
Your clothes tell a story to the world. You may hardly breathe a whisper, but your shirt, stockings and an overcoat are already making a public statement. Why not let yours be one of awesomeness?
In this guide, I am not going to teach you about the Little Black Dress. I won’t advise you how to be safe, won’t tell you to stock up on classics & basics of the wardrobe. You won’t hear me talking about discovering your personal style – style is not a chemical element that can be simply discovered. Eternal style is a complex concoction of ideas, simmered on low fire and perfected over time. It is a result of an agile mind.
What I offer below is tips how to set your inner fashionista free and develop an unparalleled style people will remember long after you’re gone.
- Stick to your vision
Style is about having a consistent vision. Overtime, you’ll learn to trust yourself and not worry so much about what people will think, as long as you like it. Experiment! You might make a few mistakes along the way, but it’s worth it. Think of fashion as a puzzle game – have fun with it and enjoy yourself!
- Find your GLEE style

Sometimes I get so psyched over a certain shoe or cut, I literally can’t sleep. Truth. Is there a look that inspires you to the point of an obsession? An article of clothing you can’t imagine existing without? Find it. Own it. Experiment. Fashion that keeps you up at night is what you’re looking for!
And don’t be afraid to look at others’ work for inspiration. No one is 100% original, and as Salvador Dali put it, “Those who do not want to imitate anything, produce nothing”. Bits and pieces that you borrowed from other people’s style are what makes your own unique style.
- Keep it consistent, but diverse
A great style is equal parts consistency & diversity. Without consistency, it’s just clothes; without diversity, it’s cul de sac. Adhering to a particular theme can be good – mod, boho, avant-garde – but don’t limit yourself to just one particular look, cut, silhouette or palette. It’s ok to throw in some fun, unexpected pieces, and just because you’ve never worn it before, doesn’t mean you can’t ever!
- Know what’s out there
Most articles will tell you to ignore trends if you want a truly original style, but I disagree. Not knowing what’s out there, we limit our style arsenal and stifle creativity. I recommend staying on top of current fashion and always keeping an eye out for that special one that’s just for you. After all, some of the greatest fashions came about as interpretations of other trends!
But studying the mainstream is not enough. One of the reasons I write this blogazine is to introduce new, up-and-coming models, designers, and musicians to a bigger audience. The fashion centrifuge chews you up and spits you out, and the way to stay ahead is to be in touch with the underground. Hey, big designers do it – why can’t you? Also, it helps to have a degree of separation – copying Gwen Stefani‘s look won’t get you far, but being inspired by Audrey Kitching might land you on the cover of Nylon.
- Turn your flaws into strengths
Is there anything unusual about the way you look? Something you might even consider ugly, like frizzy hair or a big nose? Flaunt it! By conforming to the existing beauty standards, we erase our individuality – a kiss of death when it comes to style. It’s better to be unique and not traditionally beautiful, than pretty and plain.
Women who turned their unusual traits into a signature look are Jennifer Lopez (biggg butt), Cintia Dicker (lots of freckles), Angelina Jolie (unusually large mouth), Brooke Shields (thick eyebrows), Katie Holmes (crooked smile), Liza Minelli (damn ugly and proud of it!).
- Be daring!

Playing it safe is for the wussies and the démodé. Be audacious and take risks! Force yourself out of your safety zone, mix & match patterns and colors you wouldn’t normally wear together – you might just end up with something cool!
Comfort vs fashion: I’ve read in many places, many times that we only should wear what we feel comfortable in. The general idea is that if we don’t feel comfy, it won’t look good. I’m scared to imagine the place our world would be, if everyone followed that advice! Fashion, like any art form, is about aesthetic, not comfort. Corsets and high heels are far from comfort wear, but we love them anyway because they look amazing. What sacrifices you’re willing to make for the sake of beauty is entirely up to you.
- The Body Type dilemma
So what’s the deal with all these body types? Are you an apple, a pear, an hourglass, or a straight line? (According to polls, most women are a straight line). And most importantly, what the hell does this mean in terms of clothing choices?
My sister is short, under 5 feet. Most girls her height would have high heels permanently glued to the soles of their feet, but not Kat. I see her wearing flats all the time, and it looks great. It’s good to know some basic rules of proportions, but you don’t have to follow them to the T. Generally, we want clothes that make us look taller and leaner, but rules only matter to those who follow them. If you’re really feeling insecure about something (large breasts, big hips, etc), then cover it up. Otherwise, let it all hang out!
- The Best Color dilemma
I get this question a lot: I have green eyes, brown hair and fair skin. Which color will look best on me?
Too many websites are preoccupied with figuring out the human color palette (this reminds me of show bunnies). Women argue whether they are a Spring or a Summer type; cool, warm, or neutral skin tone. It’s all awfully confusing and, frankly, irrelevant. The best color on you is the one you like!
Apparently, redheads are not supposed to wear pink. But I do it, because it induces insane amounts of glee!
“Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn’t be able to fly. But the bumble bee doesn’t know it, so it goes on flying anyway.“ – Mary Kay Ash

Epilogue
It takes a flamboyant individual to rock a flamboyant frock. Extraordinary style often belongs to the extraordinary people – Vivenne Westwood, Marilyn Manson and Betsey Johnson all share that fearless, eccentric aesthetic that I admire. Artists often have a distorted perception of what’s beautiful, what’s normal, and what’s socially acceptable, due to constantly thinking outside the box. But that’s what makes their style so unique and fascinating. I bet you anything that if you asked Marilyn to go into a Wal-Mart and pick out a ‘normal’ outfit, he’d come out looking like a freak anyway. The best path to nurturing your style lies through allowing your individuality – however quirky – be your guide.
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Deerlings: if you could describe your personal style in 3 words, what would it be? Doe Deere = colorful, girly, kooky. :)












Three words? Plain, thrifty, comfortable! Ahh!
I’m supposed to be getting dressed this very minute to go play mini-golf with friends. This article may have inspired me to not reach for the worn-out jeans. :p
Thanks, Doe! You’re a doll.
Japanese punk nerd.
Doe, you’re a goddess. Although many of these recommendations make me quake in my boots, I know they ARE effective ways to explore and embrace individual style. Thanks for preaching the word, and SO eloquently.
Great article…my head was bobbing like a nodding dogs all way through, I entirely concur!
CalamityJem = Capricious, Creative, Eclectic
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I was just having a conversation about this to my bestie less that an hour ago. =D
My style in three words?
Lots of Purple.
=D
facile, feminine, fanciful.
excellent suggestions ;D
i feel inspired.
My style is (and i did not realize this until recently) I like to look like a doll. A kick-ass doll but a doll nonetheless. ;D It also effects my make up.
That line about Marilyn Manson in Wal-Mart made me laugh. (:
I guess I haven’t quite got my personal style down pat yet, right now it’s mostly a mix of whatever I find comfortable/cute, much of which I don’t even wear. My wardrobe needs a major rehaul!
I like the point you make at the end about the link between style & personality – well written.
I totally agree…I would much rather see unique people embracing how they are and having fun than a bunch of bland, brainwashed clones! As for me, common influences are goth, grunge, lolita, burlesque pinup, futuristic glam, dandy style, the 80s and androgeny. Three words is really hard, so
Arabis_dando= dark eclectic mishmash!!
xx
Three words:
Audacious, ‘elegant’ ( as classy but STILL audacious, it’s not an oxymoron ! ), unique
( this sounds so pretentious actually ! But it’s how people describe me and my style, and I do feel audacious and ‘ unique ‘… in the best acception of the word ! )
And I forgot: if it should be a decade, it’s 6o’ and 8o’. No, not incompatible !
I used to have a very deffined personal style that started with my alternately pink and red hair and continued on with things that were shinie and overly dramatic (to the general public) eye make up. Now I have fallen into fashion limbo, where my boss forces clothing choices (and hair color “it’s too red”) on me. i feel uncomfortable in my skin and i have no idea where my artsy fun style went. I am sure it must be at home with my wigs and fake eyelashes.
three words? that’s so difficult!
ummm…
retro, feminine, colourful?
maybe. I need someone else to tell me!
In three words I guess it would be Rococco, feminine, and floral.
I’m a classic lolita, but most of all, I believe in high-quality garb. I’d rather have one well-made dress of quality materials than 5 cheaper ones. There’s always room for a good mixture of quality and economy though!
Oh, and I totally agree about embracing your flaws. I always used to want to get a nose job to have a smaller more petite nose, as opposed to my “ski slope.” But now I feel like it really accentuates the way I dress. It makes me feel regal and defined.
dark, purple, vibrant
My three favourite colours are purple, black, and anything thats shiny. Hence why I can be both dark and vibrant at the same time ;)
I bought an awesome knit knee-length purple jacket from a supposed teeny-bopper store the other day, and it was only $20! The most unlikely stores have great things if you just take the time to look at them.
Well said!
I think when people talk about feeling comfortable in clothes, it is more mental comfort than physical. If you don’t feel confident in clothes, it will show. You’ll be pulling at and adjusting the material all the time, and slouching back.
My style:
Feminine, tomboyish (yep, the two do go!), figure flattering?
I’ve become aware that my best bits are my shoulders and waist, so I accentuate them. I tend to dress in a way that is comfy and practical. But comfy dosen’t have to mean frumpy!! You can still look great in the cold, at school, on a walk, anywhere! All you need is a good cut and some accessories.
As for working with faults, I used to hate my curly fizzy hair.
Now I’ve embraced it and realised with minimal styling and some moose, my hair looks much better than ever.
Work with what you’ve got, don’t hide it!
mod, chic and bright
Girlish, eccentric, sophisticated (I think so, at least!)
There were some really inspirational life quotes in here! The Dali quote and the bumblebee quote, are both inspiring!
Goth-ish, Punk-ish, Sweet
I rarely wear anything eccentric, not because I don’t like it, ’cause I do, but because it’s not convinient. I’m a baker, and I have to wear a uniform all the time, so I don’t get dressed-up everyday.
When I do though, it’s all fishnets, animal-prints, boots and corsets. Or super girly and frilly…
Mod, classic, punk
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Wow. You are so inspiring!!
I honestly have no idea how to describe my style in three words!
I guess it would be : Whatever I Love.
I wear so many different things that it’s hard to decide on one style!
What a great kick in the pants! I need to stop worrying about my style and start living it.
My friend K calls my look “pixie glitter butch”–”cause you wear rhinestones and flowers in your hair but people would have have to be blind to look at you and not tell you like girls.”
So, lots of pinstripes, vests, fitted tees, flower hair clips, funky jewelry, and chunky heeled shoes. It’s odd, but it’s me!
The thing [i]is[/i], my dear, that the laws of physics have told me that I cannot fly either.
Even when I did not know that, I could not.
Of course, I’m alright with that. For me, fashion is more about identity exploration than anything else– even the parts that others don’t see.
This is such a great article! I agree that great style does not happen in a vacuum and that you must draw from outside sources for inspiration, including other people. Knowing what styles you hate is half the battle, because you know what you don’t feel comfortable in then you can discover what your “GLEE” is…
Great article, Doe Deere
Flirty, sassy and quirky
oo..for me it must be – classy, girly, retro…or well trying to be! retro can sure be pricey sometimes!
simple, classic, comfy
hmm,
sweet, vintage, earthy.
I take a lot of chances in the styles of my clothing, but when it comes to colors, it’s really toned down. I hardly wear loud colors at all. You’d never catch me in say, bright red.
I LOVE this article from you Ms. Deere ;~) – esp. your descriptions of people who really work it LOL.
My style is early 58 year old bag lady with a kickin’ bod and face and outrageous eyemakeup. It’s not intentional except I got lucky in the face genes and have to work the bod hard to keep lousy joints from making me a cripple. I work it because it’s truly how I feel best. Some people may not think I’m workin’ it but I do, so what else could possibly matter in that kind of aesthetic stuff.
Happy camper ;~)
Three words to describe my style? I like this question! I would say my style is Bright, Simple, Confident!
doe, i love your blog– my mom just ordered me shadows for your line for my 21st birthday and i can’t wait to try them out!!
my style in three words: gamine, tatterdemalion, debauchery
Spooky! Playful! Industrial!
Hehe, I know that industrial and playful don’t normally go hand in hand, but to others I appear some sort of gothy pixie, with big stompy boots with a foofy skirt and elegant stockings. n__n; Can’t go wrong with my hodge-podge of Lip Serivice, Futurstate, and random finds :3
I gotta be honest: I’m kind of in love with “Japanese punk nerd”
Me? I’m eclectic, colorful, and unpredictable. I’;ll wear teal tights, a dress, and a feather headband one day, then jeans and a concert t-shirt the next. Why pick one style genre when there are so many to choose from?
due to my location and type of work I would have to say my style is 80% of the time:
utilitarian, sporty, and all the while retro
as for that other 20% I’m still trying to figure out what I really like. It changes alot.
but for some reason no matter what I wear I am always intimidating
you have impeccable advice my deere. I was actually thinking about this topic the other day.. its nice to know im not alone. i get asked a lot about where i find things and why i wear them. i wear what is aesthetically pleasing to me and makes me feel happy inside.
leopard print, monster fur, nerdy
a little more than three words technically.. but i will interpret the guidelines as using three descriptors.
-resplendent, polished, dusky-
Oh & her name is Cinita Dicker not Cynthia ;-)
Kei = eccentric, punk, Harajuku
Oh, and i want to point out that when I say Harajuku, I don’t mean Gwen Stefani’s made up style, I mean the real Tokyo thing. I’ve been there and have dubbed it my second home.
edgy, elegent, european
Colorful, 80′s, Metal
And I’ll cheat and throw in two more Girlie and Tomboyish, at the same time (yep I somehow manage that one) Lots of makeup and long long hair + heavy metal band t-shirts and leather studded wrist bands and biker boots. I’m all over the place honestly. Too much good stuff.
Sophisticated, Foxy, Bohemian
Eighties punk dolly.
Ahah.
I love, love, love tiny, tiered skirts and dresses!
And pretty, colorful gloves and hoisery!
I used to be such a tomboy, too.
Haha. (: <3
I’m a flat 5’2″ femme with a boyish blonde haircut and an hourglass figure.
Imagine thaaaat. :]
I love all my spiked cuffs and chokers, especially paired with my green and black vertically striped tights, spiderweb lace mini-dress, and Go-Go boots. :D
I’m only fifteen, so it’s definitely not all in a trashy manner.
Rather classy and laid-back, but still with a Punk edge–especially with The Clash and SubHumans blaring out of my MP3 player.
Haha.
<3
colorful, whimsical, edgy :]
Incidentally, you quoted my favorite quote ever! My mom worked for Mary Kay Cosmetics for a long time, and she always said this to me as a “believe in yourself” reminder. :]
“Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn’t be able to fly. But the bumble bee doesn’t know it, so it goes on flying anyway.“ – Mary Kay Ash
It’s so true that most girls actually aren’t that curvy, but straight. I’m supercurvy, tiny waist, wide hips and big breasts. I can hardly find a thing that fits! Funny how that works. :/
Layers! I love layers, tops with sweaters and vibrant green or dark orange color coats and lots of black! (like the ones at anthropologie, best store in the world!) Boots from combat to sophisticated. I love fashion….that’s my three words.. :)