear overly precious footwear, and most of us “clean up real nice,” although we still act the same in an evening gown as we do in jeans.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:22 pm
I abhor gender stereotypes! Masculine and feminine traits are inherent in all people, and I love exhibiting them both.
I’m quite obviously a girl. My interest in dressing femininely has only recently erupted. I’ve always kept my hair long to maintain my identity as girl. My interest For my boyish traits, I act more like a little kid than anything. I like action cartoons and comic books and picking on people I like. :D
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:26 pm
I’d probably say something similar to your own answer. On the outside, I appear quite girly (sometimes). I’m definitely interested in clothes, shoes and make-up, although I admittedly don’t make an effort sometimes (when I’m going to the shops, feeling really tired, etc.)
But in terms of my behaviour, I’m more stereotypically ‘male’. I’m very direct; I don’t deal in hints. I don’t notice things like someone getting a new haircut, and quite often I don’t pick up on someone’s mood unless they make it really obvious (or just come out and say it! Why can’t people do that!?).
I’m not very good at talking about feelings or showing sympathy. I’m not good with commitment or compromise. I can’t stand typical ‘girly’ subjects (apart from the things I mentioned above) such as boyfriend/friend drama. I hate romance novels/movies and shows like Sex And The City drive me crazy with how futile and pointless they are. Oh, and I don’t stop to ask for directions ;)
I think that’s enough stereotyping for one day, haha.
x
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
On the outside, I definitely fit the role of a girl. I love makeup and fix my hair daily (as a cosmetologist in training should) and try to dress comfortably but cute. But on the inside, I am so not okay with all the drama and nitpicky-ness that girls bring along with them. That’s just not me. I am very mellow and laid back and definitely “just one of the guys”.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
How well do i fit within my gender? Not very well is probably the answer. I’ve always been a tomboy, having grown up under the influence of my older brother, and I still love horror films, heavy metal music, practical jokes, etc – I even have a star wars t-shirt which I wear with pride! That’s not to say I don’t have my more stereotypical interests: I’ve been a dancer since I was a little girl, and I love baking cakes and reading romance novels. A lot of the time, I could indeed be mistaken for more of a girly girl; I spend a lot of time on my make-up, I love to curl my hair, I wear pretty clothes and I enjoy shopping for quirky fashions. I also accessorize like a demon!! But people who know me realise that there is more to me than meets the eye. I’ve often been told I have “a bloke’s sense of humor”, and i’ve found that this doesn’t put men off, they actually love it! Me and my boyfriend have the best conversations, and he likes that I can comfortably hang out with him and his friends without being intimidated by their man-talk; similarly, I don’t annoy them with any over-girlish-ness. But at the same time I ensure that I retain my femininity. I strongly feel that there is nothing wrong with a bit of androgeny – if anything, it makes me stronger as a person. Of course, as a girl, I have wobbley days, who doesn’t? But most of the time I find I have the ability to rise above things which would perhaps drag other girls down, by facing my problems with a more rational, “manly” approach. I’m proud to say I can display behaviours that might be attributed to a boy or a girl. Sometimes I can sound somewhat vulgar, and I’m not afraid to swear or show anger. But other times I can be as sweet and polite as the next girl. I wouldn’t say I had a split personality; I’d say I have a gender-behaviour-spectrum, a continuum, and my actions are relevant to the context and situation at the time. Basically, I am free to be myself in whatever mood takes me that day, be it particularly “girly” or “boyish”. I feel that maintaining the balance makes me who I am :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
I’m pretty girly on the outside, I rarely leave the house without glitter and make-up on, I looove shoes and skirts, dresses etc. Played violin and piano in strict, female-dominated competitions etc.
Butttt I was the only female on the “boys” wrestling team in high school, I worked really hard and competed against guys, and I was always treated like “one of the guys”, my coach told the other teams not to be gentle on me just because I was a girl. I love playing video games with the guys and spend most of my time doing it (even though they often insist I’m too girly sometimes about certain things – “THAT MONSTERS SO CUTE!!!”) I LOVE lifting weights (and sorry but no baby blue 3lb girly dumbells!), hiking, four-wheeling etc. But its always done in glitter and a good lipstick =]
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:32 pm
Well, I’m female, and pretty girly, but also have my guy-like features. I like dressing like a girl with make up and the whole deal, but some days i put a rough edge to it. On the inside, I’m bisexual, so theres that, very laid back, sporty, funny, but also giggly and light. It’s a nice mix that works for me.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:35 pm
I’m girly in that I love to do makeup and play with hair. I sing and decorate things and all that fun stuff.
But I have boyish tendencies. I love first person shooter video games, play dodgeball and have nerf wars, I watch star wars and star trek and spend ridiculous amounts of time with my X-Box 360 and my boyfriend’s PS3.
As for clothes, I mostly wear band shirts, but whether I’m wearing them with jeans, bondage pants, or a skirt really depends on the day and how feminine I’m feeling when I get up.
I love hanging out with the guys since they don’t usually talk about their weight and what they hate about themselves, just gaming and various other interesting topics. I’m much better at that than at spending time with the girls.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:36 pm
As far as I look, I am very girly. I like make-up, I adore fashion, I love cute boys, and I watch girly TV shows such as Top Model and Glee. I am very slim, but somehow, with curves!
On the other hand, I am very much one of the boys. I burp, talk about completely inappropriate things, and its impossible to gross me out or offend me. I love video games, zombies, World of Warcraft, and I kick ass in real life too, with my Kung Fu training! I hate most chick flicks, and would much rather watch a movie like Superbad, 300, or Resident Evil. I have a tendency to get along better with boys, because girls are often just too catty. But I certainly have plenty of female friends too!
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:43 pm
i guess i fit. I’m a girl and when i was little i thought i was tomboyish but i think i was just fooling myself. For clothes, i’m definitely comfortable before stylish… I started wearing makeup about a year ago, before that I never wore any. So i guess i consider myself a girl but not a girly girl.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:51 pm
While my body is female and I have no desire to actually change my sex, my gender tends to be a bit more fluid. At the moment, I suppose I present more as a “tomboy” than anything: jeans and t-shirts on a daily basis, stereotypically male hobbies and likes, etc. etc. However, I would *love* to rock a more androgynous look…and if I could manage to do so, I would take great pleasure in passing for male.
As for my behavior…well, if we’re defining things solely in stereotypical behavior, I believe I tend to favor slightly more masculine traits. On top of that, while I identify as bisexual, I’m much more attracted to people of all genders who portray more “feminine” behaviors.
That all being said, I will admit to a love of unashamedly girly clothes, though not to wear myself.
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November 16th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
I think that I’m not exteriourwise girly, but on the inside, I definitely are(at least sometimes). I rarely wear dresses or skirts, I almost never use make up, and the only shoes I buy is skate style. I do like to wear jewelery though, but they are not that girlish either; my favourite one is a souvenir that I got from Tunisia, it has a scorpion in it.
I took that gender test on sparknotes, and the results said that I was 8% male. :p
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:00 pm
I think sometimes I can be very girly- I’m obsessed with makeup and fashion, but at the same time I can be rather boyish; I can laugh along with the jokes that my guy friends make (even if they can be a little vulgar :P) and I don’t like how suuperficial some girls can be (I may love makeup and clothes, but I don’t judge people solely based upon appearances like lots of girls I know).
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
I’m relatively gender-neutral, but so right-brained that I’m definitely more feminine… GenderAnalyzer says that both of my blogs are 75%-ish female, haha, so I guess I’m girlier than I think (or maybe just the guys I hang out with are?).
I love things that sparkle and wearing skirts and baking cookies and sunny days, but I’m also hardcore when I argue (no lie, I bicker to win) and love adventuring. I’m also pretty independent and confident, where it’s the stereotype for girls to be sort of clingy and insecure… but, I mean, the stereotype for guys is to be antisocial, which I’m also not.
I think I’d make a fabulous guy, but if I were actually physically masculine, I think my behaviors might actually become more feminine to make up for it, ha. I’m tall and generally sort of casual, so whenever I get outrageously dolled up and in heels I always feel like a drag queen anyways.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
I am feminine in as many ways as I am masculine.
My favourite colour is pink, I like to look pretty, I love to play with my hair, I spend hours on end shopping and I would very much rather spend a day at a spa as opposed to watching a football game. I have much more that my fair share of makeup and a lot of my clothes are name brand and pricey.
I listen to some pretty hardcore music, just about all my hidden personality traits are masculine. I would wear my baggy sweatpants and loose sweatshirt over my trendy t-shirt and designer jeans. The food I eat doesn’t have to be gourmet; I’d choose Kraft Dinner over anything made at a fancy restaurant. I snowboard and ski much better than a lot of the boys I know. Sometimes I don’t care what brand I wear. Lest we forget that I snore! (I bet you never hear of a pretty girl snoring in her sleep!)
Half the people would gasp at the thought of me being masculine, and the other half would scoff at the sound of me being feminine. I’m an even mix of both but I’ll show different sides of it in accordance to my mood. Right now? My hair is tied up into a messy bun, my fingernails are dirty, my sweatshirt is stained and my makeup is barely there. I guess that at this moment in time, I’m the boy Shelvie.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
I’m a girl in the sense that I want to see what is in this month’s box of delights. I am a guy in the sense that despite my curiosity, I don’t care to overthink and write a profound answer here when I know I only have 1 in a kabillion chances of winning.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
I’ve always been the most feminine of females, haha. My parents tell stories of how I refused to wear pants until I was about five; everything had to be pretty and dresses and pink. Nowadays I am okay with wearing jeans ;) but I’m still in love with pretty things and dresses and pink. :P
I don’t see myself as particularly boyish in any aspect, though. Then again, I’m not exactly sure what stereotypically male traits are supposed to be. My only siblings are brothers, so I’m very into video games, cursing like a sailor, and some crude humor. Most of my friends are guys too, and they do jokingly refer to me as a dude. I guess maybe I am a bit boyish. hehe.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
I’m definitely female, in looks and for the majority of my personality.
My interests however, are typically seem as more male… video games, camping, paranormal investigation, science, science and more science!
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
This is a really cool question. I actually take a class on this now, with things like is being a woman the same thing as being female? Are you born this way, or is it your environment?
I find it very interesting. I, however, think I am pretty much a stereotypical girl. I enjoy dressing up and feeling pretty, wearing pink, and I identify as a woman. I’ve found, through my class, that I have many traditionally female characteristics, like being sympathetic, empathetic, and nurturing. I don’t rate myself high when it comes to things like aggression or leadership.
Despite everything, I am very much happy with who I am. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
i’m fairly manly. hahaha. i do alot of handy-work around the house because my mom hates it. i grill… i just do really manly things. hahaha
but at the same time im one of the girliest girls you’ll ever meat.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
i’m fairly manly. hahaha. i do alot of handy-work around the house because my mom hates it. i grill… i just do really manly things. hahaha
but at the same time im one of the girliest girls you’ll ever meat.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
I am very girlie. My name, Colleen, supposedly means “feminine” or “girl.” I don’t really like anything boy-ish… I <3 all things girlie!! =)
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
I’m never even sure what is feminine and masculine anymore, with today’s society. I am independant and could get along without a guy, but my appearance is very girlish. Maybe more childlike. Ah, well. Who knows? Who cares?
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:27 pm
Although I often feel that I have the awkwardness and lack of grace of a teenage boy, most of the things that I am interested are more or less considered on the vaguely feminine spectrum: costume, art, theatre, antique dolls, opera (eh, perhaps considered more of an old person thing) Victorian era culture, fairy tales, mermaids, puppetry… However, I do not believe these things are inherently feminine. In the past, it was perfectly acceptable for men to love theatre and art. Now, it is not as much, which saddens me greatly. It seems most men I have met only feel permission to love art if it is considered “macho” like grafitti (Where oh where are my modern day Joseph Cornells?). I believe that the exterior trappings of masculinity/feminity (men in makeup, etc.) have made significant progress, but internal aspects (especially for the gentlemen) still have a long ways to go.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:31 pm
I definitely have a girly appearance. I’m nicknamed high heels at my school that I go too. I’m more a fan of leather jackets and boots more so than dresses. For personality I feel it’s completely different. I’m in a class for Web Programming which is essentially man-territory..haha. I don’t hang out with females as much as I like mostly because where I am I get a lot of grief for wearing makeup and always wearing high heeled shoes. So I tend to gravitate towards men in terms of friendship because they’re more low-drama.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
I love this topic! I was just discussing this with frontman Justin from Semi-Precious Weapons.
In my opinion it isn’t about gender anymore. I definitely look and play the female part, but I can roll like the guys any day. I think the world is and should be less concerned with your sex and more about your being. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:39 pm
Its funny because I feel like a girl, I wake up put on my makeup and get dressed, but as soon i walk outside and get to skol i feel so ugly almost boyish.Even though i have my lipstick and eyeshadow I feel ugly…maybe because I don dress like a normal girl or look like them…i feel a lot more comfortable being with boys…but i kind like it… at least i try.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
I am most def a girly girl at heart. I may n ot always look as girly as I feel but style and fashion do not come naturally to me, well modern fashion doesn’t. I perfer the ultra fem fashions of the vicotrian and ren era. It is when I am dressed up like that I feel the most girly and right! So you can say that I am a girly girl trapped in the wrong decade.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
I’d say i play the female gender roll pretty well, although being kind of androgynous, i could easily pass for both genders (which is funny because when one of my friends first met me she admitted to not knowing my gender from far away *i have very short hair*). im not as graceful as some girls, but i definitely do display behaviors of both genders: i love dressing up and makeup, shopping, and other such ‘girly’ behaviors, but i also love my video games, dungeons and dragons, talking about inappropriate things during meals, and other guyish things.
-mooj
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
I think I’m half and half as far as gender identity goes. I only have male friends, I don’t wear makeup 24/7 and I’ve always had more of a tomboy personality. But I’m also girly in the sense that I’m a cosmetologist, I’m a dancer for rave parties, and I appreciate some girl things (bright makeup, pampering myself & skirts)! I suppose my dreadlocks keep me from identifying myself purely as a girl too. I don’t ever do my hair, and where I live, not many girls have dreads.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Hmm interesting question!
In most every way, I am very feminine. maybe not in a traditional way – for example, I can’t stand pink. But I love cloths, and ruffles and lace and makeup and all things whirly and twirly!
I also enjoy doing girly things like dancing, going out, shopping, riding horses, drinking tea, cooking, having parties, and above all else talking about anything and everything with anyone!
However, I think the area I break the gender “rules” is my temper. Do not mess with me! I have won pretty much any verbal fight I’ve ever been in. I’m a very petite person and would cower in a fist fight, but I can make anyone cry for their mama in a verbal fight! I’m not really proud of that, but it is a fact . . . but fighting is not very ladylike at all. :P
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:43 pm
I am very “girly” as in I spend tons of time on my hair and make up but I burp and have a perverse sense of humor and a lot of times even my male friends tell me that I’m a total guy. I tend to fit in with guys more than girls, but hot pink is my favorite color and my make up collection is vast (including, of course, many many Lime Crime eyeshadows).
The thing is, though, I’m a feminist and believe that we should not genderize children. Boys that aren’t afraid to love pink and girls who love video games are amazing. We should be able to love whatever we want. That said, guys in makeup=hot.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:49 pm
I am definitely 100% girl. It’s funny Iwas thinking aobut this on the bus today how lame it would be to sit with legs spread and not have breasts. Always happy to be female. :-)
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:54 pm
I am a female and I mostly girly. I like dressing up, fluffy puppies, sparkles and Valentine’s Day.
But I do have some things to talk about with the boys: I play video games. Not hardcore, but I do play and I once won a tournament against 100 or so boys in the video game Halo. When I stood up proudly to receive my trophy, everyone was shocked to see my heels! How do you like that boys?
I’m also strong and tough. Im a Circus performer and it really is a hard knock sort of gig. I take bruises and scrapes and people falling on top of me all the time. I can hold two people on top of one another on my shoulders…but I dont call being strong and tough “boyish”, I call that girl power! When it comes time to get into costume for a show the glitter and glitz and the makeup is one of my favorite parts of the Circus.
So yes, I’d say I have mostly “girl” traits but I can hold my own with the boys as well.
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November 16th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
This is hard to describe. I take alot of pride in being a feminine girl. I love a romantic ruffle, and a luscious floral, but then I fancy worn leather and cold clean lines. I love a good pair of high heels, but cannot resist a pair of skinnies and my grey chucks when the mood strikes me. On one day I may crave a shop and pamper day, another day I may want to go run around at the beach with my mate’s plastic swords and drink till I don’t remember doing so (I associate heavy drinking with being a masculine activity, it’s not very lady-like). I drink cups of tea all day in dainty teacups, yet still feel the need for a good pint of Guinness.
I guess I think that it doesn’t feel like a power struggle inside of me. I think it’s all balanced, albiet I lean more towards the feminine, but to me it feels balanced. I take pride in accepting traditional feminine rolls, cooking for my sweetheart, cleaning, mending, but also take pride in the fact that I am doing these activities because I want to, I am not bound by stereotypes as women of yesteryear were. I think that makes me decidedly very feminine.
I do admit I swear like sailor some days though. I do it once, and it’s like an avalanche that whipes out the whole day. Teehee. x
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:00 pm
On the outside I very much so fit the role of a girl, but when you get to know me I’m such a tomboy. I’m often rough and I am much better with hanging out with the guys more than girls. Girls can be just too competitive for me at times and with guys I can just be more relaxed and sit back and chill. Growing up I was a tomboy inside and out, but of course like most I hit that stage where I wanted to be more like a girl because of teasing from boys and changed my appearance to one that seemed more girl suited and adapted my personality as it grew to match it.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:06 pm
I am…very much a mix of both. On the outside I am fairly ambiguous, mostly t-shirt and jeans kind of person. But I very much love hair and makeup, I have teal hair and love to wear fancy makeup. I spend a lot of time looking up tutorials, looking at pictures, and other general makeup and hair research. But most of my friends are male, and my female friends are very tomboyish also. When I was younger, I was constantly confused with boys(my aurally ambiguous name certainly doesn’t help), and my friends were mostly male. I’ve always had a bit of a gender identity problem, wishing I could be a male and abandon my female ways…but alas, what could I do? I’m stuck in this sort of..gender-ambiguous role. I love horror movies but kittens make my heart melt.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
I look quite like a girl and have all the traditional hallmarks of such. Mentally, I am (especially when one looks at the stereotypes) male. I’m detached, I want to fix things, I’m very logical and very solutions-oriented.
I don’t know. I think genderbending happens a bit in all walks of life. I think it’s the denial that it happens and that it’s so common that leads to most problems.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:15 pm
it’s a very interesting question, because my case is really curious. I consider myself a very femenine what it comes to movements when I’m talking, clothes, make-up bla bla, but it happens that I study music, and i’m the ONLY woman in my class. So when I’m with my classmates I’m very girlish, but when I go out with my girl friends I get stucked with my classmates attitude and I have a really boyish behaviour sometimes, it’s like I get brutal and (healthyly) violent xDD I used to wished to be a guy when I was younger, but now I’m just happy of having boobs :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Hmm…not sure…
I like makeup and clothes, but other times I’d just stick on a shirt and jeans and be done with it. I don’t even always comb my hair! I like to swim, and I take Agriscience where there are 5 girls in a class of 20! It’s kind of sad…and most of the 5 girls don’t even seem to want to get dirty, they just came late in the year and had no choice but to pick that class. I also can get aggressive when people annoy me. …I have no idea.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:28 pm
I definitely exhibit moments of manliness (I own a men’s blazer and wear it with love) but I generally mold to what is desired of me. I can be quite the girl when a man wants to protect someone…hehe
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:29 pm
Ever since I was a little kid, I always found myself leaning more towards the male side rather than my female side. I just recently started using makeup to reach my distant feminine side but I love bright colors such as hot pink and electric blue. I wear a lot of dresses and I have an obsession with makeup, but I will always have my boyish side.
The boyish traits I am proud to say are that I make it my mission to be good at any video game, especially MMORPG’s like World of Warcraft. I’m also a software programmer, game designer and game programmer, all which are male dominated areas. However, being a girl in a male dominated community, I go out of my way to make myself one of those girly girls that clash with the stereotypical gamer girls. However I digress, I have a lot of fun tricking guys with my appearance. I’ve gotten a lot of comments before on how they wouldn’t expect a girly girl like me to do all those things. ;D
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:34 pm
hmmm well, i suppose i am girly like when it comes to makeup and some clothes, but if i werent in school id be dressing more boyish. for some reason i like sagging my skinny jeans and putting my hair in a flat billed hat. i also wish i could have a mo/fauxhawk but my parents dont want me to so..
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:37 pm
Personally, I find my attitude to be very boyish, though I always have dresses on and heels and well the whole nine yards. I fit in more with the boys. I love video games, I play soccer, I do things that most boys would do. I also cross dress on certain occasions. I think it’s fun to be a little of both.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:38 pm
I’ve always happily been female, inside and out. However I do not think I would have been happily female in the 1950s (the definition of how a woman should act is slowly changing as societal rules change). I’m too assertive and aggressive to be a ’50s housewife, but I fit into the female “mold” today.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:41 pm
I myself LOVE androgyny! I defiantly do look feminine but I sometimes like the play the androgyny card. I have short hair, and a slight figure with a small chest and a feminine face (which is why I can get away with the short hair), however I am trying to grow it out to try a different look. On the inside … I think I may be more boy-ish than girly. Of course I get giggly at things like kittens and cute guys but I am SO OBLIVIOUSE to the world around me like a boy. Growing up I always got along better with boys, I was a tomboy and liked to play rough; that side still comes out sometimes :P
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:45 pm
How masculine or feminine I portray myself depends on my daily mood. Somedays, I’m all about female fashion and “activities”: makeup, dresses, going out with the girls, chatting, gossiping, etc. Other days, you can find me wearing a loose shirt, a pair of athletic shorts, and some converses. On these days, I’ll lounge at home, either by myself or with the guys, and drink a few beers. But for the most part, my attitude is that of a feminist. I don’t let gender define who I am or what I do. I run with the boys mostly, but I can strut with the girls, too, if I feel like it.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
Frankly, there’s nothing sexier than well-played androgyny. Some of the most beautiful and glamorous “girls” I’ve ever known are drag queens, and if you haven’t been seduced by a smooth and flirty girl in boy drag, you’ve no idea what you’re missing.
As for me personally, I have a girlier look than I’d strictly like. Curvy, curly, cat-eyed and wiggly is me. I could never pull off a truly androgynous look, which is fine enough. But what I can do very well is step up with unexpected “masculine” behaviors that have proven quite alluring by contrast.
For example, I drove a classic old cherry red Mustang convertible for years, always stepping out in heels, rhinestone-trimmed vintage shades and a long sheer scarf for effect. But that fabulous machine ate through alternators like candy. I was replacing them almost once a month, and they always failed at a bad time. So I learned how to replace the part myself to save time waiting for a tow or a mechanic.
I don’t think I’ve ever gotten more attention that I did every time I got stuck with a dead start. I’d whip my giant wrench and a fresh alternator out of the trunk, pop the hood, and change out the part in 10 minutes flat without chipping a nail or getting a speck of dirt on my skirt.
I made quite a few friends that way, including some guys who wanted to “help” but ended up confessing they didn’t even know what I was doing!
But that’s really my style – ultra-femme, but far from helpless. There’s no damsel-in-distress here, I’ll step up to any challenge, as long as there’s someone nearby to hold my purse.
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
Right now I’m ultra feminine. I feel slightly uncomfortable going outside in anything other than skirts and dresses. I love bright pretty colors, bows, makeup, and cute things.
I dressed like a boy when I was younger and I’ve always preferred hanging out with the guys. I’m bisexual, but while I was discovering this I felt very gender confused. Every once in a while, a little of my old self comes back, and when that happens I think I would be happiest as a drag-queen!
Though I have some boyish qualities, I know I’m a girl and it is so much fun I would never want to be anything else.
(P.S. I have no idea if I already posted half this comment, my computer glitched out on me and I’m sorry if I did!)
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
I’m a girl and well i act like a mixture of a girly-girl and a tom-boy. I love doing my makeup and hair and things like that but I also love hanging with my friends. I grew up in neighborhood of all older guys so growing up i was tom-boyish. In 4th and 5th grade i outgrew that and was a total girly girl. Middle school i found a balance between being girly and being tom-boyish. And now I’m in eigth grade. I’m obnoxiously badass, i guess. I love who I am and I don’t think I want to change anything that makes me well me!
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November 16th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Well, I like to think I fit very well into my gender. Being a female, I enjoy things considered “right” for my gender. Such as: Cooking with my mom, talking with my mom, makeup (more than you know), clothes, I love quietness, giggling, going out to lunch with my girlfriends, flirting with my guy friends, flirting with just about any guy, and PINK!
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:07 pm
After reading through all these comments, it seems everyone here groups certain behaviors and activities into “male” and “feamle” categories…the common “male” behaviors are drinking, cursing, dressing casually, and playing video games, while “female” behaviors are wearing makeup, dressing up, and loving kittens…exscuse me but what? More boys than girls love kittens in my social circle, the boys paint their nails more than the girls and i love playing video games!
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:07 pm
I am definately a girly girl. I love dolls (even though I’m 22) and have collector barbies that fill up my bookcase and sit infront of my 500 Sweet Valley High books that I collected over the years. I love pink and everything pretty. Glitter, cupcakes, unicorns, make-up Dresses and fashion are all things I love.
But in saying that…apart from one female friend who I am very close to I often feel more comfortable in the company of guys then girls. There’s alot less pressure. I prefer hanging out with my Husband and his friends rather then my friends.
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
When I was younger I would have said I was a tomboy. I hated pink, I wanted to play sports and I really didn’t see the point in all of the fashions that girls gave into. Then I lost some weight and began to feel better about myself. Suddenly I couldn’t get enough. Pencil skirts, pumps and color. Dramatic makeup and fun clothing began to take over my life. I still don’t wear makeup most of the time because I don’t give myself enough time before classes.
I feel like I fit into my gender role very well. I am engaged and I can’t wait to be a wife and a mother, though I also love to feel glamorous and sexy. I didn’t always feel this way. Highschool was a time of rejection for me and I threw every social norm I had come to know away. But as I grew older and came to know myself better I was able to realize how badly I wanted the joy of raising children. I know I am a bit strange. I believe in strong and independent women and consider myself one, but I also look forward to the day when I have a home to take care of and children to look after. I just can’t help but want to do it all!
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Miranda Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
On the flip side of my female “gender” tendencies I am also a total gamer geek. I play video games, tabletop and others. I also love comic books! I am more of a geek than my finace and we met through gaming!
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
I have always had trouble finding girlfriends. It’s always been odd because I LOVE makeup, dressing up, doing my nails, etc. but I think it’s my hobbies/interests that differ. I love heavy metal music, gory movies, camping in the boonies, extreme sports, drinking beer etc. I know there are lots of girls like me but being in a somewhat small town where it appears everyone tries to be the same it’s always felt like an uphill battle. I love people that are different then me because they are the ones you learn from but again, that’s hard to find in others sometimes. So funny this was the question because my one and only super close girlfriend and I just had a long talk about how different we are. Another one of our friends is constantly dropping rude comments about my taste in music or what I’m wearing and we discovered what we like most about eachother is our differences. I used to feel embarassed around boys for being too girly and around girls for being to boyish but I’ve come to realize that’s what I love most about myself. Isn’t growing up grand! haha
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
Thats a good question! I feel I do fit in quite well with my gender, I love to dress up in nice things like dresses and sexy tops, and high heels…the whole package. I wear makeup on a regular basis and all my friends that are girls compliment me on my makeup skills…I’m no professional by any means I just have a passion for makeup and love to experiment =) However, I do tend to hang around with guys and make guy friends a lot more easily than I do with girls. I always have, I don’t know why this seems to be. Maybe it’s because most guys don’t take things to seriously? Who knows. Maybe i’m just more outgoing that my girl friends and can go up to most guys and chit chat.
So I guess i’m a bit of a chameleon in a way, which is fine with me I’ll embrace both the feminine and masculine side in me =P
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I’d like to think of myself as a pretty well-rounded gal. I’m interested in academics, history, philosophy, religions, but I’m also very interested in all sorts of art, fashion and culture too. Growing up on a farm has certainly taught me to be a hard worker (I can chop firewood and feed the animals like nobody’s business) both physically as well as in the classroom, but in my public life, I reflect more of the feminine and creative parts of myself. Throughout my life, I’ve struggled with my mental AND physical gender-identification (which might I mention is a little silly, since it’s only a part of culture — humans are programmed to protect themselves, feed themselves, and reproduce — we’re not programmed to make sure women wear makeup and skirts and not men, so on and so forth). Growing up, I felt I didn’t get enough respect for the things I was able to do mentally and physically because of my bubblegum-girly persona, so I would have a phase of being extremely girly, sometimes overly girly, and then following that would be a phase of only wanting to wear masculine clothes and dress like my father or brother (just a little more fashionably ;-P hehe). Finally, I’m starting to realize that people are just people, and that I can follow my Lady Gaga infatuation out in my clothing, while still maintaining a level of respect for the things that make me more than just the regular-ole-ditz. Gender bias is definitely a huge thing in my life, but I think I’m finally starting to be comfortable being part of this “culturalized” version of female.
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
i dont beleive anyone is in one sterotype because i belive people are to complex to be lables so for me im just elle and i cant be described in just one word :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Over the years, gender was used to define and sometimes control people, the way they behave and the opportunities they receive. In a physical sense, I am female. There are also some qualities about me that are feminine, such as my penchant for dresses and heels, my desire to ensure the comfort of others, and an urge to mother and nurture. However, there are times when I feel like a man, like when I ignore the social politics at work and further my own career and interests. Or when I disregard all niceties and burp with the best of them. These things, these wants and desires, these attitudes, have always been defined as male or female, by society or by ‘others’. I think I fit my gender perfectly, in the physical sense, and in the family and nurturing sense. But, more often than not, I feel that I don’t fit into other’s expectations. When I go out, I often feel rude and crass, un-ladylike, and completely un-feminine (except for my clothes). Is it society, forcing gender specific behaviour on me, or is it all in my head? Do I perhaps project these expectations on myself, to fit into a mould that I created? Sometimes, I think it is the latter, but more often than not it is actually the former. The expectations of men, towards women, have often caused me personal problems and put up a barriers in my career.
Thus, in answer to your question Doe Deere, although I often feel that I don’t entirely fit into what I see as being female, it appears that society will always see me as female for my physical attributes. Thus, I fit, but only because my body is shaped so. ^_^
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
Wow, look at all the comments! I think I’ll answer this one on my own blog…
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
I also feel kind of like a boy stuck in a girl’s body because I even though I like girly clothing such as skirts, I also wear stuff such as sweatshirts from my brother and guy’s shoes. Additionally, I feel more comfortable hanging out with guys than girls.
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
In some aspects I am very much a girl, i love lace and flowers and wear pretty dresses with my well maintained hair. When I was younger I was a total tom boy and again at 12-15. I love wearing dresses, but i’m not at all elegant, I jump fences and crawl under tables. I suppose everybody is a bit of a boy and a bit of a girl.
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:42 pm
i love girlie things like makeup, clothes, accessories. i work for a makeup line so i like that i can indulge that side. on my days off i stay in hoodies/yoga pants and no makeup. sometimes its very shocking to see the difference!
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:46 pm
Oooooh lordy lou. I’m definitely very girly when it comes to appearance. I love to wear skirts and dresses and nothing excites me more than buying new makeup or hair accessories. But I’m definitely a guy’s girl when it comes to my personality. Even if I’m wearing a cute little dress I won’t hesitate to jump into a game of tackle football.
I smoke cigars, I can shoot a gun, and I like to spend most of my time working with my hands and doing things like camping and fishing. I love playing video games (and not ones with barbie, I’m a Call of Duty kinda girl). I’m in college now to get my degree is Business Administration and ….. FASHION DESIGN! I also love to cook and I actually enjoy cleaning (with the right music) and being around little kids. I’m just a really well rounded person I guess :]
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
I love dressing up and wearing make up and shopping of course! but i also love things that some girls find weird and stupid. I love immature jokes like thats what she said (i know, they’re really stupid) I also love baggy pants :)
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anna Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
i also love dresses and lolita!! chomp chomp
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:08 pm
I feel very ambiguous at times. I love love love dressing up, but I’ve always had way more guy friends than girl friends. On the outside I’m totally a girl, on the inside I’m somewhat of a gay guy. : D
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:13 pm
I like to think that today (in the US specifically), gender differences matter very little. Obviously this isn’t quite the case, but I think we’ve moved past the gender stereotypes that were so rigorous in the 1950’s, for example. As for me personally, I’d say I have the qualities of both genders. My hair is shorter than my boyfriend’s, but I have a very feminine, hourglass figure. Whenever I go out, my makeup is bright and girly and I often wear dresses, skirts, and sparkly flats. But if you spot me in any bar, I’m usually pounding down pints of Guinness with my guy friends and playing pool. I have a ridiculously dirty mouth — I can’t properly form sentences without using profanities. Sometime this takes certain people aback, but more often than not, any person, male or female, will be cracking dirty jokes and laughing with me by the end of the night.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
I started out life way girlie… long, pretty hair, lots of dresses… then about 4-5th grade started just wearing t-shirts and jeans. Into middle school, I wouldn’t touch a dress or makeup if you paid me. Up until sophmore year, I was like this. Then my friend showed me eyeliner and I started to like clothes about senior year. Mind you, a lot of my school apparently thought I was a lesbian, too. I had really short hair. Now I’m a girly girl obsessed with makeup and cute clothes. Thhoouugghh, the people at school were not 100% wrong… While I can never imagine myself actually doing anything with another girl, I do admire looking at a pretty lady. ^__^; Something about us women, we’re just good to admire.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:16 pm
I’m pretty darn boyish, although I enjoy being a female. I enjoy dressing up for special occasions but generally prefer to wear jeans and tees and like being low maintenance – I can get ready and go in five or ten minutes if I’m heading out, and that suits me just fine. I really love dainty, delicate, pretty things, my I don’t think they suit my identity. I find blogging hard for this reason – all the blogs I read are quaint and beautiful, and it’s difficult finding my own niche that works for me.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:17 pm
Hmm. . . This is a difficult question for me. Growing up, my mom would dress me in dresses, but I would always try to wear pants and run with my brother and other boys and tomboys. When I was in elementary school, I had a difficult time with abuse from an older caretaker. After that, I tried to dedicate myself to being more “boy-like” because I felt comfortable with it. I blamed dresses and “being girly” as my problem. I never wore makeup, I wore my brothers hand-me-downs, and I felt comfortable passing as a boy (even my brother’s college friends thought I was his little brother). My parents thought I was just going through an I-don’t-care-how-I-look-phase. My parents probably liked it because I didn’t date guys, I didn’t trust them beyond being my friend. Plus, the more I looked like a guy I thought the more I would be left alone (Who wants a tomboy anywahs?). To this day, I have finally healed from anything and I go on to help others heal.
Today, I no longer crop my hair or wear boys clothing, but I still feel comfortable dressing in ambiguous/androgenous clothing. However, I have a closet full of dresses and heels that I secretly yearn to wear, but my workplace doesn’t call for them and I’m still getting used to being a little more girly. I consider myself a girl, who is comfortable with masculine style. I love make-up and fashion, but still feel awkward with it. I think I always will feel awkward being girly, but I’m fine with that. I wouldn’t be me if I weren’t. And I’m happy with me.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:18 pm
I figure I’m extremely girly in all senses of that particular socially constructed “ideal”. I wear more make-up than most girls everyday; I put a lot of effort into looking nice because I think it’s fun and I hate feeling like I look “boring”. I adore dresses and accessories, doing my hair, nails, etc. I don’t have any close guy friends and I love things like shopping, animals, dancing, etcetc. (:
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
I have never gotten along well with other girls, so growing up I would hang out a lot with my younger brothers and my boyfriends friends. Because of this I liked doing things that other girls didn’t, like sword fight, skateboard, play video games ect. As far as clothing though, I always loved super feminine clothing, so when I would first starting to hang out with guys they would ask me if I could do certain things without breaking a nail, and I would go ahead and show them that I could. I learned to skateboard in a flowy white skirt and ballet flats.
I try not to box myself in to acting girly or boyish, I just do what I want as long as it doesn’t hurt other people. I tend to like the same crude humor that most guys do, but I can’t help but look like a girly girl with the fashion sense that I have. I’ve also recently decided to shake things up by getting a boyish haircut.
I suppose that just makes things more fun.
Thanks for sharing your gender duality Doe!
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
My mother always told me to speak up! While I am not very outgoing, I am outspoken. Being a woman, this makes me stick out a lot. I know what I believe and I am not afraid to tell the world. This gets me in trouble with both men and women. People still don’t expect a woman to be highly educated and strong about her opinions. People that don’t want to hurt my feelings call me “spunky” or “animated.” What I really think they want to say is that I am “audacious.” I prefer to think of myself as courageous, eager, energetic, enthusiastic, fearless, or fiery.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
On the outside I don’t embody the stereotypical girl but I’m also not tomboyish. This is the same with my personality as well. I’m a bit gender neutral I guess haha. I tend to get along with both genders relatively well but get angry at both genders too. Although, I do wish I dressed a bit more girly in that I want to wear more dresses and skirts (but I’m terribly shy at doing so). I kind of like different versions other than the ‘girly’ persona. I think I like it when girls and guys don’t look exactly like their gender directs them. I love girls with boyish figures and alien faces who dress a bit more ‘punkish’ or even mod. It’s also cute when they don’t sit with their legs crossed all the time and just relax. When I lose more weight, I think I’ll finally be comfortable looking the way I like; a cross between Courtney Love and Edie Sedgwick (I know such an odd combination but I can’t get over how much I love both these ladies’ styles).
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:33 pm
I’m just about the opposite, actually! I wouldn’t say I’m a tomboy, per say, but I wear my hair quite short, and I’m in jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers more than anything else. I don’t usually bother much with makeup or anything.
But on the inside, I’m such a stereotypical girl! I love dresses and sky-high heels and absolutely over-the-top makeup – I’m even trying to grow my hair out after years of pixie cuts, just because you can do so many pretty things with it. I just never have the time to do fancy makeup, and the dresses and heels are totally impractical for my day-to-day.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:34 pm
Well, I’m glad I’m a girl because I love dressing up and makeup and jewelry, and I like how the female form looks.
But other than aesthetically, I don’t know if I particularly identify with either the female or male gender or any particular sexuality either. I am just me!
I guess I’m a bit neurotic, but at the same time have difficulty knowing how to deal with other people’s emotions and comforting them. But I know many neurotic men as well as women with very low EQs.
I wouldn’t feel like me if I were a man, I guess, but I wouldn’t feel like me if I didn’t have freckles or was 6 feet tall or had a different face. And none of those things really have to do with who I am. So I guess I’m a girl, but really I just consider myself Carolyn!
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:35 pm
My male friends say I’m not a girl – just a cool guy with long hair. While I love fashion and being a girl, I think I have to agree with them. I just get to look fabulous while I play Halo for hours, and make “that’s what she said”/”your mum” jokes about everything.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
I’m quite conflicted. I like dresses and skirts but only in moderation as I can feel so uncomfortable in them. I love wearing jeans and t-shirts. I’m very much a girly girl underneath it all. I love sparkly, fragile (coughglassandporcelaincough), fuzzy and very girly items. I love going to the ballet. I’m also incredibly shy and polite but I voice my mind when I feel comfortable. I love having long hair, playing with make-up yet feel really uncomfortable in some female fashions like miniskirts.
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:47 pm
On the outside, I’m practically a Barbie! I adore my hair, makeup, pink sparkley thing, you name it! Inwardly though, I really try to come off as a strong female and try to not get pushed around just because I’m in stilettos. :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
I am a very girl person when it comes to superficial things: I love dresses, mascara and lipstick, pretty jewelry, and everything like that. But I’d like to think that in my more personal tastes I’m not as girly: my favorite band is Led Zeppelin, Fight Club is one of my favorite books, and I read Watchmen too. And a lot of times I find guys’ to be low maintenance and just easier to be around, even though most of my friends are girls. I usually only open up my less feminine side to people who I know very well. So I guess I’m a mix of a really girly girl with a secret nerdy guy side [:
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:52 pm
Enough about gender. I just want to celebrate being ME. I’m female, and I love my curves. I embrace high heels as both a symbol of power and weakness, wear makeup when the mood strikes, crop my hair as short as a boy’s or let it grow out (long enough to donate eight ponytails to Locks of Love–woohoo!) if that’s what I fancy, where cocktail dresses to class and find a certain sex appeal in androgeny for other situations. I try not to let traditional gender roles define me if they go against my natural impulses.
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Shayden Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Oops. Typo–”where cocktail dresses” should be “wear cocktail dresses.”
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November 16th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
I seem like a tomboy at first. Most of my friends are guys and we like to talk about video games, cars, and football. But then I love wearing dresses, heels, and playing with make-up. I love being a girl, but I like doing guy things, too.
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:00 pm
I used to be as tomboyish as you could ever imagine –I had two brothers and aside from two girl friends, I only talked to boys. I only recently began to uncover my feminine side, fashion- and makeup-wise, with bright hues, flowing skirts and wearing heels! Though I sometimes revert to the comfort of my ripped jeans and Converse, I do admit that this discovery of a side of myself I had tried to ignore for years is very thrilling.
I sometimes go overboard; I guess it compensates for the nights I still spend talking like a rowdy boy with the guys?
I also found out that all this feminity came out when I gained confidence (just after a major, but healthy, weight loss), so I guess, all in all, that for me, acting girly is an act of courage and pride?
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:00 pm
I suppose i’m nearly always one of the two extremes; either I haven’t shaved my legs in a week or I keep them trimmed up and in tights daily.
Part of me enjoys makeup, little dresses, doing my hair and spending an hour a night picking out every detail of my outfit.
On the other hand, I enjoy playing videogames, I like skateboarding, and I love to wrestle. I can often be seen doing very boyish things in very girly attire (Call of Duty in a pink tutu, anyone?).
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
I fit. :) I am most definitely girly – I couldn’t live without my makeup, I love random little useless trinkets, I wear a lot of dresses and skirts, I love shopping…
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:11 pm
If you had asked me only 2 yrs ago, I would have said “not at all!” But now, I seem to have found my feminine side and I really love it. I love the make-up, definitely fashion(!), and everything that comes with being a girl. I still have a bit of a *boy brain* when it comes to how reason and such, but I certainly do fit the girl stereotype more outwardly now.
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Comtesse De Barbarac Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
oops, I meant: “I still have a bit of a *boy brain* when it comes to how I reason and such…”
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I’m pretty girly on the outside, but tend to get along better with males.
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I think I’m a fairly “girly” girl with all the shoes, sequins, glitter and makeup that entails buuut I love hockey, ohh dear how I love hockey! people who walk into my room would think it’s a boy’s room with all the posters, pictures and actual hockey sticks on the walls…until they see the high heels and bottles of nail polish x)
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:21 pm
I think some may say I fit somewhere in the middle. I pay very close attention to my appearance and hold It’s so high in my list of priorities it might be considered obsessive. However, I am quiet knowledgeable about the world around me and I speak up for myself more often than not. I feel my opinions must be heard.
I also am in between on the sexual spectrum because I feel attraction to both genders and always have. However, I feel 100% female.
I think by society’s standards, and by some older memebers of that society, I do not typify the perfect gender assigned criteria but by my own standards of what a woman should be and even what a person should be, I am exactly that. I cannot and will not limit myself to a specific title and I’m very comfortable with my gender, sexuality and personal opinions. I also will not let anyone tell me what a woman is supposed to be, as I already have a fairly good idea of what that is. :) so there.
(sorry for such a long post *)
(and you are so cool btw!… your so impowering:)!
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:41 pm
I also love dresses and makeup, and all things girly, but would never consider myself a girly-girl. I grew up with four older brothers so I think I have sort of the best of both sides, and characteristics of both.
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:41 pm
Well, you brought up an interesting top for me :)
As far as body wise, I am most definatly a girl, with my huge boobs. I do Love makeup, because i enjoy making myself pretty but sometimes on the inside I really just want to be a guy.
When i was young I L-O-V-E-D pink, my wall was painted Barbie Hot Pink, then I started to grow up and it went green then blue. To this day it is still blue but this color to me feels feminine in a soft way.
So after all that rambling, I am a girl, tomboy deep down, but a girly girl on the outside :)
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
Pretty well, I think. I am really a girly girl. i like makeup and ponies and rainbows and dolls!
At times I do have more boyish tendencies, but I LOVE being a girl and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Honestly, I can’t be anything but a girl in the girliest-girl-girl kind of way. I love pink, frills, cake, bows, ponies, etc. I wear lolita fashion, dream of putting glitter on everything, and dissolve into giggles at the slightest amusement. I’ve loved hobbies like ballet, singing, and daydreaming. There are two pink My Little Ponies on my internet modem, and my house is full of white furniture and rose-patterns. I own a collection of teacups and drink tea from them regularly.
I fail miserably at having masculine traits beyond my musical tastes (heavy metal) and career path (accounting). However, even in those ways I am really not boyish at all!
It’s okay with me–I ~love~ being a girl! ♥
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November 16th, 2009 at 11:49 pm
As a lover of corsets and period dresses, sometimes I fit in perfectly with “girl-expectations” but never in the act-like-it way. On the inside, I am not so girly. I don’t like being girly. I like fitting in with the guys. I like geeky stuff. I love building things, knowing things, figuring things out, destroying things, and blowing things up. Its me, and what I do. When I’m not dressed in my finery (which is 99% of the time) I’ll be in jeans and a t-shirt, *maybe* a little bit of makeup, though probably not. I’m not going to follow the expectations someone has for me just because I’m a girl. I’m not just a girl- I’m a complex and diverse human being. And I think I pull it off quite well.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:05 am
Oh geez! I like this question XD I guess I act like a girl in the ways I LOVE makeup, I love my hair and my appearance *though, don’t a lot of guys take pride in their appearance? I definitely do*. I act like a guy through how perverted I am *XD* and I talk in a man voice. A lot.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:09 am
I’m a very feminine girl, I love pink and fluffy things and unicorns… I even have my hair dyed pink! But I like to push the envelope on what today is consider ‘girly’ and take that to the extreme, pushing girly into something people don’t expect – like faux unicorn heads mounted on the wall, or wearing very frilly dresses with huge, thick-soled shoes. I think instead of following the placid idea of feminine, I’ve pushed it into something neon for myself. But I’ll always consider my personality and style to be 1000% feminine, maybe a little bit into overdrive XD
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:10 am
I am pretty definitely a girl, but if I could grow a mustache, I probably would. That sounds like such a weird thing to say, because it’s totally unrelated to being a guy, per se…
I do have some guy-ish personality characteristics, though, for example I am NOT openly emotional. I don’t squeal (except in typed comments!), I don’t really do large-scale gossip and girl talk… I do talk about those things sometimes, but it’s always pretty much one-on-one. And I tend to be much more calm and less reactive, more level-headed than most girls I know. My drama teacher says about teens, “girls chatter, guys space,” but I definitely space more than chatter. Also, I have never really found the more masculine males (Abercrombie models, football players, you get the picture) to be very sexually attractive. I totally go for the guys with more feminine features and long hair (OMG, long hair… yes!) over the tanned, muscular crew cut. And although I don’t consider myself lesbian or bi, I would totally kiss a girl.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:22 am
I don’t know exactly how to answer this question. Since I was little, around pre-school age, I’ve loved girly things. Barbies, clothes, princesses. Now that I’ve grown up, that’s kind of deminished. I have a short, boyish haircut, but I love my makeup and my clothing, and aspire to be a fashion designer. I also like to rough it with the boys at my school. They think it’s funny when they see a girl playing Philly Football in a skirt. I also find so much more comfort in boys. Girls, I feel, can be catty and mean, but guys understand you and make you feel good if you’re down, weather through a joke or just being there for you. I feel like that’s something totally unique to boys, because girls are too overly emotional for that kind of thing.
I also aspire to be like my older brothers. Growing up, I wanted to be like them so much. But I can remember my mother critisizing things I would do to be like them, like playing with G.I. Joes as “not a girl thing to do”, or something along those lines. I also remember that where I went to kindergarten through fourth grade, there were boy colors and girl colors. I was, and always have been, more of a fan of “Boy colors”. So, as you can see, I’m not particularly the cookie-cutter girly girl, but I’m definitely not a tomboy either.
I hope this answers the question well enough. I’m totally unsure about my gender role in society, so I was kinda stumped here. Oh, and like Rickey said, I do not consider myself of any sexual orientation but straight, although I would totally kiss a girl. Haha!
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:28 am
Ahh I’m like a strange mix- I sometimes dress super girly, and sometimes I cross dress. My voice is decently deep and I act like a guy, but I act like a girl at times [mainly when it comes to clothes, makeup, boys, etc XD] and I have really high pitched coughs and hiccups. Weird, I know XD
Gender is just a word anyway, right? One day I’ll find a guy who can accept me- I can feel it in my bones! :D
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:37 am
I’m very much a girl, inside and out, with the exception of one thing.
Girls, don’t hate me, but the honest truth is that men are much more logical and rational than women. When it comes to making descisions, I always side with logic versus feelings.
For example, I could never have a wedding, what with the expenses and all. Wouldn’t that be better put towards a house? A car?
Anyway, I’m all about the logic.
But yeah, I love make-up, and clothes, and shoes, and long hair, and nail polish etc.
And chocolate. I hate that I fit that stereotype, but I do.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:55 am
I very much wanted to be a boy when I was little. I was Peter Pan for several different Halloweens, I dreamed of being Indiana Jones when I grew up and wore pants almost exclusively.
Ironically, I’m now disgustingly girly. I’m a pin-up model with a closet full of corsets and frilly party dresses and a bathroom full of hairspray and lipstick. I can’t say I’d have it any other way!
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:05 am
I think in my case, I like to be very casual and wear just jeans and sneakers, play video games, mess with the guys. But sometimes, I feel like dressing up and “acting my gender”. But I’m all girl, and I feel no matter what side I’m playing on at the moment, and no matter how happy or sad I am. GLEE!
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:11 am
Outside? I wear makeup, dresses, tights, little boots… whatever. I love clothing dressed up in lace. I feel prettier when it’s more vintage or classic looking.
Inside? I absolutely love Dungeons and Dragons, Magic the Gathering, Dragonlance, and literature. I have one of the biggest imaginations out there, and love anything intellectually stimulating. But then again, I’m a compulsive shopper and love gossip as much as the next girl.
I guess I’m the entire package. :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:14 am
No one can imagine what I used to be like except for the ones who have known me for a long time, but even my family has possibly no idea what I was like in primary school. Now on the exterior as well as the interior I could be considered a girly girl. I love shopping, fashion, makeup, soft toys so much it looks overdone. One might question if I was doing it for myself or for ‘others’ if they didn’t know me. Way too extravagant to the normal human being or girl. I am a girl to the ends of the earth right now, no one can doubt that I fit all stereotypes of a fashionable woman. But when I was young everyone who knew me thought I was a tomboy. I actually didn’t realise that for a while and I definitely didn’t act as a boy knowingly. On some occasions I remember now was that in kindergarten I played with boys, and one of my friends, a boy, said that all the girls are not allowed to play with the group of boys except for me. Why? I didn’t understand, but I was initially flattered by that comment. When I went to my second school more of this boyish behaviour came out with me defending my brother or picking up fights with boys heads taller than me. It came to the extent that other boys were scared of me and ran away with a horror stricken face. I also didn’t realise how bad I was, and I would say to everyone that being violent or even acting that way isn’t great, and that aspect of being a ‘boy’ shouldn’t be something to be proud of. Maybe as I look back I disapprove at the way I was and that may be part I’ve become more of a girl. But I think the most important aspect that I’ve picked up is the way my personality and emotions and feelings have changed. The emotional side is often attributed to girlish behaviour and I can be highly emotional, a sobbing wreak, a hysterical giggling girl, I’m all over the place. That is what most people think a girl is, in touch with that side. And that is the current way I am, whereas before I’d blank out on emotion and didn’t get all that bothered like a guy. I don’t know where this part of myself fits as boy or girl, it could be both, but I’m an intensely deep thinker. I’ve sat on both sides of the fence, and I’ve experienced change throughout life. And although I could be considered boy turned girl, it’s all relative and doesn’t necessarily matter either.
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:22 am
I’m a mix. I’m a girly girl in that I LOVE makeup, spray myself down with perfume on a daily basis, hang disco balls from my earlobes and have a rather impressive collection of necklaces but the other side of me is your standard guy. I hate wearing skirts, never wear heels, adore videogames and have a very laid back personality and boyish sense of humor. (i.e. that’s what she saids ‘n such) I don’t have many girl friends and I prefer hanging around with guys…..especially nice looking ones.
Anyway, to answer your question I can fit in with a group of girls, just most of the time I find it boring.
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:38 am
I have always been on the boyish side on the inside – throughout junior high and part of high school I was not a ‘pretty’ girl. However, my junior year of high school I finally ‘turned pretty’ I suppose, but still retained all of my boyish tendencies on the inside. I love sports, video games, movies like Fight Club and the Dark Knight, science fiction, anime, rock and roll and being different than the typical girl. My best friends are guys, and I trust them with anything and everything. But despite all of this, I love getting dressed up, love buying clothes and shoes, trying new make-up looks and, of course, the attention I receive from my male friends. In short, I have the best of both worlds, and would not change for anything or anyone. :]
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:45 am
I like being a girl as it seems more socially acceptable for us to be creative and shy and whatnot. But I know that I have some typically ‘male’ traits: I don’t care so much about my appearance except on special occasions, on the other hand I love concocting outfits that are a bit bizarre but work. I’m not good at finding things, and I tend to live in the moment rather than obsessing over the past or the future. I used to have a lot of male friends but now I’m closer to girls… It varies.
Overall I reckon I’m probably somewhere in the middle: not girly but not un-girly.
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:46 am
I think at the moment I embody the girly-girl stereotype. I love dresses and cute things, and my favorite color is pink. But this has not always been the case. When I was in high school, I went through a phase where I was really tomboyish, and then a kind of punk/goth phase. But now I feel a lot more true to myself and I’m happy.
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November 17th, 2009 at 2:39 am
I have to say that physically I’m obviously female. And I do have female emotions and pains. But sometimes I’m just a guy. I have always related to guys more, and got along with them better. I have bigger “balls” than most of my guy friends, and they acknowledge that fact. I very much wish to be girlie sometimes, but its hard for me. It doesn’t come naturally. I was raised by my Dad, so that probably explains a lot. I’m a Daddy’s girl through and through. And I do love androgyny, like Gabriel in the movie Constantine. I wanted his/her hairstyle for SO long! Doe Deere, you bring out the girl in me, you inspire me. Thank you!
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:17 am
I guess I would consider myself very tom-boyish, but I do enjoy getting girly once in a while. I wear a lot of tshirts with jeans and just sick my hair in a simple bun, but I enjoy mixing that with girly make-up and some girly printed hoodies with my video game tshirts.
Personality wise, I usually find myself siding with the boy side of things. I admit, I’m perverted, and I have a bad habit of swearing, and my interest in gaming/computers often makes me more approachable to guys. Too bad for them I’m happily married to a pervy nerd boy of my own!
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:22 am
I’ve definitely become a lot more “girly” within the past year. I love to make cute, silly things like cell phone charms and hair fascinators. I love to play dress up and play with bright make up (Thank you Lime Crime!). I enjoy baking cupcakes and decorating them until they’re too cute to eat. But on the inside, I have my boyish qualities too. To the point where some people think I’m bisexual or homosexual. I like nude female photography (My favourite model is Mosh! <3 So thank you, Doe, for collaborating with her so much!)and I like a lot of the strong male fashion.
But honestly, I like ambiguity and mixing sexualities. I think it's a good balance and healthy. Plus, it's sooo much more fun!!
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:38 am
i don’t really feel masculine or feminine, i just feel comfortable.
idk. i like a bit of a lot. nothing really feels unnatural so i don’t feel the need to box it. i’m the token straight kid out of a friend group of open-minded queers, so that might explain a lot.
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November 17th, 2009 at 4:07 am
I am total girly girl in most aspects, but I LOVE video games. Most of my friends are guys because of this. I’d rather spend my days shooting zombies than gossiping and shopping, but I still try to look fabulous while I do it. ;]
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November 17th, 2009 at 4:15 am
I was pretty tomboyish when I was young. But over the time this pretty much changed – I have a cute pink kitchen now (hehe) and love wearing heels & skirts. Some of my traits seem kind of boyish – I’m a leading person and quite active when it comes to flirting etc. Also I’m a little geek. All these are considered boyish, but in my opinion this is outdated! ;)
So, i’m proud to be a girl and show it!
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November 17th, 2009 at 4:24 am
while i have very short boyish hair and my boyfriend does most of the cooking in our house i’m definately very girly.
i pretty much never wore pants/shorts until i was around 19 as i didn’t feel pretty. and i still only own one pair of jeans and all my shorts are quite femeninely cut. i wear makeup every day and like the pretty things in life.
saying that i like beer, camp, never do my nails, hate cleaning, etc…
so i’m a mixture..
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November 17th, 2009 at 4:27 am
I think I look pretty girly 80% of the time, what with my heels and colors and such, but there are certain “male” elements that I’m not afraid to add to my look either. Like suspenders and ties, I’m fine with wearing them and will from time to time depending on my outfit.
On the inside, I have male friends that it’s easy for me to relate to and act as “one of the guys” so to speak, but I know that I’m still very feminine. I think some of my behaviors might be considered “tomboyish” because I can be aggressive and I have a very raunchy sense of humor. I know those are unisex traits, but stereotypically it’s not normal for a “lady” to be that way. I also like things that haven’t been considered “girly” until fairly recently, like video games.
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November 17th, 2009 at 5:44 am
I think one of the greatest indications that I don’t fit in with my gender is the simple fact that I read this blog!
As a 18 year old male, I shave my legs, wear eye-liner and have been known to often wear clothing of the opposite sex! Not for one second have I ever wished I was born a female (as much as I’ve never wished I weren’t gay), this is completely what I want to be.
Unfortunately I’ve had to deal with some adverse reactions, such as people asking me if I want a sex change (as if). I refuse to ever let this bother me, I am who I am!
Can’t wait to try your lipsticks Doe…
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November 17th, 2009 at 5:48 am
I’m such a girly girl both inside and out! No doubt about it :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 5:52 am
On the outside I’m very much a girly girl. I love to wear dresses and makeup and do my hair, and very high heels. But I’ve spent my life hanging out with the boys, so I usually end up kicking of my heels, climbing trees and getting messy. Also, I burp like a sailor!
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:09 am
I’m totally girly myself, I readily admit that. I love cute things, lots of color and make up and collect unicorns…
But I prefer to hang out with guys and my closest girlfriends are not overly feminine either. And I think I have a pretty brutally masculine sense of humor…
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:17 am
I think I fit quite closely within my gender by appearances, I LOVE make-up and very girly dresses. but I’m a bit of a tomboy in my taste in films books et al. And most of my friends are guys.
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:18 am
It has changed through the years. I’ve gone from being extremely girly to a bit tomboyish, to now where I’m sort of inbetween. I’m not afraid to burp (unless I’m at a fancy restaraunt)I enjoy perverse humor. I just started liking to wear dresses(right now isn’t a good time being it is so freakin cold). All in all I feel pretty feminine. Interior wise I’m an emotional wreck who suddenly finds herself crying at everything on tv. Exterior I wear bright colors,flats,bows in my hair, and look rather odd in walmart in my town. But to be honest I wouldn’t have it another way.
ps. This has nothing to do with the question but I got one of your lipsticks for my bday and it looks awesome. I feel like a classic glamourous movie star in it.
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:27 am
This is an interesting question!
In some ways I would say I’m very girly, I love interesting clothing, trinkets and baubels, playing dress up. I think those things are stereotypically feminine. Also I am very free with my emotions, I find it hard to conceal how I feel especially in sadness, I find from talking to guys that this seems to be more common in women although not exclusive.
However I tend to get on a lot better with boys. I have a pretty dirty sense of humour which seems to go down well better with guys in general. Also liking video games, comics and things like that is a more masculine set of interests I suppose.
I also find it hard to understand some aspects of how girls can be, for example the cattiness that can happen. I just don’t really understand the need for it.
Overall I would say I’m mostly feminine with some masculine streaks.
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:34 am
Haha! With me it’s the opposite! On the outside people think I am boyish.. and I also act a bit boyish. I’m always the though girl! Though secretly I want to be a bit more girlier! High heels, curls in my short hair and dresses XD Altough, because I’ve never done it, it’s hard to do it now. Especially the high heels.. I have so much respect for people who can walk normally in them.. for a whole day! *aplause for you!*
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:43 am
I think I embody the stereotypical girl at best. I love fashion, make-up, dressing up, clothes, etc, etc. Likewise, I don’t like sports, video games, etc. Most of my friends are girls, too. In fact, all of my guy friends are mostly acquaintances. I’ve made fiends with them ’cause I’ve got the ability to be extremely perverted and immature. ;)
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November 17th, 2009 at 6:53 am
I’m a girl in the sense that I love makeup & other beauty products, fashion, shoes and clothes. On the downside I feel like a boy because my outward appearance doesn’t look like I appreciate all the girly things that I love!
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November 17th, 2009 at 7:14 am
I would classify myself as very feminine, but not traditionally “girly”. I love being a woman – wearing dresses and skirts, being able to match and wear bright colours, and so on – but I don’t fit into that cookie cutter of loves-shopping, spends-hours-on-her-hair, has-a-gazillion-beauty-products-in-her-bathroom-cupboard kinda girl. I’m much more low maintenance than most the girly-girls I know, despite our looks being the same.
Still, I would never want to be a man! I guess what I’m trying say here is that I embrace my femininity the way I want to, not the way the fashion rags tell me I should…
–xo.
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November 17th, 2009 at 7:47 am
I believe sex & gender have nothing to do with each other. We define our gender. So in that respect, yes…I do fit. I fit because I believe myself to be quite androgynous. My gender representation is quite fluid depending on the day, my mood, etc.
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:18 am
I manage to somehow to be a glamazon and yet still dress the same as my boyfriend! The nails are painted loud and beautiful, the makeup is perfect, the dressing room could stock a cosmetics counter, but for weekend comfort the cargo pants are a must.
Does that make me sit in both camps? Maybe. I always know when to dress back in my girly girly clothes when my boy gives me a funny look – usually when we manage to wear the same colour cargos!!!
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:20 am
I definitely fit my gender by way of looks and many of my interests. But i love to break the barriers of what a girl is supposed to and not supposed to do. I went to school to learn how to work on cars. I like to go off roading and get the trucks all muddy. Im a girly girl at heart, but have no problem being one of the guys.
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:23 am
i manage to get the best of both gender dressing. Dressing hyper girly for work and then getting super comfy in cargos for having fun on the weekend with my boyfriend. This can mean my boy and I double up with our choices of pants – no he is not copying me, I manage to unknowingly copy him! Lucky for him I am stil a total girl: makeup, pretty nails, shoes and jewellery ensure I will never get mistaken for being a boy.
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:19 am
Well, physically I am most certainly a girl. I’m very…. shapely, and I wear feminine clothes that tend to accentuate that (simply because when I wear loose clothes I end up looking pregnant!! oh no!) and I wear girlie shoes (with the exception of my favorite- a black patent ankle slicker boot!!), makeup, and I act like a girl. BUT, on the flip side, facially I’m very adrogynous. In fact, in my makeup class for school (I’m in Theatre college) we had to make ourselves into males and I was disturbingly convincing!! Emotionally I tend to be a little of both. I love pretty things, and happy sweet cute things, and I design floofly girlie costumes, and I tend to be very feminine, BUT I can be very cold, I love a good fight (no, not to watch…), and I tend to unintentionally end up the dominant one in my relationships, though…. even though most people see that as masculine, I still see it as feminine. So I guess I’m a little bit of both!! But hey, that’s more fun!! :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:38 am
My masculine and feminine sides are always in a constant battle
Hello Kitty versus Circle Pits
Tutus versus Gangster movies
My love of boys and my love of women
I think they play off eachother very well
I’m typically more likely to be wearing jeans and vans but i always try and keep my makeup bright and colorful
I love being able to kick it with my guy friends but still being able to wear my favorite sun dress
So here’s to being one of the guys AND a girly-girl
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:45 am
Well, becouse im a boxer and i work out a lot(weight lifting etc.) i have the same body as a man, and it is not helping that i have got short hair and dont wear makeup. Only my family and my bestfriend look at me as girl to everyone else i am a boy. Mentally im a girl and love pretty dresses, but i cant wear a dress becouse i look like a guy. That is really frustrating. (i also dress in boy clothes)
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:57 am
I love being a woman! Sometimes I wear garters under my jeans just because I can!
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:59 am
I have my moments where I can be very girly and then in the same breathe I can do something completely “boyish”. I don’t think I fit into what society would consider acting like a girl. I hang out with guys, I play video games, and I rarely wear makeup.
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:00 am
I most definately fit in with my gender. I am female, hear me rawr! I’m entirely proud of all the feminine traits I possess and display them happily.
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:09 am
I think I definitely fit the girly stereotype. I love to paint my nails, and can’t bear to have them naked. My favourite outfits are dresses, and skirts with pretty blouses. I can’t go somewhere and dress up without wearing high-heels…it just doesn’t feel right! I think make up is important for expression, but I don’t wear it all the time. I always wear some sort of hair accessory. I love pretty underwear, and I also do ballet and other types of dance.
I do love to spend time with guys though – there’s nothing like just you and a bunch of guys, because there’s no pressure that you’re being judged on how you look or act. I woud say that my friends are equally male and female, because I’d go crazy if they were just girls, to be honest.
I wouldn’t change being a girl…I think guys are missing out :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:39 am
I’m a real girl and i’m proud of it. But it was not always like that, when I was a child, I was a real Tomboy. But I guess growing up makes you change and now i’m not ashamed of being a girl anymore!
I also think that even if you are kind of boyish, inside you’re always a woman!
Girl Power!
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:46 am
i’m a mad mix of gender ideas. i wear lolita and girly clothes, but i generally have no clue what to do with my hair. i play video games, so i’ve spent most of my life hanging out with guys and acting like them. i can tell dirty jokes with the best of them! even as a kid, i was the tomboy in a dress-didn’t want to ruin my clothes, but i did want to push boys off the swings if they were full and i wanted one. >.> and ten years of classical dance training(ballet, pointe, modern, and jazz-a very girly hobby) has done nothing for my clumsiness!
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:06 am
i feel like i’m a real girl. i could not even think of myself as a boy, beacause I am everything i dont want a boy to be like. easy to scare and so on.
But i really like to be friends with boys. I dont know why, but maybe because they wont talk anysthing bad about you behind your back( most cases). i like to play action games and movies but this is nothing boyish if you ask me. i think it is free for everyone to like what he likes.
there are some days i dont think about what to wear and others I could spend ours doing make up and dressing up, but i think this is totally normal for a girl.
I do not like the idea of people telling me what is boyish and what girly, i think the best is if you are happe the way you are.
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:06 am
The whole idea of gender is a social construct, a limit put on us by society. Sex is a biological fact, gender is a widely accepted fiction. Assuming a typical gender role is essentially a matter of conforming for the sake of doing so.
So no, I don’t necessarily follow societal gender norms. I’m quite as happy in a ballcap and a t-shirt as in a pretty party dress with sparkly stuff in my hair. I do more of the yard work, and my husband doees more of the cleaning in our relationship, but in other ways we’re quite traditional. Certainly I’m a makeup fiend – very girly in that regard – and my husband is not!! I guess it’s a matter of doing with confidence whatever works for the situation and mood you’re in!
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:10 am
I’m not the girlest girl in the world. I dress like a girl, but I rarely paint my nails or wear makeup. Other times I want to because it’s fun.
I definitely would not make a very good guy at all.
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:33 am
I feel like I have a happy mixture… I love all sports yet am obsessed with fashion and beauty. The best thing is though, I believe woman can be anything they want and do not have to confine themselves to one “mold” and in that case I am woman hear me roar :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:35 am
I’m a girly girl, and part from the swearing, which I’m cutting down rapidly, that’s all there is to it.
I love make up, fashion (obsessed with 40s-50s and the victorian era), nails (and oh-so-pretty nail colors), hair do’s (and try every once in a while to reproduce a period one, mostly comes out bleh, but I’m getting there). Oh and I love pink, and glitter, and some part of me still dreams about being a bona fide Barbie collector.
I think I pretty much sum up to be the “Girly” stereotype, and I LOVE IT! :D
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:39 am
When I was little, I was SUCH a little tomboy, because in my opinion, boys got to do the cool stuff, but girls had to stand back and watch. As I got older, I started doing more girly things, i.e. playing dress up, makeup, wearing skirts. However, that tomboy is definitely still there. I love hanging out with the guys (there’s so much less to worry about when talking to them! No one gets moody or insulted, they’re entertained by the cute girl in the skirt talking about killing zombies, I could go on…) I’ve started dealing with that “boys do cooler stuff” by writing strong female characters into my stories. So, I’m not sure what the equation would be as far as girliness vs. tomboy for me. It’s fun, though!
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:52 am
I always prided myself on being a tomboy when I was a kid — I loved climbing trees and getting into messes — but that’s kind of changed lately, because I discovered that I really love getting dresses up and playing with my makeup and going shopping with friends…all the cliche things that “girls like”. I feel like I haven’t gone completely over to the dark side (…pink side?) though, because I still do love to climb trees and such. Really, the things I enjoy the most — reading, writing, seeing my friends — are completely non-gendered in terms of cliche. Everyone can like to read…it might make you a nerd, but it won’t make you manly or girly, etc. So, I guess my true gender is just ‘nerd’.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
I think I’m more on the girly side, I love feeling fabulous and being pampered, having my nails done or indulging in random makeup shopping sprees. Unfortunately society has put such indulging/likes in the category of ‘airhead’ and the like. This makes me quite angry because most of the people I know like these things as well and are far from being ‘airheads’. Just because I like looking good and have fun with makeup doesn’t mean I’m not also interested in politics, or that I can’t read because all I do is shop. I hope this misconception blows over at some point!!
I also enjoy things typically associated with males, like videogames, but I think these kinds of associations will soon disappear as the mass media is targetting as many people as possible regardless of gender sometimes; more and more girls are into that kind of stuff, and what about the whole “boyfriend” fashion (boyfriend jeans, boyfriend shirt, boyfriend blazer…), not to mention guys interested in fashion. Things are constantly changing so there isn’t a clear cut between genders any more.
There, I said it! *phew*
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Haha, great question dear. My mom says that I’m the girly version of a man, because I can fix a car and house problems as well as any handyman, but all while in a skirt and full makeup!
As a kid, I played with Barbies, climbed trees, fished, did makeup, so I was an equal mixture. The majority of my friends are girls, but my closest friends are my boys. I wrestle and talk cars with them on a daily basis, but my closest friends are the exact opposite of me, men over six feet tall that are huge and absolutely the biggest teddy bears you’ll meet!
My best friend Michael actually once commented that I have the strangest way of dressing because I went on a weekend fishing trip with the boys in sparkly red flats, a white skirt and a cute top, and I’ll be in the thick of it, gutting the fish, starting the fire, cooking the food, and digging around the woods looking for wood to start the damn thing. =] Good times.
But, I guess the final answer is that I’m a girly version of a man.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:13 pm
I suppose I probably am quite the girly girl. I love getting dressed up, I love heel, I love playing with makeup, I love my four poster bed, I love being a girl. But I would also love to be a boy. I don’t like the colour pink, I love watching UFC, I love having “guys nights” and eating my weight in chicken wings. So while I am perfectly happy being a girl and fitting into what is expected of my gender I also like to deviate and express my masculine side.
xoxo
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
I’m 100% female in every way. Although my mom is what you would consider “boyish”, I’ve never been that way. I don’t like cars, sports, hunting, etc. There’s nothing I love more than doing my hair & makeup, shopping for clothes, reading my Cosmo mag, etc. Pink is my favorite color, and I also love really fuzzy things. =P
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Well, I really believe that gender is entirely socially constructed, and I feel like that belief has freed me to not worry too much about how well I’m “performing” the gender ascribed to my biological sex (female). Thus, I love playing with makeup and fashion, but also enjoy horror movies and porn (and am always surprised when male consumers of those entertainments imagine that they’re male-only interests). Similarly, I hate romantic comedies, women’s magazines, and wearing pink, and am generally considered a “tough girl”. Go figure.
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Well, I’m most definitely a bit of both. I really love ‘typical girly stuff’ like make-up, shopping, girly movies, etc. but on the other hand, I also have the weirdest sense of humour (that only my guy friends seem to understand), I’m VERY messy (my sister recently said that my room looked as if there had been a bachelor party) and I do a lot of things that ‘girls aren’t supposed to do’ (like trying to spit on cars while standing on a bridge).. best of both worlds!
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November 17th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
I’m a girl, but most of the time i feel like a guy cross dresser. Or something like that. I love girly stuff, but I’m really boyish in some aspects.
I guess on the outside I look very girly. I have a really long and reaaally curly gold-brown hair, I wear only skirts and dresses and you’ll never see my nails without some weird coloured nailpolish.
On the other hand I like boyish stuff a lot too. I may wear only skirts, but I’m just not able to walk in high heels, so I wear my old combat boots (or my even older chuck’s. I even had to make them into something else because there was no hope left for them http://forum.threadbanger.com/showthread.php?t=846 ). I think I turn my head to look at pretty girls more than I do to look at guys (though I’m cerainly not a lesbian. I love to LOOK at pretty girls, but I cant picture myself in a relationship with one). Even though I’m shy, I have this really agressive outbursts sometimes (which I tend to asociate to my inner driven-by-hormones teenage boy).
I think I’m 70% girl and 30%boy.
Or 65% girl, 25% boy and 10% unicorn.
Oh, and by the way.. I think there are only little people who are 100% one gender.
I’ve always imagined that ‘100% girl’ means fearing all types of insects, being useless in everything that requires one to control her emotions and thinking of clothes only.
On the contrary, ‘100% boy’ would be this stupid macho guy, with little to no emotional intelligence and that eats only junk food & meat (’cause veggies are for bunnies and bitches).
In other words, 100% anything means someone who has all the stereotyped bad qualities for his/her gender. There must always be some kind of equilibrium, I guess.
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November 17th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
On the exterior, I’m very much a girl. I’m Marilyn Monroe curves and styled hair. I’m makeup and accessories. On the inside? I laugh at farts, and like getting muddy and running around in parks. I identify a lot with traits commonly associated with boys, and always would prefer to have a little boy myself. I also envy boys because they’re lucky to have us beautiful girls with all the effort we put into looking stunning! However, I most admire those who can pull off the androgynous look like my best friend, as I will never be able to!
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November 17th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
I suppose I’m a bit of both – my style has both super-girly and more alternative, boyish aspects to it. Like right now I’m wearing a Topshop floral playsuit with a cut-up Bring Me The Horizon band tee over the top, and sometimes I’ll wear a girly dress with a big blazer or punk-ish leather jacket. I used to want to be a boy when I was younger – loved Playstation games and wearing jeans – but I’m 100% comfortable with being who I am. I’m obsessed with fashion, pretty things and adorable boys and wouldn’t have it any other way!
The androgynous look on certain guys and girls is gorgeous, especially on skinny figures with gorgeous cheekbones.
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November 17th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
oooh I like this question! (:
I fit well in both genders. I love dressing up, I love colors and makeup and dresses. Heels, purses, jewelry. ahh! I’m such a girl! I wouldn’t call my attitude that of a man, but of a strong, independent woman. Working ten times harder to get the same recognition as a man would in a similar situation.
I definitely have boy-like traits. Not to stereotype but I curse like a sailor, I spit, when I go to shows I’m not afraid to show the boys in the pit what’s up. Not to mention I work in a hardware store. On a daily basis people are confused by the way I look and they treat me like I am a clueless child, when in reality I know more about home improvement than most normal shoppers ever will.
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November 17th, 2009 at 2:53 pm
if you’re asking me do i display my gender characteristics now then yes. before i was such a tom boy. it’s amazing how time changes the mind on everything. i hated pink, heels, or the thought of even showing my legs but, now i’m glad to say i have the confidence and interest of displaying all those! though, on the other hand… i don’t act and think like a princess. i consider myself one of the guys just with a prettier exterior.
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
For me, I fit my gender on the outside definatley, and on the inside. From an outsiders point of view i’m into the latest fashion, follow trends and love make-up. My favourite colour is pink. While in class the other day, we were talking about cars. My teacher asked me if I would want to a pink car. I didn’t understand how he knew. 5 minutes later, I looked down, looking at my bright pink quilted bag, my bright pink blouse and purple top. It all made sense then!
On the inside i’m very much like I am on the outside. I like the boys fashion etc, but am not much like one on the inside. Probably the exact opposite
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
I grow up in very feminist and gender-rules-free household and by the way I think, act and talk you can guess that. In someways I have more a son-father type of relationship with my father than daughter-father.
But I look very feminine. I love dresses and pretty shoes. And I’m more interested about fashion than sports or cars.
I think boyish girls are hot but I feel most comfortable lookin like…me.
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
I tend to be more girly (if you can’t tell by the ponies on my website) but I prefer to think about who I want to be idealistically and work towards that instead of fitting into gender roles.
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November 17th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
Its hard to say when it comes to gender and masculine/feminine traits. When I was younger, I wore no make up (what a strange time tis was), wore my older brother’s clothes and tried to identify with boys more than girls. To me it may have been a safety net for a girl who needed to have some more self confidence in her looks. As I got older its easier to be feminine when you feel secure about your looks. I’m often told that although I move, look and sound like a girl that people can identify my personality as male.
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November 17th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
I’m such and odd mix of girly girl and tom boy. I dress very feminine but all of my favorite hobbies and things are typically considered “guy stuff”.
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November 17th, 2009 at 7:47 pm
I love glitter, glamour, makeup, and goodness i love unicorns and bows. I love to get dressed up everyday, but I’m torn with my gender. I dislike gender roles. I dislke stereotypical things people assume i should do becuase I’m a woman. On the inside, i am a boy. Not only a normal boy, but a gay one. I say fabulous in one day more than half the gay community combined. If i was in the right skin, i believe i would be a techno clubbing sparkly transvestite in new york city. maybe one day. xo
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
On the outside I look very much like a boy. My personality is also of a boy. Though I am a girl the way I act is not because of others or things arround me. It’s just my personality and it’s how i express myself. The confusing stares don’t bother me. The “dykes” spit at me don’t bother me. Other people’s close mindedness isn’t of my concern and I don’t feel the need to care that much about physical appearance anyway. The only girly thing about me is my love for makeup…
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
I think I’m kind of girly in how I dress, move, etc. There’s nothing too masculine about me. But I’m not gender-typical in every way, and I don’t really care about conforming to traditional gender roles, or believe that women should be this way, men that. To me there’s nothing inherently “masculine” or “feminine” about people, I mean, I hate statements like “She was a real woman” – because what does that mean? People just have qualities that are more or less seen as feminine/masculine, that’s not their nature. But I do feel and have always felt very strongly like a girl, and I get this sense about some people, too, who are undoubtedly “feminine” though not girly necessarily. My parents believe that “Women are gentle,” “Men should do this,” etc., and that there are certain roles they should fulfill, and things they should choose (even just trifling aesthetic choices!) – but to all that I always thought, Who cares?
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:41 pm
I am very girl in the way that i love makeup, hair and clothes. I also find it soooo much easier to get on with girls because girls just get me way more then guys do. The guys that I do know, I am best friends – they are exceptions & its cos i love them :). Sometimes though, I think it would be so much easier to be a boy because they don’t have all the bitchiness and the two-facedness and I hate stuff like that :(
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:45 pm
I am girly in the clothing that I like and the makeup and perfume that I am OBSESSED with…but I am boyish in how low maintenance I am, my interests, and how I tend to put clothing and accessories together. Underwear, pants, shirt, socks, shoes..good to go!
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November 17th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
I have always thought I was a bit like a boy trapped in a girl’s body.
I love playing with makeup and glitter and girly things, but at the same time I’m not afraid of getting dirty or breaking a nail (not saying all girls are like that, but some can be).
Oftentimes, I find that girls are taught to be coy and keep their thoughts to themselves. Not so with me. I will say what is on my mind and express how I feel. And I feel no shame in doing so.
I have always found that I get along better with boys than I do with girls. I have many friends that are girls, but my three best friends are all boys.
Another example is when I was little, I used to not wear dresses that much. I preferred overalls, jeans, or sneakers. One day, I ran around the house with my friends as Peter Pan and his lost boys, not Wendy or Tinkerbell. To this day, I still have to really be in the mood to wear a skirt or heels. I don’t feel like I should wear those things a lot just because I am a girl.
In my opinion, gender roles are relative. We shouldn’t try and stuff ourselves into one category just because of the genitalia we’re born with. If you’re a boy and want to wear makeup, go for it! If you’re a girl and you want to wear more boyish cuts of clothing or hair, why not? What society says is utter garbage. Be who you want to be, regardless of what “rules” are out there. When it comes to being who you are, there are no rules. The sky’s the limit!
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November 17th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
I’ve often been told I’m very masculine, and tomboyish, but I think I’m a fair mix of both sexes! I love pretty and cute things just as much as I love action movies and video games. I try not to consider a certain behavior as ‘feminine’ or ‘masculine’, since I think anyone can enjoy anything they want to, and I tend to consider myself fairly gender neutral. I was the only girl, as well as the youngest growing up, with four older brothers to push their likes and habits onto me, but I was also a girl who liked to play with Barbie’s and dress up before going outside and playing in the mud.
I usually wear a mix of men and woman’s clothes, mainly because of my figure, but also because of my personal preference. I like to be comfortable, but I also have a bit of style. I’ve been mistaken for a boy before, not just because of my clothes, but because of my attitude and mannerisms that are usually associated with males, but there are instances where I’ve been called girly. I am who I am, and I just tell people I’m ambiguous. :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:08 pm
I totally fit into the realm of all things feminine. I love to dress up ( I completely over-dress every day). I love to wear make-up (great pink planet is my new fave!) lipstick is an everyday essential.
But it didn’t use to be like this, in middle school I was the essence of tom-boy, I wore box clothes (even boxers) I played basketball and football a total boy.
But when I went to high school I discovered that it was ok to be a girl. I embodied the female spirit, I denounced all things male. I practically became another person.
But now, after a semester in college I finally have come to terms with both sides, I am a girly girl, but I love comic books and video games.
Ck. Valentine <3
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:15 pm
I’m girlish on the outside (even though I wear quite a lot of unisex clothes and usually sneakers XD; but I have long hair, I love makeup and nailpolish, and I have never been mistaken for a boy since I was six), but I like a lot of “boys stuff”, like computers, technology in general, scifi and videogames(I know, there are lots of girls who like these things too, but well, there are more men).
However, I would say that I fit in my gender quite well. But I like the part of me that doesn’t ;)
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
I’m the same as many other girls have said: I’m very girly on the outside but I have a lot of interests people would say are guylike. For instance, I love comic books, mainly DC, and I’m into kickboxing. On the other hand, I adore shopping, clothes, heels and bright colors! So I guess really I’m more a mix of the best interests of guys and girls :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 10:49 pm
I think it depends on the aspect of my life. I love makeup and my long hair and cute “girl” clothes and SHOES, but I also love comic books and firetrucks and ice hockey. When I was younger my older brother dragged me to the mall to buy more “girly” clothes, because he felt that I was wasting my looks in jeans and tshirts all day long. (This isn’t necessarily true, but he’s my brother, so he’s biased). My mom has even commented that she believes I should have been a boy because of all the ~boy~ things I like. But I think I am slowly growing into myself, and it is becoming a lot more acceptable for girls now to delve into the world of boy things and activities, so I feel it is less of a divided line for me :)
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:39 pm
well, i am a bit of the unisex type. i may even be androgynous (did i spell that right?). no doubt, i look like a girl…and could never be mistaken for being male. i’m very curvy and have a very feminine face. i don’t have any boobs though…
most of my behaviours don’t fall into a general gender category. i’m pretty much a “sexless spirit”. i have masculine and feminine traits. sometimes one dominates the other. i’m a very paradoxial person.
its’ weird, i;ve never really thought of this subject before, which might be why it isn’t so clear and a bit under-detailed.
to sum it all up: i’m a perfect mix of the sexes to make either internal androgony (spelling?) or internal unisexness. outside, body-wise i look like a total girl with a flat chest. i wear a mix of boyish and girlish clothes. i can’t really be put on either side. if you ask anybody about my behaviour they’ll just say i’m a really freaky, weird person. i don’t get people sometimes.
and i wrote a lot. sorry!
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
pretty on the outside; tough as nails on the inside!
i embody the best of both genders!
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
damnit…okay, i’ve had some sugar…so, i would like to state that i know that androgyny (hahah! finally got it!) and unisex are the same damn thing.
i just didn’t think about that when i was typing XO…thanks to sugar…
i made a fool of thyself! sorry again! hahah XD
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November 17th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
Outward appearance wise, I suppose I don’t really fall into the expected appearance of my gender more so than the other.. I tend to have a balance between the two, wearing very girly clothing, or mens sweatshirts, fitted jeans, baggy jeans.. I most definitely own more “girly” clothing, dresses, skirts, colors in abundance. Most of the time I wear make-up but then again frequently enough I go au-naturale.. for the most part my friends have been guys, though the balance has become about equal.
I most associate myself with my given gender…female.
Though I carry a very observant and objective view by nature, and therefor feel fairly comfortable in either company.
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November 18th, 2009 at 12:10 am
I actually have never much identified as a girl until about 3 or 4 years ago. I did think of myself as female (the monthly, bloody reminder is hard to ignore) and I’m only sexually attracted to men, but almost all of my friends were male, and I really didn’t get along with most women. Recently I’ve come to embrace my softer side, and somehow along with being more empathetic came skirts and cuter clothes (before I was very into unisex punk and gothic fashion). The two certainly could not be related as a generalization for everyone, but somehow being more open and understanding came with a love of stuffed animals and long flowy skirts.
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November 18th, 2009 at 12:49 am
Haha, this has become quite the struggle for me! Growing up I was a total tomboy raised by a tomboy mother and had a tomboy sister. It ran in our family pretty much! Knitting, dresses, Hello Kitty and anything pink were all for sissy girls. I grew up in boy’s Goosebumps t-shirts, carpenter jeans and skater shoes. I wouldn’t even wear a bra until about 7th grade. I would’ve much rather have gone to a car show than learn to cook. As a little, little kid before I really understood the difference between girl’s and boy’s plumbing I sometimes wondered if I was a boy with inside out “stuff.”
Flash forward to today! I now have a closet full of heels, skirts, dresses and the like. I have a huge case full of makeup and I’m always hunting for more! I have an expensive (by my standards) haircut and *gasp* actually style it! I also lately have had the strange urge to put on a retro dress, pearls, frilly apron and heels and do some baking. Oh, and that hatred of pink and Hello Kitty? I started wearing them both ironically and now they’ve grown on me! 10 year old me would be ashamed and I still have this strange resistance inside to being so girly.
At least I’m still not above getting dirty, working with tools and playing with farm animals. I also enjoy reading comic books, video games, classic cars, horror movies, punk rock music and other “guy” things. I even like snakes, rats, bats and other “gross” critters! Just don’t ask me to take care of big spiders…
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November 18th, 2009 at 2:17 am
I’ve never thought of myself as a girl. But I don’t think of myself as a boy either. I’m simply female and because I’m female doesn’t mean I have to conform to pre-set norms that society holds for those of a specific gender. In fact, I try my best not to. Why should I behave like everybody else simply because it is considered “normal”? On a related note, I’ve never behaved in a typically female way — I’m much too busy being myself rather than being who people want me to be :)
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November 18th, 2009 at 2:31 am
I know I’m the only guy writing in on this but, I this really caught my attention as a reader of the blog.
I fit into my gender in appearance, at times. I tend to let my facial hair grow out when I’m not working. Wear baggier clothes, once in a while. Like, when I go to work (I work at an Abercrombie and Fitch), wearing my jeans, polos, and flipflops I completely masculine in appearance… that is, if I were to stay completely still. Haha.
But, that’s the only time I feel complete part of my gender. Or even when I go out with to a “straight” venue, I feel this weird urge to blend in, which I sadly do. Or when I’m with my guy friends, I high-five, make raunchy jokes, and discuss horror/action movies.
Outside of work/anywhere I feel my full self, I wear tighter jeans, silver sequined Chuck Taylors, some brightly colored tee (usually some shade pink, purple, or blue), and a gold hoodie. I blast pop music; usually Lady Gaga, or another female singer. When I head out, I drink “fruity” drinks, like Cosmos and such. I’m a fashion major, with a penchant for color and art in any form. I gossip like it’s a second job, and know a lot about pop culture. My emotions sway like a ticking clock. Even recently, I’ve been dabbling with makeup; mostly foundation, concealer, eyeliner, and mascara.
All of my friends are girls. I grew up with a lot of girl friends. I’ve always felt it easier to communicate with girls. It’s where a lot of my mannerisms came from, and I certainly don’t try to hide them. I’m fully aware that I’m much more feminine in demeanor, than I’d ever be. And I’m fine with that.
I understand my gender, embrace being male but, I understand the opposite gender too. I can advise either, when they need it. I advise girls on guys, and guys about girls. It’s a happy medium where I am, and I love it.
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November 18th, 2009 at 3:08 am
Firstly, I listen to death metal. At a concert, I am about one of perhaps ten females there, if even that. So there’s one thing girls don’t typically do. Hahaha.
Up until two years ago, I despised skirts and dresses, and anything feminine really. I just felt extremely uncomfortable in them.
Now, I wear skirts and dresses regularly, and I’ve come to embrace that side of me more, without necessarily sacrificing who I am as a woman who isn’t stereotypically feminine.
Generally, my friends as a whole are mostly male, except for my very closest friends, who tend to be female. Oh, and my boyfriend is one of my best friends too.
Of course, with being goth, there’s a whole other thing with androgyny, so I won’t even get into my cross-dressing antics. HAHA.
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November 18th, 2009 at 3:34 am
I am incredibly feminine. I rarely wear anything but skirts and dresses, I never leave the house without a full face of makeup, and I don’t think I own one pair of flats. On the outside, I go above and beyond what is expected of a typical woman.
However, on the inside I’m like a mixed bag. I think everyone is a little feminine and a little masculine, and I like that. I like that people defy stereotypes and keep me guessing.
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November 18th, 2009 at 4:17 am
When I was younger (say 9 to 14), I most definitely identified with boys, in dress and the what I was interested in. I loved video games and just throwing on a pair of sweat pants and a t-shirt. I didn’t care about my appearance at all.
Now that I’m 18, my more feminine side has definitely come through. I love to wear make-up and do so daily, and I love dresses and shoes!
I was never ashamed to be a girl but I definitely am more willing to embrace it now and could even be considered “girly”. When it comes to my personality, I will say I’m still probably more boy-ish as all my close friends are boys and I still love video games and just pal’in around.
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November 18th, 2009 at 4:59 am
I identify with being more ‘drag queen’ than femme girl. I’m queer, in a long-term relationship with a straight boy, but feel I give off a masculine energy, despite being a reasonably frilly goth.
At work yesterday, someone called me ’super feminine’, and others agreed. Twas baffling for me!
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:46 am
This is actually quite an awesome question!!
Well, I’m not actually sure how to answer this question properly. I’d say that I’m more of a girl, in that I love pink, frills, bows, cute boys ..etc. And that I have the ability to talk non stop, nag, pms, and multi task :D
But, sometimes I feel like I don’t always fit into the girl category. A lot of the things I like to do are quite “boy-ish” but I don’t really see anything wrong with it. Like, I would sometimes prefer a zombie killing game over a cute pony riding one … and I could really get into the sports like hockey, soccer etc whilst many of my friends are too scared to be violent etc hahah
But either way, I’m quite satisfied with how I am because being able to communicate with both genders, female and male, allows me to converse easily with either gender! :D
Thanks for the awesome question Doe!! x
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:56 am
I guess I could say I’m a girly-girl. I love make-up (I think I have close to 200 hundred bottles of nail polish, but I haven’t counted; I’m always wearing polish). Glitter all the way. I adore all things cute (both ‘traditional’ cute and my own views of what cute is). I could spend hours in make-up and jewelry stores (I do not like clothes shopping however). I’m curvy (which can make clothes shopping a pain). If I could dress the way I wanted to, I’d definitely be seen as girly, wearing lots of skirts and dresses (I love the Gothic Lolita fashion in all its forms; I also love the style of the 40’s and 50’s). I love to sew, knit, and do crafty things.
However:
I pay no attention to what’s ‘in’. I don’t buy fashion magazines. I don’t wear make-up often and I mostly wear jeans and t-shirts. Comics and video games rock. Sci-fi, fantasy, and horror are my favorite genres. I would call myself a geek. I loved math and science and probably would have gone on to a field that was concentrated in one or both of those subjects if my high school education hadn’t sucked. I went to Space Academy (which is like the next step up from Space Camp). I have no desire to have a boyfriend and have never been in that kind of a relationship.
I guess you could say that I’m a mix of feminine and masculine. I love being a girl and would never, ever want to be a boy. I’m also very happy that I have sisters and no brothers.
And as a sociologist in training, I’m finding these comments a great read.
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:57 am
Seems quite a provocative question! I grew up sub-consciously thinking I should have been born a boy, all while pursuing a career as a dancer, loving ballet and beautiful gowns. It’s only now, in my late 20’s, that I am feeling comfortable as a woman. Not a girl, but a strong, confident woman. I am a burlesque dancer, which is all about hyper-femininity, but I am comfortable with the parts of myself I associate with femininity, and those I associate with masculinity. Gender is a fluid, non-fixed thing, and I think its boundaries are defined by the individual. I am good at some traditionally feminine things, but terrible at others, and the same applies to masculine traits. We’re all fascinating in our complexity.
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November 18th, 2009 at 7:36 am
I am definitely completely female and am reliefed that it is that way. I love make up, dressind up and use my car just to go from A to B.
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November 18th, 2009 at 7:42 am
Meh bit of both really! For instance, I love football!! But I also love dressing up, going out and have an obsession with alternative fashion. I’m also however very into physics, which I think is a bit boyish as well x
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November 18th, 2009 at 7:52 am
I think i have more boy like traits. i love makeup and jewelery but if its different and dark, but its hard for me to fit in with my girlfriends because the things they talk about dont interest me. i dont think thats such a bad thing. i prefer the boyish side of me because it make me feel more carefree but meanwhile my girl traits make me feel feminine and need to show once in a while
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:38 am
This is actually something I’ve been thinking about for a few weeks now.
I find that I lean more towards a psychological affiliation with boys, though I’m definitely comfortable in my girly skin. How pronounced that affiliation is tends to be determined by who I’m with (or without) at any time, and generally presents as a pretty extreme case of Feminism.
I tend to get along better with boys in general. I like the rough-and-tumble approach to boys in everything they do, and I enjoy the physical freedom of being able to play rough with them. Oddly enough, though, I find that my femininity presents and flaunts itself the most when I’m with guys. I like the unspoken challenge it presents to their sense of gender equality, even when I’m wearing four-inch heels and the frilliest dress I can find.
And with my girl friends I turn into the alpha dog on guard duty. I’m very much and very obviously a woman, even in jeans, but I naturally assume the role that a guy ‘typically’ takes to protect the pack, and I use my femininity as a silent dare to mess with me or my friends.
And when I’m by myself, it doesn’t change that much. I am woman, hear me roar, watch me strut, et cetera.
My body is a broadsword, baby. I’m gonna go down swinging. ;P
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:29 am
I think it depends on my mood! I enjoy a few pints with the boys in front of the rugby as much as I do a girly night at the karaoke (yes, really!) with my girlies. Having said that, I love my nails, hair and skincare products, but I know plenty of boys who are as high maintenance as me!
At the moment though, I’m definitely feeling very feminine and womanly – my first baby is due in 2 weeks! Never let anyone tell you pregnancy ruins your looks – I’ve never been sexier! :)
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:50 am
Fantastic question, and so great to see all kinds of answers!
I won the “girliest” award when I left school, but I have always had some masculine features that made me feel like I was somehow less of a woman.
I love what Jinn above me has written – about using her femininity to protect her friends. I completely agree. I’m a strong woman, and it scares some people (especially men!). I am most fierce when it comes to protecting those I love.
I love pink, and sparkles, and fluff. People are somewhat overwhelmed by oestrogen when they walk into my room. But I also love rugby, and comics, and have a lot of male friends.
I’ve come to the conclusion recently that if I were a man, I would be a drag queen. I couldn’t enjoy myself fully unless I was painting my face and acting out extravagently!
I agree with a lot of people on here – there shouldn’t be just one gender you HAVE to fit into. You should feel comfortable displaying traits that are true to yourself and never listen when someone tells you that “you shouldn’t do that, ‘cos you’re a girl”. If you’re happy, and not hurting anybody, how can it be wrong?
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Bamvivirie Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 4:20 pm
I would be a drag queen too ;)
VIVA LA SPARKLES!!
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November 18th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
Ooh great question Doe!!! I feel I can relate to what you are saying totally.
I myself love fashion, dressing up, crafts, make up and spending infinite time painting my nails!!! I love all cute and pink things. However most of my friends see me as “one of the lads” I have very few girlfriends and find it hard to relate to girls and find true friendship with them. I also spend a lot of my time doing things that are stereotypically “male”.
Gender ambiguity is definitely intriguing and attractive. I think I like to form some solid female relationships and have the occasional “girls night” but I would want to ever change my more “masculine” side!
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Neek Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
wouldn’t** sorry ^_^
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November 18th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
I think I’m on the borderline (gender norms). I have certain characteristics that are feminine (I do enjoy dressing up from time to time, nurturing, sensitive, domestic, crafts such as knitting, et cetera) but I can also be a bit masculine (aggressive, prefer jeans and a tee, handy work such as fixing things or making furniture, fps, et cetera). There’s more but I have no idea how to explain it without writing an essay and I do not want to bore you ;p
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November 18th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I guess I fit quite well in my gender. I’m a girl and dress and behave very girly/feminine. I love skirts, dresses, shoes, handbags and… make-up! I also love everything cute and pink. But I also sometimes like doing things that can be considered boyish. Not very often, but sometimes. This summer for example I found a little cupboard on the street, just standing there with the garbage. I diceded to take it and paint it over (ok I did paint it pink.. but some of my girlfriends were like ‘omg you painted that all over by yourself?) in fact, I didn’t consider painting a cupboard (and my bike) un-feminine, but others apparently did. I also used to play PC games, like Diablo II… and was one of the only girls in my ‘clan’ :P
I think that how we feel in relation to gender is also very much related to society’s opinion and the measurements of others.
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November 18th, 2009 at 3:34 pm
I wouldn’t say I’m exactly boyish, but I’m not a girlie girl either. Actually I wish I was more girlie, but it is just so much work! So I usually have some girlie periods and more practical periods.
I wish I had the confidence that most boys have though.
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November 18th, 2009 at 3:47 pm
I’m a very female looking woman. I have female curves as they’re described in the books, and my facial structure is very classical as well. I believe that I represent the stereotypical woman on the inside as well, except for my utter nerd-ness ;)
I also do not believe in genders when it comes to sexuality. Personally, I’m attracted to both men and women alike.
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November 18th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
I like to hear someone say they find gender deviance attractive :) I do too.
I love things that are stereotypically girly, like the color pink, rainbows unicorns and lipstick!! But I feel the need to balance my outward appearance with the other things I love that are associated with masculinity, like combat boots, my bike and a tough attitude. In that way I feel entitled to wear all the pink sparkly accessories I want without anyone assuming that because I’m a girly girl, I can’t also kick their ass at the same time! ;)
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November 18th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
This is a topic I talk about pretty often. I’m pale blonde…and well lets put it this way, when my friend wanted to paint a picture of Alice in Wonderland, she asked me to model.
I love fairytales (as in study them, read them, write them illustrate them and create artworks based on them), I’m a children’s entertainer (as a fairy), I sing, dance…I scream girl.
When I was little instead of a pony, I wanted a Harley Davidson. Instead of Girlfriend I listened to Alice Cooper (still do…been to see him live a few times…he’s my HERO). I studied various forms of martial arts, I did all my own maintenace on my own car, studied programming (only girl in the class)and can repair anything in sight…I also scream boy.
I’ve actually had ex-boyfriends who were weirded out by this…I break up with anyone who can’t handle both sides of me. I always resent people that tell me it’s not lady-like to fight…I have a lot of trophies (some of them won against guys as when I was fighting competitively there were very few girls in the sport) and they look very glittery and girly to me.
I don’t trade in who I am for anyone.
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November 18th, 2009 at 5:55 pm
I’m similar to you in that aspect Doe; for the most part I seem quite happy being a girl. Truth be told though I’ve probably got the most wicked case of penis envy EVER, hahah. I fit in on the outside ’cause I wear happy colorful clothes and makeup (sometimes) and show affection and jig and love people and just generally cut a rug. You get to know me though and I’ll be one’a the first to jump up and wanna scrap!
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Sarah Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 6:20 pm
“Truth be told though I’ve probably got the most wicked case of penis envy EVER, hahah.”
YOU TOO? Let’s be best friends. 8D
I’m also usually good for a scrap! Being girly is usually fun, but sometimes roughin’ it up a bit is an awesome change. That said, I’ve never been in any fights.
You’re too cool. 8D
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
In schools I was always an outsider, & I always thought it was because there was something masculine and confrontational in my energy. In high school I started dressing sometimes like a gangster, and this served a few purposes: one, I was obssessed with film noir, and by dressing up I could become the very objects of my desire; but also, when I wore men’s clothes, I felt shielded- as a girl I felt completely weak and helpless. I became positive I was more manly than other girls. On the dancefloor, I didn’t shake my booty or try to be sexy, instead I completely rocked out with unladylike violence. I was never obssessed with body hair the way other girls were; not interested in constantly verbally abusing my figure. And although I sort of consider myself straight, queer culture became my home.
As I grew up I came to realize I was much smaller and more delicate than I thought of myself. Nowadays, the stronger I feel, the more dresses I wear and the more gentleness I allow myself to show. But to my eyes, there’s still a rough side to the way I look at my own face, the way my hands look and make.
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
For the most part, I absolutely love being a girl. I love the gorgeous clothes we can get away with wearing. I love being able to paint my face a million different colours with makeup.
Like Variety (above) I also have a massive case of penis envy. Imagine being able to pee anywhere! 8D
But the part of me that wants to be a boy also thinks that I would probably end up still wearing makeup and lots of nice clothes, and I don’t think my love for the male form would die. I’d probably be gay, if my personality stayed the same.
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November 18th, 2009 at 6:43 pm
I think I’m breaking nearly all rules and tend to most ‘boyish’: I study informatics, love to solder my own devices and digging myself deeply into my linux-computer. Due to this, nearly all of my friends are boys^^
I don’t care much about clothing (but it has to be black) and don’t wear make up, except when going to party. Sometimes I think that i should have been born as a boy, but on the other hand, it is exciting being a girl and doing all those ‘manly’ things and finally get the boys amazed :D
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:34 pm
I am soooo girly, sometimes, it’s nearly a crime. Stereotypically, of course. I love dresses, adore shoes and am obsessed with makeup! I can get stuck in a romance novel(the smuttier the better) and it’s difficult for me to put down girly magazines. But I’m not a complete girl, and don’t mind chilling with the guys and watching hockey, or playing video games instead of shopping(though I DO love shopping..) :D
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Ooh… Nice question. :D
I do love being a girl, even if I’m generally awkward sometimes. I’m kind of curvy. As far as how I dress, I’m usually in jeans and a shirt. But I love wearing skirts and dresses, especially during spring and summer. I love wearing corsets. I miss having long hair (I’m in the midst of growing it out). I love hats; but not baseball caps. Give me a fedora or a cloche any day. I love the clothing style of the 1930’s-1940’s. I’m currently adding some Victorian flavoured clothing to my wardrobe.
But I’m not really a makeup girl, outside of lipstick, or more if I’m involved in a show. I love video games and Dungeons and Dragons (for a long time I was the only girl in the group, and even after I was still the only steady girl). I hate carrying a purse, and when I do it’s more like a carry-all; it has to have room to carry a book, and maybe a notebook. I love swords and sword fighting. I love renaissance faires. My friends and I used to belegarth weekly, and it was awesome. Nothing quite like beating the crap out of each other with foam padded weapons. I am definitely a nerd/geek. I HATE talking about my feelings, and would rather keep it all inside and to myself. I try not to cry in front of other people. I have semi-regular conversations with my friends about zombies and the zombie apocalypse. I make my friends watch bad movies with me; sometimes they even let me. :)
In my current group of friends (which has been my main set of friends for a long time; they’re also the ones I roleplay with), I’m very much one of the guys. Which is fun as hell. I love it. We can goof off and rough house like crazy. But sometimes I think they forget that I am a girl. At least until I show up wearing something girly. Then they look a little surprised.
Which is fun, I have to admit.
But mostly, I’m just me.
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Im somewhere in between. I love “girly” things but at times my actual personality seems to be a bit more like a mans. I feel like a man at times since women seem crazy to me. Other times I can act like a crazy girl and not understand men. I am an enigma wrapped in a cupcake covered with sprinkles really.
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I am girly in my love of make-up, clothing, shoes, and all that girly stuff! But, more boy-ish emotionally, because I run on the rational side and don’t get overly emotional.
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
I’ve always been a pretty big tomboy, but I’ve also always had a love for dressing-up, makeup, and pretty sparkley things. Most of my friends are guys, and I sometimes have a hard time connecting with girls (although getting involved in burlesque and getting a job at a company that sells bath and beauty products– Lush– has definitely helped). I have a really hard time making the transition into being girly, and I feel like this impedes my personal style: I feel like I’m playing at it when I wear girly things, like it doesn’t really suit and it’s obvious. I think that I have a boyish look about me, and boyish mannerisms.
So I guess I do transgress gender norms, but I also think I need to work on going the other way!
<3
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:59 pm
I think I’m definitely a girl when it comes to emotions and feelings and sappiness. But in more boy-ish terms, I sometimes don’t care how I look, I’ll burp in front of people…haha yep.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
I was always trying to fit in with the boys when I was little, but when I grew up a little I fell in love with makeup and fashion. I still get a long better with boys. I like how they just don’t care and do whatever they want and don’t get catty at each other. I love to crossdress when hanging out and doing something crazy. I’m the first to put on goofy glasses and a hat and pull out my mascara to make a mustache.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:47 pm
i really think that i don’t fit into my gender. i love dressing up and doing all those girly things, of course, but i feel like it’s just genetically impossible for me to really fit in with it. sad thing is i want to so bad. My parents do tend to always say, “wow, how ladylike”, or, “that’s not what a girl should do”, and every single time they or someone else says that i want to do it more and more, because it burns me up inside when someone says what a girl should and shouldn’t do. just as it should annoy a boy if someone said what he should and shouldn’t do. i’ve never really had my posse of friends, like all the other girls. like, all the girl friends that i am friends with I’m not close with and they have their own separate big posse. it’s always kind of bothered me. but having my boyfriend makes me care less. i enjoy the spirit of a male more than the female. i envy the way that boys don’t care about dumb things and that they can just be silly without a care(or at least the ones i know). so no, everyday i feel like i don’t fit in with my gender, and it kills me.
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November 18th, 2009 at 11:37 pm
Being a bit older now, I suppose, has given me a lot of time to figure this gender role thing out by now. Or at least I should have. I honestly don’t think I ever will. At this point in my life, I’ve chosen not to care much anymore about it. I am who I am.
As a kid growing up I had a little brother to take care of, entertain, play with, pick on, guard, etc. He was always smaller than everyone else, therefore was picked on in school much of the time. I was in a sense his protector and although I was the big ogre of an older sister, I still loved him and would never allow him to be picked on by others. I’d eat them alive if they did. This also meant that during summers the sandbox was our heaven. I’d play with his GI Joes and cars, transformers, legos, etc. Don’t ever think that because I did these things and got dirty along with him though that I didn’t make him play with me and my own toys as well. That poor child was exposed to wearing makeup, having his hair curled, and being forced to wear my dress up clothes from the vintage store as well.
As teenagers we were both still pretty much down the line about gender roles. I still made him do things I wanted (I think he liked it, honestly, because he was able to hang out with me).
I also did things that the guys in school would do though too. I was at the time into sports and high school activities. Mine were less than normal though. I never did girls basketball, cheer leading, etc. I was a dancer, did well in competitions with it, but at the same time I was an archer (target shooting) and won a national title at one point doing this. I could shoot better than most of the boys I went to school with. That didn’t always go over well with them either. I stepped on male territory a lot with that under my belt.
I had female friends for sure back then, just as I do now. I’ve always seemed to fit in much better with a group of guys though. Even at this point, in life, I still get along better any day with guys. Heck, I live with two of them and are quite comfortable doing so. However, I still put my makeup on every day, play with my hair, collect all sorts of girly things, and will adopt 3 legged cats named tripod on a regular basis because of my feminine softer side.
I don’t think I was ever a “tomboy” if I must label myself. I just always went against the grain for what is considered “feminine behavior” so to speak.
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Hallow Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 11:37 pm
Wow! I didn’t realize how long that really was until I submitted it! ha ha.
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November 19th, 2009 at 12:19 am
haha well. this is actually a big issue of mine! i find that i can never find a guy to be in a relationship because i’m far too much like a boy. physically i would say i’m fairly attractive and pretty. but growing up with two older brothers and not around many girls other than my mom, i’ve developed a crude guy sense of humor and persona. so basically i’m always just one of the guys, and never viewed as a girl who they need to watch what type of jokes they make around me. (penis jokes, sex, bodily functions, etc :P)
i hope one day this comfort zone with work to my advantage but until then i feel like i’m living that katy perry song “one of the boys”
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November 19th, 2009 at 12:29 am
As much as I love makeup, fashions, and other frilly girly things, I definitely have a ton of tomboy qualities. Like many girls, I am not afraid of bugs or getting dirty. Many times I am open to a lot more things that are mostly attributed to men, thus most of my really good friends are boys.
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Navi Reply:
November 19th, 2009 at 12:30 am
Sorry.
“Unlike many girls,” I meant to say.
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November 19th, 2009 at 1:08 am
I think I’m somewhere in the middle! I’m my own person, really: I love sundresses and flowers and sunny yellows, but I also love big baggy shirts and navy blues and wool sweaters. I love makeup (obviously) and mall-crawling but there’s nothing I’d rather do than play video games or watch zombie movies with the boys. I think stereotypes are hilarious, anyways. XD
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Coby Nathan Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
so true.
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November 19th, 2009 at 1:55 am
As a little girl, I pretty much fit the female stereotype. And I still do love dolls, frills, bows, glitter, and the color pink. However, I never lost another love I had…for dirt! Every recess in elementary school was spent digging in the dirt. Somehow, I managed to do this without getting my uniform dirty (a task I still don’t know how I accomplished). During the summer, my sister and I were the queens of mudpies. Any time we were allowed to play with the water hose, we ended up making a mess! Jumping in mud puddles when it rains is still a favorite past-time of mine. I also developed a love for worms and took it upon myself to rescue them from being burnt by the sun or eaten alive by ants. Actually, I still do this sometimes (though now I understand the importance of hand sanitizer)! Though I still love to play dress-up and try out new make-up styles, my boyish side has not left me. Over the years I have acquired a love of video games, horror movies, kung-fu films, and even Star Trek. To some, I may seem like a complicated person, but I manage to survive. I guess I’ll always be the little girl in a tutu and combat boots, saving the world one worm at a time.
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November 19th, 2009 at 1:59 am
I feel kind of androgynous a lot of the time. I’m basically interested in everything, not just what I’m “supposed to” be. Sometimes I wish people would mistake me for a boy once in awhile, but that will never happen because my body is about as feminine as they come.
When I play around with makeup and clothes I do it for fun, more like art than anything. If I can’t think of anything interesting I just let myself look completely plain, but I’m OK with that.
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November 19th, 2009 at 2:17 am
MAUH! i lurv this question. i am a girly-girl,combat boot wearing glitter fiend,my jeans r always second-hand and torn at the knees within a week of having them,i love make up,the brighter the better,i have my fave porcelain dolls,unicorns,dragons,pirate skulls,and my ice-skates all on one shelf,dispite the fact i dont have alot of money i dream of mountain caves filled with lipsticks and eyeshadows that i helped create,i have tons and tons of notbooks filled with wacky stories about candyland,marshmallow peeps in drag/wannabe twinkies,skittles and a mountain named Dew,where i fight creepers with my baddazzled sledgehammer and my killer lipstick that always seems to match my mood.I am a girly-girl with a tom-boy streek who just loves to have fun.
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November 19th, 2009 at 7:50 am
I think I’m considered fairly girlish around my family and friends. I don’t wear makeup but a favorite hobby is shopping and I do enjoy sparkly and pink things. I’m not very athletic, so I don’t think any of my behaviors are boyish. I don’t know. I think that I am a girly-girl on the inside and out!
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November 19th, 2009 at 10:43 am
Well, I break all that thing about “girls like pink and boys should wear blue”
I absolutely LOVE make up, dresses, heels, bows, ribbons, sparkles, etc. But most of my friends are boys, and most of my attitudes are boyish… I play drums, I love soccer and football, I adore bugs (especially the really creepy ones), I don’t mind getting dirrty… PLENTY OF THINGS…
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November 19th, 2009 at 5:14 pm
I was left to my own devices growing up and became gender neutral in most respects. The thing is, I’m able to say this with so much pride because I’m so feminine and attractive in appearance. Its like when Tyra Banks says she wears control top pantyhose… Its not repulsive because she is so beautiful. Its easy pushing gender boundaries when you don’t push them physically. Its sad but true!
I don’t consider myself to display behaviors completely particular to either gender. My interests are another situation lol. I’m obsessed with fighting video games, but I love kawaii things (a la my blog dropdeadkawaii.blogspot.com). I say this but someone once said, for every thing I do that’s stereotypically female, I do something so stereotypically male. I think my need to withdraw emotionally might be more masculine. My need to communicate… overly… maybe more feminine.
All I know is there’s no better way to live! I think fitting into gender ideals equals unhappiness and does not come naturally.
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November 19th, 2009 at 6:10 pm
I’m a girl that’s boyish in parts. I have both girl and boy friends. I LOVE make up and fashion. When I was younger I was a total tomboy. I NEVER wore skirts, dresses, or even shorts and when I did wear shorts they always went below the knee but mostly I wore pants (and I live in Cali). The one time I decided to be girlly and wear a dress my friends were like no (for lake of a better word). So sense then I never wear that stuff unless it for a special occasion and even then I try to find a way around it. But I love fashion and if I see something cute even if its a dress I’ll be the first one to admit it.
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November 19th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
I don’t know if I’m what a girl is supposed to be because people have so many different opinions of what that is. I think many women would consider me plenty feminine or possibly too girly. At the same time so many more people (most men and many women)think a girl like me is the wrong way to have to have two X chromosomes. I wear skirts as often as any other bottom (jeans, capris, shorts) I love girly things and I own too many purses, nail polishes and everything girly to make room for. But my personality is not acceptable to our society for a female.
Women pretend they believe that women should be independant and not be mistreated or owned by men. We listen to Singers like Beyonce and P!NK and watch Oprah and are enraged when a celebrity is beaten by her partner. But all is forgotton when it’s a friend, family memeber or neighbor; everyone turns their heads. It’s ALWAYS the womens fault here in america. In AZ there is a law that when a domestic Violence call is made the cops have to pick someone to arrest and unless the women is in is strecher they always pick her because it MUST be her fault. I’m a fighter I don’t believe a man should have athority to hit me and I will and have fought for myself physically, verbally and very unsuccessfully, legally. Because of that I’m considered a shame to my gender and a bad person. I’ve even been arrested and spent a night naked in a jail cell for calling myself an ambulance.
I don’t care if i’m like a woman or a man. I wish I’d been born a man in order to live with my promised constitutional rights. (not that many women don’t enjoy them but you can lose money easily gender is not changed without drastic surgery) I wish more I’d been born in another universe, somewhere where it’s more like the movies or that gender doesn’t exist. I just wish the lies I was told as a child about what I could do and be in this world were true.
A ton of you are going to get pissed and post nasty replys. I’ll say ahead of time I don’t care I already know you feel this way, either sheltered, in denile or wanting to hold me back from sharing the truth. I’ve seen life, if you haven’t open your eyes.
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November 20th, 2009 at 12:51 am
I feel that i represent what it is to be a part of both sexes. i wear clothing for both males/females although i tend to change the look by adding femininity to the piece. i feel that there are certain things that look better on girls then guys, but on the whole i dont really have a preference for how each sex should look. you know boxed into a certain gender.
For the best part of what i believe concerns wearing what you feel comfortable in, and confident in. something that represents your taste- whether it be masculine, feminine or both. or all.
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November 20th, 2009 at 1:11 am
I tend to mix it up on purpose. I’m very into bright colors, and definitely pinks and purples. I RARELY wear pants, most of the time I wear skirts or shorts. It used to be more skirts, but lately it’s been more shorts. I’ll wear very girly outfits and I’m obsessed with all different kinds of makeup. Then I’ll switch it up by wearing shorts, suspenders, and a painters cap. I like combat boots and all that, so I’m very ambiguous in general, but I suppose there’s usually a well defined stereotype there. Personality wise I’m very boisterous and “in your face”. I’m very open minded and go against the grain in a lot of ways, which isn’t stereotypically feminine of me.
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November 20th, 2009 at 1:24 am
I have always tried to embrace those qualities I liked best about others. Whether they fit with my “gender” or not. Sometimes I fit within stereotypes and other times not so much. I prefer to do things that make me happy and not try to fit with expectations that don’t resonate with who I am.
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November 20th, 2009 at 2:58 am
I feel like I fit in with my gender until I am actually around other members.
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November 20th, 2009 at 5:12 am
Working in the construction industry (albiet in an administration position), I find it’s a struggle to stay 100% feminine. But I combat that a little by being both over the top stereotypically girly and quirky modern woman.
I wear teals and purples, baking something delicious once a week.
So I guess I fit fairly well into my gender, but I do have some mannish qualities ;)
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November 20th, 2009 at 7:51 am
I’m definitly a girly-girl in appearance. I absolutley despise wearing pants. I’d rather layer stockings and wear a mini skirt over, no matter how cold it gets – because of this I have quite an impressive collection of really long socks.
I like my surroundings to be neat and clean too
Even though you’d think this sort of lifestyle would prevent me from doing anything on the wilder side,I’d never hesitate to go hiking, horse riding etc.. I’d leave the mini on and just change from heels to docs.
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November 20th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
I agree with you on the whole feeling like a boy thing.
I sometimes get mistaken for one from behind.
But I have learned to embrace it.
A few freinds and I are actually having a party at the end of the year.
Where we will play the opposite roles.
My boy friend likes to dress up in drag.
And our girl and guy friends all cross dress.
I am totally amped for it!!
Peace Love && Lipstick
XOXOXOXO
JordanMayTwigs
<3
.P.S.::
Me and my boy friend wehre at the NEW YORK COUTURE FASHION SHOW this year.
And thank you so much for your kind gift in the goodie bag!!!
I can't wait to order more of your makeup!!
I also bought the limited edition pink and purple tye dyed t-shirt.
And the limited edition pink necklace.
I'm ordering the cupcake one soon!!!
<3
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November 20th, 2009 at 2:47 pm
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
Gender to me isnt something defined by what is under your clothes. Yes many people will say, well Coby that isnt true and your wrong, it is fact your gender is based off your genitelia. But to someone like me, somone away from mainstream roles and routines, my gender is based on my soul. How I feel and who I see myself as. I’m femmeine always have been and always will be. Although I dont consider myself female, I place myself as Male becasue I happen to be one, but souly I’m female. I do this by expressing myself in “drag” but I dont feel as if im a drag queen nor a transexual. I feel that its my gift from god or a higher power that I was bron this way. so Ive got a pretty face mind and soul. burn me for my beleives. I dont feel I’m doing anything wrong I feel like I’m paving way for other people like myself. Maybe thay feel trapped and cant express themselfs as they wish, but maybe if they see someone who can and that is strong and fearless and wont give it up. We can change ALOT of mainstream negativity twords memebers of the gay community. I have many friends in the same mind frame, we dont bend we blend. Although im not saying being a transexual is wrong, more power to you for being yourself no matter what.
live strong and happy, is my motto for everyday life.
Becasue at the end of the day, no matter how many stones have been thrown, no matter how weak and tired you feel from mainstream negativity. The ONLY thing that matters is that YOU STAY STAY STRONG AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. And NEVER let anyone take your pride away from you.
Gender is most certainly a choice.
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November 20th, 2009 at 7:39 pm
Oh my… Interesting question this one. I’m a bit of an oddball I think. I’m sort of stuck between being boyish and being girly. I was indignantly girly as a kid; wearing pretty clothes and then playing in the mud with the boys while my girl-cousins stared in something like horror.
For a while I discarded any sort of girly behaviors and styles; sick of trying to bridge the gap between the facets of myself. I wore no makeup, no bright colors; my only real nod to being a girl was my long hair and occasional shock-value bodice.
Now I bounce around like a ping pong ball. Bright colors and wacky makeup one day; sleek, dark, simple and androgynous the next; and something else entirely the next! I’ve come to the decision that being one sex or the other has nothing to do with attitudes and styles. People can perceive me however they’d like; be it butch with hair, gothy, weird, elegant, or even occasionally a boy! It’s all perception and I’ve stopped trying to fit myself into a certain type of role or perception. I’m no longer afraid to experiment with color and I no longer feel obliged to fit into a mold. I am mentally rather androgynous and amorphous and my day to day whimsies of style fit that quite nicely now. While I generally stick to some form of slacks; it’s now for simple ease of lugging boxes at work over any unease of a skirt. And quite honestly, Doe, you have helped me sift through myself to get here.
So I thank you. :]
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November 21st, 2009 at 9:59 am
Although I generally fit fairly well within prescribed gender roles(I’m a girl who likes tea parties, cleans house as a means for diverting stress, and absolutely loves shoes and make-up), I have a lot of boyish qualities as well. I think burping is hilarious, I love being outdoors and getting sweaty, and I tend to get along better with guys than gals most of the time.
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November 21st, 2009 at 11:50 pm
I fit the expectations of a female perfectly at an event like a wedding: I dress up with make up, heels, perfume, jewelry, a pretty dress and handbag. I wear makeup to school and try to look feminine in general, which is a sharp contrast to my male classmates who dominate my computer programming courses these days. I definitely look like a girl, but I do things that many girls don’t normally do: I play video games, watch sci fi, take tons of computer classes, and lift weights.
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November 22nd, 2009 at 9:48 am
I would say I’m quite a girly girl, I love make up, glitter and heels but sometimes I just like to chill with a few friends, playing video games and dressing down, although I wouldn’t necessarily say that they are ‘male’ activities as such because there are lots of girls I know that like to do that :D
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November 22nd, 2009 at 10:50 am
I fall fairly far to the “male” side of the spectrum in my day to day life…working bar security, fighting with the best of them, as well as riding and working on my motorcycles(even got called “sir” at the DMV when i was out in my armored riding gear…I was quite angry i mean do you know many curvy 5′2″ longhaired boys).In short I’m a total adrenaline junky and my hubby is waaay more domestic than i am. However my softer side is in love with designer shoes… I’ve come to love collecting these beautiful pieces of shoe art work. When I go out these days I even started to dress in ways that show them off and wear *gasp* make up.
I don’t believe in gender roles I wasn’t raised with them…my parents always reinforced that I could do and be whatever I wanted to be.
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November 22nd, 2009 at 12:45 pm
For years I felt like I was constantly being buffeted between being a girl or a boy, and often ending up collapsing utterly exhausted somewhere in between.
Somehow out of all this, I think I am finally reaching a place where I can just be me. I feel like I’m not so weighed down by the social expectations that people have of either sex and am slowly carving out a middle ground where I am simply myself, a female body holding an unsexed mind inside.
I have always loved to see the beauty that is in everything(you do have to look really hard to see it at times but it’ll be there in some form or another) and I’m finally able to see the beauty in myself.
Thank you for making me think about this, it’s reminded me that I can love myself no matter what I am and have been ^___^
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November 22nd, 2009 at 3:40 pm
i’m pretty girly, but i have some tomboyish attributes as well. i will only wear dresses for special occasions, or cute casual ones with leggings or shorts underneath, because i dont like my legs rubbing together. lmfao. i wear a lot of makeup and like heels and pretty things so yesss :] femalleeeeee fo sho!
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November 22nd, 2009 at 4:23 pm
Gender roles disappear when I walk into a room. I’m the only girl I know, who isn’t afraid to dress in a pair of baggy jeans that require a belt to hold them up, I shop for the XXL T-Shirts that are sold in gender specific stores for men, and I can’t stand shopping for the extraordinary amount of time that my friends can enjoy it for. Who has ever heard of shopping for five hours?! I wear my hair short, not because it’s boyish or manly, but because it’s easy to take care of and I don’t spend thirty minutes messing around with it, like some people can.
Put that aside I am such a girl when it comes to my undergarments. I have a drawer full of knee high and thigh high socks with funky bright patterns on them. Plaid, tartan, polka dot, name it and I probably have a sock in that pattern. My underwear range from black polka dot on white to pink with monkey and little trinkets hanging from them. It’s my one splurge that I never feel bad about (because everyone needs socks! XD)
But I am definitely getting into my girly side with make up from you Doe. Your stuff is breath taking and I’m actually putting an order in as we speak. ^_^
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November 22nd, 2009 at 4:30 pm
in all honesty i am just like most guys … i have commitment issues like almost all of the guys i meet and i generally hang with guys fir the fact that they are easier to get along with. i am somewhat like a tomboy but in my rare moments i like to shine and look stunning in dresses and make up but for the most part i am just trying to be myself whether i fit into a more boyish catagory or a girly one. reality is its all about how i feel in that particular moment
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November 22nd, 2009 at 6:13 pm
Like you, on the outside i’m very girly. I love makeup,shopping, and GLITTER. On the inside though, I have always felt conflicted.
I wanted to be a boy. I wanted to act like a boy and not be made fun of. I always related to boys more. I even went through a confusing time in my life where I was kind of attracted to girls.
Now, I have come to accept my self as I am. I’m ok now with the seemingly conflicting traits. I’m glad to know I’m not alone! =)
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November 22nd, 2009 at 6:38 pm
i think i gross a lot of girls out. i always want to talk about or say things that only guys would think of. i’m just not very neat or pristine or preppy like i feel a typical girl would be. i’m very messy and bummish and obscene in the way i talk about the things and the manner of which i say them. i have a bit of a dirty mouth and i think it makes it hard for guys to see me as a submissive-girly-type
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November 22nd, 2009 at 7:10 pm
I was reading your blog and i just randomly found your post and i found it really intersting because the past week i was actually thinking about the whole gender thing after watching a show about transexuals. I on one hand love makeup fashion getting dolled up unicorns princessy stuff pastel colors everything girly, thats why i read your blog :), but on the other hand i understand men alot better most of my friends are men i like video games and i have a more agressive “manish”(lol) side as well…even though i dont show it as much. I also love mens fashion i cant get away with “crossdressing” because it wouldnt feel right,im the type of girl who wears heels just to go the movies, but when i walk into a store and i see all the mens clothing i fall in love with it, the whole laid back style that a guy can just wake up and put on a pair of jeans and a white tee and look hot it just amazes me that simplicity and comfort to me is very atractive and beautiful but for me is unatainable…
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November 22nd, 2009 at 8:34 pm
I have never really conformed to what a typical girl is supposed to be. I grew up with three younger brothers and all of my friends when I was young were guys. Because of that, I can throw a football in a perfect spiral, outrun almost any boy (even though I am only 5′2″ and they are all close to a foot taller than me), and throw a fastball that rivals many guys.
I have always been more comfortable around guys and have been the girl that the guys turn to when they have problems, because even though I have never had a boyfriend, I am able to give some of the best relationship advice.
While I admit that I do wear makeup and dress girlier now than ever before, I have never been a fan of dresses. I was the little girl who came in on summer evenings with her hair full of snarls and twigs, grass-stained jeans, and muddy hands and feet. I have never been one to conform to society’s norms, so while I do dress like a girl, paint my nails, and throw on makeup before school, it is more to make me happy than to fulfill someone else’s expectations.
There is no reason for me to be anyone other than me, so therefore, my individuality of intertwining my femininity with my tomboy nature allows me to be a girl who fits like a glove with both genders.
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November 23rd, 2009 at 1:56 am
i fit quite well as a female for the most part and identify strongly as a girl however my thought process tends to be very male
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November 23rd, 2009 at 1:06 pm
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Hope this isn’t to late!
It was around the age of 12 that I began noticing the difference between boys and girls; I was pretty much a tomboy from the very start, or as early as I can remember. I was always the odd one, the weird one, just because the majority of my friends were boys, and I didn’t wear girly clothes. I talked like a boy and acted like one, therefore everyone treated me like one. So it was a big surprise when I started to wear more girly clothes and speaking in a not so vulgar manner (at least when adults were around!). It’s true that people judge a book by it’s cover, and that if they don’t like the cover, they don’t even want to see what’s in the inside, so I conformed the outside to what people wanted to see; a pretty girl, wearing pretty clothes, just so I could ‘fit in’, but I digress. The question at hand is very simple, yet very complicated; I think people should be who they are. Feel comfortable in their own skin, and not to conform to the views of other people just to please them. I am who I am because I don’t want to lie to myself or to the people around me. I am a girl, and proud of it! Even if I wear sweats and band t-shirts on the weekend.
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November 23rd, 2009 at 2:40 pm
I fear I have become incredibly girlie in the past year. I LOVE getting dressed and ready for the day, or getting all dolled up. I find any excuse to get dressed, going to the grocery store, stoping at the gas station. Lately no occasion is too small for me to look my best. I fawn over cute shoes, spend way more than I should on makeup, and giggle like a school girl. At the same time though I am tough. I jump into mosh pits and can fight like the best of the guys. I guess I may be girlie, but im certainly no damsel in distress.
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November 23rd, 2009 at 9:12 pm
I love fashion, makeup, doing hair; wearing skirts, babydoll tops, and ballet flats; And flirting. I also skip or dance more often than I walk and giggle like a schoolgirl at any mention of Zachary Quinto.
Not to sound like a braggart, but I also kick ass.
That being said, I’ve never believed that femininity and asskickery were mutually exclusive, so make of that what you will.
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November 25th, 2009 at 5:15 am
I am 2000% girl. No a single drop of boy in me. It’s actually quite intense, being 2000% girl. But I LOVE IT, and am so happy to feel so comfortable with myself.
That said, I am also a business student and I love confusing the lecturers and male students. They take one look at me, think I’m a girly pushover student whos only going to business school becasue daddy wants her to find a good, sensible man. And then I open my mouth. And their perceptions come crashing down. And then I make sure I get better marks than them – they get so lost in gender stereotypes, it’s funny!!!
(so maybe my competativeness is masculine? maybe i do have some boy in me? )
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