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Welcome to November’s DDBD! If you are new to the blog, it’s a little tradition we have when each month where I ask you a question and you give me your answer – in exchange for a chance to win a mystery package! The only way to find out what’s in the box is to win it.
To enter, answer this (and this month’s question is a little strange):
How well do you fit within your gender? If you’re a girl, do you display behaviors that could be considered ‘boyish’, and vice versa?
My answer: On the outside, I fit (and quite possibly supersede) the expectations of what a typical female is supposed to be. I love dresses and makeup and color pink. On the inside, it’s a struggle: sometimes I feel very much like a boy stuck in a girl’s body! I cross-dress a lot for that reason, haha. I think gender-deviance & ambiguity is fun and find it quite attractive on others!
Your turn, deerlings! You have one week to submit your answer – please post it in comments, not by email – those won’t count! Winner will be picked at random and announced on Monday, November 23.
It has basically been decided by my friends that I am a gay man that’s also a drag queen in a woman’s body. I love looking fabulous, but frankly I don’t understand my fellow women most of the time.
I have a very aggressive personality. I like violence, guns, gore, and other manly things. If you make me angry, I let you know without doing that weird “I’m not going to tell you why I’m mad but I’m mad at you” thing. I’m very logical and not swayed by emotions at all. Cry your argument at me, and I’ll shoot you down. Format a clear and logical argument, and we’re good. Innuendo is my friend and I have no problem just flat out saying something suggestive. And I kill my own damn spiders.
On the other hand, I love glitter and shiny and bright colors and tacky. And shoes, I have quite the shoe addiction. It creates an odd picture to see me all dolled up in a pretty red dress, striped socks, red flats with buckles, eyes done up big, with huge earrings, but then I start talking about how the blood spatter in Pulp Fiction is atrocious, and that The Usual Suspects did a much more accurate job. And then I see a moose stuffed animal and go squeeeee!
I tend to confuses boys a lot, yet have lots of male friends. The general ruling is that while they would have sex with me, they’d never date me because it would be like dating a bro. Fortunately my boyfriend doesn’t think that.
In conclusion, I just like having boobs. A lot.
I am similar to your explanation in that I love to dress super feminine and LOVE hot pink! Although I have always got a long better with guys or with the other girls that do the same. It’s often that guys joke with me about my male response to things. And I also am attracted to ambiguity especially in men. I enjoy when they are “metro” and have feminine tendencies. I dated a cross dresser and a drag queen before. What can I say? hahaha
Lets see
I spend all my time on a pc, I spend all my time playing MMO’s (world of warcraft) on my pc, i built my pc my self, I work in IT and im a technician, and my office is all men apart from me. I drink pints and down shots. I’m not girly girly but damn I cant get enough make up!!!
I never wear skirts always trousers!
Oh and im a full Geek :D And proud of it hehe
I have a very manly sence of humor and I get along very well with boys of all ages because of it.
But I concider myself a girly-girl, I only wear dresses and skirts, I love shoes and sparkly everything, when I am sad I eat chocolate. I’m a girl.
I’m quite the ambiguous girl. I dress in biker-ish/rocker/meatal-head style clothes (biker boots, band shirts, leather spiked wrist bands etc…) but always wear bright colorful eyeshadow and lipstick and have very very long hair. One day I dress my usual masculin way and the next I’m in a frilly dress. People have told me that I’m very perplexing. On the inside I have many personality traits and attributes that are considered very masculine: Dominent, ambitious, ruggid, ruthless yet on the feminine side I’m very nurturing and kind. I’m happy being ambiguous because I get the best of both worlds.
I think gender is mostly a social construct & don’t really subscribe to the belief that there is an existing binary to ‘play into’.
For instance, while I know there are qualities given to both the stereotypical male & female, I would much rather create a new idea – a new archetype where it is permissible for anyone to take part in whatever qualities speak to them.
I identify as a woman. I am capable of pretty much anything.
I have steadily been getting more girly since I came to college. (and its not because of boys! >\ )
I am an incredibly lazy person, and never had much use or inclination to spend time making myself look good every day. I still don’t in fact, but it is happening more often lately.
I don’t like to consider myself “boyish” though, because I rather dislike boys, and many things associated with them, however I do have many, what would be considered ‘boyish’ tendencies.
I don’t think i could ever become truly girly, rather it is something I appreciate and will occasionally indulge in, just like boyish things and triple chocolate mousse cakes.
I think that I’m on the border… At school, I feel alot more boyish, its the enforced uniform and the fact that all the other girls are the stereotypical girl… With my own friends outside school I feel alot more feminine, I never really know why.
Love your website :)
This is probably the greatest question that I’ve seen you ask since the book question…wasn’t that last month? :D
Anyway, this question is one I get asked so many times as to why I love androgyny. Why do I do it? Why do I preffer being around guys, why is it imperative to me to be tomboyish.
I never had fit in with my gender, I always wanted to play baseball (not softball), I wanted to play with ninja turtles, but not April, I wanted to be Michelangelo, I wanted to be Gambit, not Rouge when playing X-Men with the neighborhood boys. Even as an adult, I find myself dressing more like a girl, putting make up on, and such, but I never lost that touch of masculinity as I teach my students the importance of Superheros as a political cartoon, and how my wonderful boyfriend smiles when I talk about how much I hate my big boobs. He said that he’s happy to have a girl who likes video games, comic books, and the occasional Professional Wrestling tournaments! Being a girl rocks!
Melinda Reply:
November 16, 2009 at 3:46 pm
ps. I enjoy the fact that I love killing the spiders that plauge my boyfriend day and night…even the cockroaches! But the ferret likes killing those!
According to what society thinks “girly” is i think i fit that pretty well. I love makeup and clothes so much. However…I find that I love to prove how strong I am and do not act weak and hang out with the boys. I never have really liked girls. I end up disliking people too much like me. It’s not that I dislike myself, it’s a clash. I don’t want to be a boy because girls have so much stuff! But if i was a boy I’d be the Jeffree Star type. I’d be a gay boy because I’m into boys haha.
im a girl! and want to be more girly. so yeah, never wanted to be a boy. im just me! but i have always wanted to be more girly, so yeah.
I fit in pretty well with the girls :)
I do have a couple things I do that are slightly boy-ish though. For example: video games and how much I burp!
I fit pretty well within my gender. I like girly things, jewelry, and clothes. I have my light moments and sometimes like to be ditsy.
I have another side of me too though, I’m very academic, pretty much collecting degrees and going into what was traditionally thought of as a male career. The fact that I’m more into the sciences than literature is also more masculine. I enjoy having an intellectual conversation and can argue with the best of them.
I guess that’s what’s so confusing about me. I look like a girlie girl on the outside and sometimes act like one but if you assume I’m stupid, you’re in for a big surprise.
I was raised very unspecifically concerning gender roles, I played with toy cars and LEGO and I always hated, pink, purple, dresses, horses and ponys and I never wanted to be a princess when i dressed up in Carnival. I wanted to be a pirate, or a Leopard. My mum asked me if i wanted to take ballet-lessons, i refused. Until the age of about 17 i was quite ungirly, had no boyfriend, didnt use makeup and was happy with my pocket knife in my tent rather than while shopping.
then i somehow discovered my sexuality, the nice parts of my body and how men react on me wearing certain things and looking certain ways. i played with that but never did it really seriously.
and when i started to go the goth way i really discovered new ways of femininity that were not appearing weak or adjusted or slinky to men but that were so much more of a true… bloom of the strong sides of femininity. a feminine beauty that was not dependent from the existence of the other sex, but autonom and standing for itself. I loved this kind of beauty and decided that this is the way i wanna be and the way i want to show my body and my own personality. so i might be quite unspecific for a woman as expected by society, but at the same time i feel like a real woman in every way.
Up until I was about 15, my gender identity was a very confused thing for me. I would constantly wear baggy jeans and a tshirt, with the whole ‘ewww, gross’ reaction to skirts or dresses. I shunned makeup and was insistant on liking ‘boys’ things, I watched wrestling and played football. I didn’t want people to see me as this obvious little girl. My friends were mostly boys and I didn’t want them to not like me.
Then one day I became what I guess is a typical girl, I stopped caring about how others saw me. I now ONLY wear skirts or dresses, I own ONE pair of jeans which I only wear when the majority of my other clothes are ready for washing. I wear makeup constantly, I enjoy doing my hair and since starting university I could be described as a proper little housewife. I love to cook for my flatmates and I clean without grumbling. In fact, doing the washing up calms me down!
I much more enjoy being ‘girly’ if I’m honest! I feel more like ME!
I am a girl and while I can show my girlish side I also show my boyish side just as much. I love my jeans and t-shirts, cars, hanging with the guys, and playing video games. But just the same I love to wear pretty dresses, makeup, high heels, and painting my nails all sorts of colors. I think if you aren’t a bit of both, it would be hard to understand men and women. I look like I fit into my gender well but in my actions I seem to be more guy minded. And I’m happy with both of my sides.
As a computer programmer, I’m in a male-dominated field, and 85% of my friends are dudes. I play video games and watch football and my fingernails see more dirt than nail polish. I loooove to admire girly things like dresses and makeup, but I never wear them because I’m “one of the guys.” I don’t even own any makeup other than mascara and lip gloss. I’m happy with my life and the way that I am, but I often fantasize about being a pretty pretty princess :-)
I used to be very dead-set against doing things that were stereotypically “girly,” because I hated being told what to do and who to be. Now that I’m more grown up, though, I appreciate so many things on both sides of the spectrum that I don’t really bother to label them anymore. And I like changing my style of dress depending on how I’m feeling on a given day– sometimes I’ll pull of a menswear look, some days I’l do a fun skirt and heels, sometime it’s jeans and a t-shirt. It’s more fun to incorporate everything than to exclude something because of other’s expectations, I’ve learned!
Ps– great question!
I’m a metalhead, which automatically means I’m attracted to more “boyish” things. Metal is all about freedom, fighting for what you believe in, and (male) cameradierie. My husband says of all the girls he dated, I’ve been the easiest to get along with because I THINK like he does.
In saying that, I have an awesome group of female metalhead friends. We all go shopping together and ooh and aah over corsets and eat too much chocolate. Generally, I self-identify as a “metalhead” first, rather than a gender.
It’s a strange world :)
I must say that I am a very girly girl. I like all the girliest stuff like pink, makeup and hat breaking a nail ;)
This is a very interesting question, especially since I am studying anthropology and sociology. Our gender ideals are set on us from the time we are born. Boys get blue, girls get pink. Girls get an easy bake oven and dolls, boys get trucks and army men. It goes on from there. I find it difficult to believe that anyone can fit in to either of these gender stereotypes.
While many of these stereotypes seem to no longer apply to society most people still expect men to be the big strong protectors, while women cook and clean, etc… I still hear boys make “Get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich” jokes all the time, which proves that these outdated ideals are still in the forefront of many people’s minds.
Now that my speech is done (sorry, couldn’t help it!) I can answer.
Of course I don’t! I may be obsessed with makeup and enjoy skirts and play dress up but I don’t need a man to protect me. I see myself as capable of fending for myself in any environment and certainly don’t see much cleaning in my future! (but cooking is a passion of mine) When I was little I was given Barbies, but I always took my brother’s action figures when I wanted to play. I see myself fitting into both the female and male roles that we are conditioned to believe in.
Sorry about the essay, I just finished writing two of them and I am still in that mindset…
I have always been ‘one of the guys’. I can go on for hours having in-depth conversations about more male-oriented things, like comic books, Dungeons and Dragons, and what-have-you. For example, this summer, I found myself hanging out with my guy friends more than my girl friends, and we would play videogames (which I suck at), and play D&D. I was the only girl in the group, and played the only girl. So, both myself and my character would get picked on in that loving way, while at the same time, I know the guys in game and out of game would do ANYTHING for me, and not hesitate to kill someone if something happened to me, and I’d do the same for them. At the same time, though, I’m very feminine. I love dressing up, shoes, makeup, all these things. I care about how I look, and I love doing the more typical feminine things (to every D&D game, I’d bring a new baked good I’d whipped up especially for the guys) and make sure I looked good, even if I had known these guys since I started school and they’d seen me without makeup on more than one occasion. So I really think, that when it comes to gender stereotypes, I fit in pretty well with both. I wrestle with my brothers, and then I’ll go shopping with my sister. And you know what? I wouldn’t change a thing.
SaffronSugar Reply:
November 16, 2009 at 4:07 pm
Kudos for the comic books! My personal favorite is Deadpool : D
Shea Wheatley Reply:
November 16, 2009 at 9:17 pm
Deadpool is awesome! I’m an X-Man girl, when it comes down to it, so I gotta have love for Deadpool.
Becca Reply:
November 17, 2009 at 7:48 am
Ahhh Deadpool! Hilarious character. Although nothing beats X-men. Well, apart from Sandman…
Katharine Fleming Reply:
November 18, 2009 at 1:45 am
Yay! Another D&D girl! Finally! I play mith my boyfriend and all his friends, so I am often (but not always) the only girl playing.
Good to see that there are more of us out there!
I would say I fall ever so slightly on the boy’s side of the fence…but that doesn’t mean to say I don’t like to hop frantically between the two. I think I also grow into my femininity with age and experience.
Being a mummy really brings out my femme persona and I love my natural maternal instincts and the way they influence everything, from my style to my house to the words I use each day. I’ve long admired very feminine style but have always just found it easier to dress like a boy (and stare longingly at windows full of heels and diamonds). Perhaps I am a gay man trapped in a woman’s body?
Yes, quite a bit. I’ve always been a bit of a tomboy – when I was little I remember beating up my male classmates on occasion (they always started it, though.). These days I like typical “guy” things like violent video games, bbq ribs at Hard Rock Café and classic rock music :) Though I really think those should be general “people” things rather than “man” things. Visually, I rather like androgynous fashion, like men’s slacks, blazers, tailored lace-up shoes and fedoras. One of the things I want most in the world is a pinstripe suit!
Lexi Reply:
November 16, 2009 at 4:25 pm
I, TOO, WANT A PINSTRIPE SUIT :)
I think I am pretty much a girl through and through! Anything that glitters or sparkles, I LOVE, fairies, make up, dressing up… If I had been born a boy I would definitely have been the campest guy around!
For a long time I was really butch, but lately I’ve taken to wearing makeup and girlier clothes. I wear my hair short (shorter than my boyfriend!) but I don’t have a crew cut or anything. Ironically, when I was dressing more “boyishly” I had long hair, go figure. I love to look good and I love being a woman, but I don’t strive to be feminine or girly. I just do and wear what I like, and sometimes that results in me appearing or acting more traditionally “masculine”. For example, I’m a Computer Science major. In America at least, CS is probably one of the most male-dominated fields in existence. Not like the presidency or anything, but still.
I’ve always wanted to be a princess! I love to dress super feminine and I always try to behave as well as I can. On the other hand I like many things which are considered “boyish”: sports, computers, gadgets… I even work as a software engineer. I also enjoy hanging out with my guy friends as much as I enjoy spending time with other girls. But does it really make me less feminine?
I think I am pretty much a girl through and through! Anything that glitters or sparkles, I LOVE, fairies, make up, dressing up… If I had been born a boy I would definitely have been the campest guy around!!
I think I’m a perfect oo faced coin.
Even though I can be the girliest girl ever, and wear makeup and do my hair everyday, and all that fun stuff, I must admit that I tend to “think” like a man: I tend to solve problems with my logic and not emotions (which is, supposedly, more of a manish behaviour), and when it comes to it I can be such a business man.
However, this is how women are behaving like more and more with each passing day.
In the end it all comes to adapting to the momment =)
I both have a girlish and boyish side; I love clothing and fashion, I dance belly dance, like to be glamorous, talk about feelings and that kinda stuff but I also play football (soccer), love boxing, sometimes have burping competitions (not very glamorous!) and I don’t mind getting filthy if I’m out in the forest… What sides I show to others all depends on who I’m with and what mood I’m in (though I’m more often in the girly mood). In general there are lots of conflicting qualities in me, I’m shy and confident, optimistic and melancholic etc and it sometimes makes it hard for me to know who I am.
Well, I like all things girly – I do like to dress up, put on make up and buy lovely dresses. Also, I love to regularly change my hair color and all that. I too enjoy shopping and chit-chatting with my bests, but still, I’m often told, emotionally I’m more like a boy: I tend to not talk about my emotions and have a pretty… well, lax view on love and marriage.
When you see me for the first time, you probably think I’m a girly girl with my colorful outfits, lots of pink and purple, my hair and makeup are always done. And basically everything I like is something girls like (example, hello kitty, flowers, bunnies, my little pony)
But I’m also very boyish too. I have a lot of facial peircings, which i know a lot of people don’t find feminine. I have the sense of humour of a guy (bodily functions are still so funny, and im almost 19)
I also have a lot of guy friends, so I’m used to being around them so if a hot girl walks buy, i’ll make a comment to them about her.
You know, I’m not entirely sure if I fit or not. For me, my experience of the female gender role is changing constantly. When I was in elementary school I was pretty girly, always playing dress up and such. Middle school, I really felt that I was more of a “tomboy” and I would be posing in front of the mirror flexing what little muscles I had. :)
High school, some of the same, but near the end I got a bit more girly again, but in a different way. It was like…Instead of pink-and-dresses I was more of a blue-girl? I mean that I was feminine, but perhaps leaning more towards what could be considered lesbian tendencies.
Now that I’m in college, I feel like a totally comfortable mix of feminine and perhaps again what many would consider a lesbian “butch” tendency. Some days I want to wear a dress and mascara and flirt….other days baggy pants and a sweatshirt.
I think I can say that with each day I am more comfortable in my own skin. :)
I was just doing a research paper on gender identity! This is too cool.
Anyway, I’m a girl, and I don’t think I fit either mold. I don’t fit with guys, and I don’t fit with girls. I’m just kinda there.
I’m “too tall” (5’9″, probably taller, actually, as I’m taller than a baseball player who claims to be 5’10″) and I’m much more interested in girls than boys, while I really get along better with guys and boyish girls than boys. I can’t stand chick flicks (for the most part). And if I wouldn’t get in trouble for it, I would totally get a mohawk in a second.
But at the same time, I like wearing skirts, playing up my female physique (I’m darn proud of my big boobs and hips), and wearing makeup. And I have the most amazing mothering instincts (half the time my friends call me Mommy). I don’t really care for senseless violence or toilet humor, and when I see a sad movie, I cry (which is almost every movie I see, as I like psychological/philosophical/gay movies).
And I’m really interested in transsexual/transgender studies. It fascinates me. And I ADORE drag queens. We have two cops at our school who do drag at the gay bar on Friday nights, and I always want to go talk to them, but I chicken out, haha.
All-in-all, gender roles have never made that much sense to me. Why should what’s in your pants decide your whole future, you know? :P
Lexi Reply:
November 16, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Oh, and I like being the one driving and spoiling my partner in a relationship.
On the outside yes. I dress femininly and I like it. I also have a lot of ‘girly’ tastes. But I’m a mathematician which is typically associated with men and I’m told I have a somewhat boyish outlook with respect to friends, relationships, and such.
Its a complicated matter, but I’m comfortable with both aspects of myself.
oh!
i’m definitely over the top girly girl!
cant help it. frilly dresses and lots of makeup just seem to be the best for my personality.
and i feel like a girl too. wich is really great. i actually used to play with only boys when i was little. i actually didn’t have any friends who were girls! xD
on the outside, I definately appear to be super feminine. but that is partly because I just enjoy clothes and dressing, so I put a lot of thought into it. however, I have mostly masculine ideals and interests, and I cannot relate to the majority of women.
I can’t say I’m very girly at all. I mean occasionally once and a while I’ll feel pretty and want to dress up in more then a pair of blue jeans and an outrageous top and put on a dress or skirt. But those are few and far between.
I’ve been hit on by girls that thought I was a guy at certain points in my life and I have no problem with dressing more masculine and pulling it off. Its fun at the very least. I like that I can straddle that line of male and female.
All throughout high school my parents called me androgynous. I took it as an insult because I knew they meant it as an insult. But, if called that now I wouldn’t mind.
Although, I wouldn’t be considered androgynous now, I’m not necessarily overly feminine either. I spit, I burp, and I swear just like all of my guy buddies. I play violent, zombie video games, and I watch hockey on the TV. I’m not very fashion forward (more of a fashion failure if you ask me), and mostly wear jeans, simple shirts, and a pair of beat up vans. I’m also clueless on how to style my hair or put on make up, so I usually avoid those task too. (I suppose that’s the stereotypical boy).
That being said, I love pink, glitter, fairies, kittens, dandelions and I dream about one day being able to wear high heeled shoes! I love watching Moulin Rouge (Ewan McGregor makes me swoon) and the Food Network. And, baking gives me the warm fuzzies. All of which I usually associate with some sense of femininity.
I suppose for me it depends on the day or the weather or how I’m feeling if I want to fit in with my gender or not.
Honestly I don’t fit very well with humans period. XD
Though as far as gender goes.. I’m really REALLY girlish.
I don’t “fit” within my gender very well. I don’t (at least not currently) dress like the “typical” girl. I wear lots of dark colours. I have no and don’t need no sexual orientation. I am not “clean” to certain peoples standards. I fit no mold but my own. I am learning how not to struggle with this.
I think that how well you fit in with your ‘gender stereotype’ is something that changes as you grow. In my experience anyway. I used to be a huge tomboy, would only wear dresses when made too (but when I did I realised I loved them) and would rather play with my brother than my sister, and in the sand with cars etc. As I grew up it was a continuing theme, but without as much resistance to ‘girly’ things. By the time I was about 16 I was in full girl mode, though!
Now, as a mother of a baby girl, I am more girly than ever!! Possibly on my daughters behalf… Anything girly and cute, pink or aqua, Marie Antionette themed gets bought and put in her room. Cupcakes, nesting dolls, shoes (my baby literally has more shoes than I do) and ribbons are a must have in my life now!
And if my little girl ever decides she’s a tomboy, she’s perfectly welcome to hand me over all her girly stuff, lol!
I think I tend to look more girly on the outside then I am on the inside but I think I am evenly matched between boy & girl qualities.
On the girl side, I am a bit high maintenance (I don’t go out makeup less often and you won’t find me camping or stayign at places with community bathrooms) and I love shopping, doing makeup, doing my hair, cute Japanese toys (I collect hello kitty & tokidoki items) and fun clothes.
On the other side I love androgynous looks, LOVE horror movies and gore, love books/movies about serial killers (forensics and forensic psychology facinates me), playing video games, and reading comics. Also growing up, most of my friends were guys. Girls were too catty for me. Even today, my closest friends are guys. I also chopped off my hair into a pixie cut when I was in my early 20s.
Oh yeah, I also hate to cook. My bf does all the cooking in our place. Role reversal much? :)
I almost fit the typical girl gender. I have bows, clips, makeup, dresses, etc for girl type things. I wear them almost all the time. However, I fit the boy gender role as well. I have no problem walking around in basketball shorts, sometimes I let the hair on my legs grow because I’m not going anywhere for that time, I also mess around with computers, and I don’t mind getting things in the house fixed with my handy hammer. I feel a little crazy since I like both boy and girl things but then again I can get a lot of my to do list done all on my own!
I am neither!
I am the girl in grunge and rock and punk rock clothes and I am also the girl in frilly dresses and skirts. I am a fighter, I am gentle, I am brave and strong and beautiful.
In a time when we came be everything we dream of you cant expect us to fit any role, because we are making our own! ^-^
I think that all gender stereotypes in themselves are just as pointless as all other stereotypes. Gender traits should not be made in broad generalizations and it is sad that society does not teach us this at a young age. Crossing over into a “gender specific” way of dressing or acting although being less shocking today it will always be a point of discomfort to our society as a whole.
that being said, i do consider myself to follow certain stereotypical standards of being male and female. I find that my method of thought is typically more of a masculine based one. I generally am pretty forward and in your face which usually ends up with me saying what most people would consider inappropriate. A lot of swearing and dirty jokes and all around pretty shocking behavior (for a female). On top of that i spend a lot of time with guys, which has lead to a pretty male outlook on how i act. A night of hanging out regularly ends in wrestling matches and i am always waking up in the morning covered in bruises.
I kind of unconsciously make up for the fact that i do not act feminine by dressing in a hyper feminine fashion. I wear heels and skirts and dresses six out of seven days a week. I refuse to leave the house without my hair and makeup done and i love to shop.
I dont really think that my actions make me any less of a woman, but i am constantly being told that I am a “man” in other peoples eyes. People seem to need to make sense of others by labeling them as representing a certain gender (subculture, age, etc.). It is a coping mechanism to make others seem less threatening. I do not think that this needs to stop, I only ask that people pay attention and make their own observations separate from that of societies.
I’m in most ways the typical girl. I love pink, glitter, kitties, Marie Antoinette, and cupcakes, almost to the point of it being painful. You’re more likely to find me baking or styling someone’s hair then you ever would near a more “male” oriented activity. But, there are exceptions to this “female” category I fall under. I love gore. Horror movies make me giggle, slasher films bring an odd joy to my day. I’d rather watch that then a love story any day. And I tend to get along better with guys, as we have similar outlooks on relationships, friendships and life in general. Most of my guy friends love that I don’t believe that every couple should be monogamous to be happy. I also have short hair, and prefer it that way. I’m an odd balance of more masculine beliefs and am more feminine in how I carry myself and how I appear.
i’ve alway been a tomboy. when i was little my family used to joke that all i needed was a little penis (haha) and i would be a boy. i always loved to get dirty and play rough… i didn’t even start wearing makeup until i was 16 and even then i only used mascara. but, as the years go by the girlier and girlier i become. i still for the most part stick to skinny jeans and a simple top but, i feel as i get older i become more in touch w/ my femininity and the power of my looks/body.
i think it took so long for me to get here because for so long i was uncomfortable with my body. wearing a sweatshirt and jeans hides the imperfections so much better than a dress..since leaving my teen years behind i have dropped 40lbs and instead of the plain old mascara and sweatshirt i opt for skinny jeans, fitted top, my signature sexy red knee high boots,and of course i never go out w/out putting on some eyeliner, mascara, and of course my shimmer dust (absolute necessities).
i still love the boy stuff: dirtbiking,football (my love),shooting guns,old cars & motorcyles (grew up on the back of my dad’s Harley) but i am also way more in touch w/ the inner raver-diva that was suppressed for so long!
i love being a girl and almost everything that comes with it! <333
I’m pretty girly most of the time, although I have a huge love for wearing mens business attire. Sometimes I feel like girls are too catty and high maintenance to be like me, but sometimes I am also catty and high maintenance! So I think I’m a good mix of the two. I also find androgyny beautiful and artistic, but would not want to be mistaken for a boy…
i fit in as a girl because i am pretty feminine. my body shape is womanly with my larger hips. i dress pretty girly too and i love buying clothes. i like my little domestic crafts & baking.
but growing up, i was such a tomboy! and some of these things really stuck with me. i like making messes, getting dirty, and making noise. the reason i prefer wearing dresses is to not have to worry about putting together an outfit and basically just wear a big shirt.
so i am really a mix that i am very happy with, best traits of both genders!