Tue 9 Dec 2008

“It’s always dark under the candle” – Estonian proverb
Everywhere you go, there’s talk of recession – a world-wide economic downturn, prompted by the increased prices, higher rates of unemployment, and general melancholy in masses. A quick Google search on how to survive a recession revealed an endless list of money-saving tips. But somehow, these emotional pick-me-uppers only made me more depressed. Don’t eat out. Recycle old clothes. Buy only the bare necessities. After reading the 168 tips on frugal living – including a suggestion to flush the toilet every other time to save water – my brain was ready to go into a happy coma.
What are we doing to ourselves? Are we really willing to let go of our humanity to save a penny?
I am not against sensible living. I use compact fluorescent light bulbs and flip the switch to the OFF position every time I leave the room. I keep the thermostat at 60F at night (a thick comforter and two Persians keep me warm and toasty) to keep my gas bill down. I frequently go to Salvation Army – to donate and look through the racks, because there’s always something in like-new or brand-new condition to be found. I get it: we all want to be thrifty and economize – but it doesn’t mean to should deny ourselves the last pleasures in life and water plants with pasta water! (Yet another ‘practical’ suggestion from the list.)
During 9/11, I was working as a production assistant on a theater play. When the planes hit the buildings, I was certain the production was off. Who would want to see our silly Vaudeville play when all hell was breaking loose? I was surprised to receive a call from my boss Janice, who insisted the rehearsal was still on. We had to take 7 different trains to get to the theater, but we made it. We can’t stop living our lives just because something like this happens, Janice told me – I still remember her exact words. Premiering just a few weeks after the World Trade Center disaster, our play was a hit. It was almost like people needed some cheering up…
The best and most effective way to fight recession is to ignore it. Doing otherwise will only worsen and prolong it. We mustn’t cancel our plans and should continue doing what we do: eat out, meet up with friends for drinks, go to the theater, vacation, have fun. Of course, few can afford to make absolutely no adjustments when money is tight – and those who can often feel guilty for spending lavishly. But stuffing your money under the mattress isn’t going to help anyone. Spend however you want, if you can afford it! Supporting businesses now is more important than ever – and by buying that sandwich at a deli you may have just saved someone’s job.
World economy is cyclical; this is not our first recession and most definitely not our last. The good news that even during the rockiest of times, there have always been people who managed not to merely survive, but to flourish. You can be that person. I started a makeup business smack in the middle of a recession, when all retailers were hurting, and it took off. Makeup is considered a luxury item, but it’s a hell of a lot cheaper than a $250 dress, and brings as much happiness and satisfaction!
Don’t let all this negative talk tarnish your optimism. Future is open to interpretation. You can be everything you want to be.
Deerlings: what are your views on recession?

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December 9th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Is it bad that I would rather flush the toilet once a week than cut back to no shopping.
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
I really liked this entry…finally, a positive take on ‘how to survive recession’.
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
absolutly agree. the longer people start hording (sp?) money the longer the economy will be in this slump. as long as my husband still has his job there is no reason to not keep going as we normally did.
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:42 pm
That’s so true. Recession was here before too. And not only once, but now when everyone talks about, everyone is SCARED.
And because of that hell is going on out there.
The thing is, that if you don’t mind about it so much, it actually won’t change your life so dramatically. Because, it’s not worth it.
I mean is a couple of $ really worth the stress and fear?
I don’t think so.
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
Thank you for this post and for your positivity!
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
flushing toilets only matters if you pay the water bill.
THANK YOU DOE! Some one who actually gets that in the case of recessions, talking about it MAKES IT WORSE! If the press had stopped talking about it everyday for every second than people wouldnt have gotten soooo SCARED and pulled all their money out of stock and screwed up the stock exchanges. It is now oficial theat worrying will give you grey hair, wrinkles and a recession.
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December 9th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Amen, Doe! What a great post. The Recession is largely psychologically based, right? If we all had confidence in our government and our lifestyle, I imagine things would turn around a good bit faster. Honestly, I haven’t really curbed my spending yet…I’m viewing these holiday shopping sprees as my American duty! ;)
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December 9th, 2008 at 2:59 pm
I loved this! I could not agree more…the whole reason the stock market has gone in the gutter is cause people get scared and pull out! Leave your money where it is, that is the best thing to do right now…yes you will lose some…but it will go back up, thats what it does. If you are worried about losing your money then investing is the wroooong thing for you!
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December 9th, 2008 at 3:56 pm
Thank you for such a positive outlook, Doe! Reading this was exactly what I needed. As a college student, I’m broke enough as it is, and all the talk about the recession was stressing me out even more. It’s great to hear something optimistic about it. This is honestly the best advice I’ve heard all year, so thanks again! :)
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December 9th, 2008 at 4:15 pm
I don’t think we should stop living our lives during recession but I do beleive we as a society need to stop the endless material consumption we do. Black Friday is a great example of this. I refuse to shop on this day because people are animals. All fighting to get the best price on a toy or flat screen tv for a holiday gift. And this year, a wallmart employee died because of the rush of people flowing into the store. It’s sickening. I’ve cut back on my spending when it comes to material things. I’d rather spend my money on buying organic food at Whole Foods each week. It’s more important them a new sweater or a dvd that I don’t really need. This year for the holiday I told people not to even get me gifts. I’d rather people donate money in my name to an animal charity I support. Shelters and animals charities are really hurting this year since people can’t afford to give this year and because many families had to get rid of their pets because they can’t afford them anymore (this is how I got my bunny, family had to get rid of some of their pets because they had to movie from house to apartment).
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December 9th, 2008 at 4:24 pm
That makes me feel considerably better about the 50€ I spent today on little bitty luxuries!
Thank you for the positivity! :D
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December 9th, 2008 at 4:40 pm
A very healthy, thoughtful, and much-needed piece of work here, Doe! Thank-you very much! (makes me even happier that I’m ordering a buncha stuff off you tomorrow! ha! This may not be the place to ask but how long does your delivery to England take? Only I need some goodies for some shoots over xmas time?!)
Thanks again,
Jess
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December 9th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
The UK government doesn’t seem want us to curb our spending, in fact they want us to ’spend spend spend’ our way out of the recession…how that will work, I have not quite worked out yet? Maybe it’s because I’m one of those millions of “unwashed” who haven’t been to Uni? Anyway, the way I see it you can believe in the system & in the economy all you want, however the bottom line is that greed has yet again whacked us sideways, it’s like history, these things come & go like waves to the shore.
I personally totally feel for the poor buggers that have lost their jobs & the roofs over their heads, somehow I think the last thing on their minds is whether or not to flush the frigging toilet!
I think ignoring the fact that it’s happening is perhaps a little bit foolish but neither do I think there is any need (as yet) to take things to extremes.
Life is unpredictable, so being aware that the shit can hit the fan at anytime isn’t necessarily about being a “doom & gloom” merchant & I do think awereness does help in the long run!
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December 9th, 2008 at 4:57 pm
♣ Jes
Shipping to UK usually takes 7-10 days, but around Christmas there are not guarantees. Post gets so overwhelmed around the holidays, you know?
♣ calamityjem
I totally agree with you. By ‘ignoring’ the recession I meant not changing your lifestyle if you can afford it; ignoring *it* is hardly possible… But you know what I was thinking? Someone who is really, really broke might find those tips helpful; but chances are, if you own a toilet, you are in a better position than someone who would benefit from flushing once a day.
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:01 pm
I hear a lot of tips to save during the recession, but I have no idea how it’s supposed to work when the whole idea of economy is “in order to thrive, money must go round and round”
I think it’s a good time to reflect back on what we’re wasting on, but I think we should leave the necessities and glee alone. I can’t agree with your post more.
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
And regarding the list you posted, some of those are good ways of preventing yourself from spending money you don’t need to spent. I don’t understand things like flushing your toilet less often because that really won’t save a lot of water or save you money if you live in an apartment since the owner of building usually pays for water. But I do some of the things on the list automatically like: try to shop locally, always grocery shop with list (if my bf and I don’t we end up with a $150-200 weekly food bill from Whole Foods…our new thing is once we fill up two of their recycling bags, we are done shopping), eat at home (we only go out to eat no more then twice a week), bring lunch to work (we both do this since you can spend a lot on lunch on a weekly basis if you eat out), shut off lights when not in room, turn heat down at night, winterproof windows in winter, turn computer off at night etc…
But I do have to admit that I haven’t bothered ot check my 401k since the recession. I’m scared to see how much I’ve lost.
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:23 pm
I agree we shouldn’t let the recession stop us from doing what we want, an interesting thing that occurs during bad economy is creativity, many people who may not wish to spend on designer clothing are spending more on accessories and make-up, many people still want to make themselves feel better with a cute new scarf or gloves or buy pretty make-up even the underwear business has been doing well during this recession. We don’t need to spend more to look fabulous we can look great but in more creative ways I mean look we are using hosiery now more than ever, I wouldn’t had seen that coming a few years ago, or the vintage revival in clothing, I find it interesting to see how people use fashion to make themselves feel good while going through economic hardships.
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:32 pm
People love makeup during times of financial hardships, its not a huge splurge, its just a little something pretty that makes you feel amazing!
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:53 pm
Pasta water?? Not flushing?? Hell, I skip a whole step and just urinate straight on my plants.
I like what Glendy said about creativity. I definitely have been inspired to be more creative with my purchases. I am back in love with thrifting. It forces me to look at things differently. What can I hem? What can I spray paint? What can I dye?
Good stuff…
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December 9th, 2008 at 5:53 pm
Obviously…kidding about the plant urination thing.
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December 9th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
This was a wonderful post. Paring down your material purchases and recreational activities to only the bare necessities seems harsh and puritan. I love this quote, though I don’t know the source: “Everything in moderation, including moderation.”
Sadly, the effects of the recession reach far beyond the economy. It’s a cumulative breakdown of various social, cultural, and political structures, which are much harder to stay optimistic about. I should know; I am in Greece, where many riots are taking place. I have no doubt that were it not for the recession, the degree of rage and violence (on both the police and the protestors’ part) would not have reached this level.
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December 9th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
I have two sides to this situation. 1. Myself and 2. my Dad
1. I agree with you that if you have the means to spend then do so. I may be a poor university student but i have a part time job and I set asside money every month for “happy things” these can be anything from makeup or clothes. the ressession will not stop this becasue i have the means to continue.
on the other hand…
2. My dad just yesterday got laid off because do to the ressesion the company lost 2 major contracts and hence had to lay people off. So he will have a very tight christmas and wont be able to spent much at all… It realy affects everyone differently.
Being able to experience both sides I feel more overwhelmed to do my part and spend the money i can. If you have a car drive and buy gas. The Oil market may be cheap right now but its those people in Alberta for example who are well on their way to needing a bailout of their own since most of their industry is now on hold eliminating jobs their as well as elsewhere for companies that they rely on.
Sorry for the rant. it was jsut on my chest.
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December 9th, 2008 at 6:42 pm
i don’t think watering your plants with pasta water, water that’s just going to get thrown out anyway, is degrading.
i don’t think staying in and cooking meals with friends and family most of the time, rather than going out twice a week, means a loss of humanity.
you’re absolutely right that we should stay positive and keep from panicking. i agree that the list is excessive when it says things like “never” or “always” do something-or-other. but why be depressed at the thought of adjusting the way we live? why does that have to be a scary thought? we’re part of something that’s bigger than we are. we can’t always be in control. it’s kind of an exciting adventure.
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December 9th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
I think the recession is just forcing people to live within their means, which is a good thing. As long as people are spending wisely, I think your upbeat approach to spending is sound. Otherwise, they are just adding to the problem of living on credit.
As for our family, I tried to get my hubby to stop spending so much on wine. That didn’t work for long. ;) I only bought a few new wardrobe items for Fall, and I’ve made/designed most of my daughters winter wardrobe and a few items for my son (girls are so much more fun!). Shopping from my vast stash of fabrics was something I needed to do anyways. :)
This was my first comment (I think) – love your blog and upbeat attitude, Doe. :)
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December 9th, 2008 at 7:16 pm
yay doe! props for that article! and good luck with your makeup buisness (if shipping from ny to warsaw wasn’t more expensive, than makeup itself i would buy at least half of your collection!)
you can’t actually feel economical crisis here in poland, but still it really pisses me of, that many people keep themselves from little every day indulgences!
like why eat pasta with instant sauce or rice with ketchup (like my friend did) because you can’t afford a meal in a restaurant! best food is the cheap one. with a really poor budget (i’m a tipical poor student) i can eat better than in most restaurants!
and food is only just a begining! living with a low budget doesn’t mean that you have to refuse yourself anything!
you only have to be able to enjoy the littliest things in your life and change narrow mindset, that all cheap things are for poor people (and no one want to be poor)
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December 9th, 2008 at 7:53 pm
♣ Red
Hahaha! Urinate straight into your plans to save water! Almost as good as Sheryl Crow’s “use only one square of toilet paper per session to save trees”…
♣ Noelle
Thanks for sharing your story. I’m very sorry to hear about your dad. I, too, have friends and relatives in Russia who are getting laid off or having their work week shortened to 3-4 days (so they can pay them less). Frugality is a necessity in their case…
♣ Jessica
I thought the pasta water suggestion was funny, because it contains starch and will probably make the soil go bad. :) But I’m not a gardener and for all I know spaghetti water is the best for geranium!!!
♣ Mimi
Actually, I charge the same shipping for domestic and international orders. Also, shipping is free on all orders over $50.
I do agree with you about food. Learning to cook is not that difficult (especially with unlimited recipes available online!) and some of the best-tasting foods I’ve ever had were home-made. :) P.S. I eat rice with ketchup!! :)))
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December 9th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
I work in the cosmetics industry, and it’s incredible to me that some women who come in will drop $300+ on Stila, and will say with a laugh “Oh, and I just came in here for lipstick!” Some of my coworkers sort of condemn these women and their decadence, but they inspire me. (And besides, if they can afford it more power to them! If I ever get to the point where I can impulse buy hundreds of dollars of cosmetics, you can bet that I most definitely will.) They inspire me to treat myself and my friends within my means, whether it’s pinching pennies all week to buy fancy blush or my guy and I skipping dinner and splurging on a couple bottles of wine to share instead. Somehow, little things like these really make the recession quite comfortable, because I don’t feel like I’m cutting back.
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December 9th, 2008 at 8:30 pm
I completely agree with you Xenia!
I feel like a lot of ‘the crisis’ has to do with the way people are taking what’s going on.
It’s freaky how much all the countries are going crazy. I was recently back home in Spain and I was shocked to see the media craze over it, even though Spain isn’t in recession. They kept saying over & over how they “expect it” to be in recession within 9 months!
with that attitude, of coarse!
great post!
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December 9th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
We have similar skin tones and i was wondering which brand/kind of concealer do you use and fondation?
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December 9th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
I actually had a conversation like this earlier today when I met up with my new manager to discuss my new job. One of my questions during the meeting was how our industry (cosmetology) has been faring since the economy has taken a nose dive. I got the answer I was expecting to hear, the answer that is always true in this business…”Some people are booked all day, and some have a few clients a week.” What it boils down to is that the recession can only greatly impact your life if you plan for it to.
Once again, thank you for a great post.
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December 10th, 2008 at 12:54 am
I feel exactly the same way. I do cut back a bit, but I feel like by talking about it all the time or by encouraging people not to spend on anything, that it’s causing a rash of panic. almost as if the aliens have landed or something.
if we don’t spend, then all those people who did those jobs to make those “excessive” things loose their jobs, too.
for example geisha… their existance keeps over 200-year old family operated sweet shops (and kimono shops and hair ornament shops,etc, etc…) it keeps them alive and able to keep running.
It always worries me as I work in an non-essential industry, when we go through stuff like this. I work in animation. I mean how frivolous can you get? But when people go through hard times, they want the release of fantasy, and that includes animation and makeup and theater and all that jazz.
during the wars, animation actually did relatively well. people wanted that escape.
this is my first time responding to your journal, but I just wanted to voice my agreement and also to thank you for the inspiration. I’m getting a lot braver with my makeup choices lately partially thanks to you! And I love seeing your outfits and photos!
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December 10th, 2008 at 1:15 am
The funny thing is that people just throw around words like “recession” and “depression” and don’t really have a clue what they are, where they came from, and anything having to really do with the economy. They’re just echoing newscasters or someone they heard in Starbucks.
I have a problem when things get tight…because I already live pretty frugally! It’s hard to cut back when there’s not much to cut back on…
Oh well, they’re predicting a second quarter upswing for 2009. Hopefully it’s true!
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December 10th, 2008 at 1:21 am
While I agree with the last part, I don’t think that saving the environment is a bad thing, nor should peoples attempts be sniffed at.
Watering plants with pasta water isn’t a bad idea at all. Water is not a renewable resource, and therefore we should do all we can to conserve it. But that has nothing to do with the economy at all. They’re two separate issues. In this country people are INCREDIBLY wasteful and it’s disgusting what we take for granted.
Flushing every other time doesn’t hurt anyone, so who cares if people do that?
The point of the tips is to try to live as least of an impactful existance as possible instead of using up all the earth has just for the sake of looking pretty, or having new clothes.
There are many choices people make, such as using non-natural fibers which are made from plastic, which dumps tons and tons of chemicals into the waterways and pollutes, that people don’t even think about.
As far as the economy goes, I’ve pretty much been ignoring the whole thing, because the media blows everything way out of proportion anyways.
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December 10th, 2008 at 1:29 am
thanks for the positivity…i really need the optimism drink rite now so this was surely a great read for me!!
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December 10th, 2008 at 2:30 am
That is actually the best piece of advice I have ever been given. As a out of work college student I have a hard time refraining from buying things that make me happy. I’m tired of begin scared of spending money or putting my money in the bank. Thank you so much for the advice I am really taking it to heart.
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December 10th, 2008 at 10:16 am
Funny, I was just thinking about this yesterday. :) I’m a poor grad student, so I already have to be careful of what I spend my money on. Cutting back more would mean I’d have nothing! Even if I was able to spend more money, I don’t think the recession would have an effect on my spending. You only live once, and frankly, I don’t want to waste any time moaning about the recession and depriving myself of buying things and going places that make me happy.
” P.S. I eat rice with ketchup!! :)))”
Haha, I do too! My boyfriend is Asian, and he thinks it is so weird that I don’t just eat my rice plain. But it tastes SO GOOD.
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December 10th, 2008 at 11:57 am
The prices on commodities have not increased; quite the opposite – they have decreased. Many companies are slashing prices to push their product out before the next shipment comes in: e.g. 30-80% discounts on designer clothing, etc. Gas is cheaper than it has been in 10 years.
You should only penny-pinch if you have either lost your job or are expecting to lose your job in the near future. You should always penny-pinch if you are in debt.
168 Frugal Tips do help you limit your consumption in general. If you are concerned about the environment, these tips are quite useful.
Eating less red meat is a great way to help the environment because raising cattle takes up many resources, e.g. water to irrigate fields for the cows to graze on.
Some of her tips don’t actually help you save money but are good tips in general. Bringing your own bags to a grocery store won’t help you financially (you’ll probably spend more if you buy a canvas bag). Unless your store actually gives you a financial incentive for that – ours gives us back $.02 per bag – you should do it anyway to stop wasting plastic.
Moving in with roommates is a great tip. On top of that, urban dwellers have a much lower carbon footprint because they share many resources. A stand-alone house in the middle of nowhere takes up much more energy to heat and requires a car.
My final comment: Spend spend spend! But spend on things that don’t hurt the environment. :)
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December 10th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
I just wanted to say that I absolutely adore this post! <3 It not only gives you advice how to deal with recession but also with life itself. Every time I read an entry of yours, I find it really astonishing how intelligent you are. And you’re still very nice and modest. I love your blogazine! :)
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December 10th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Nice blog :) I agree with you.
I live in Holland, and although we’re technically not in recession yet (we just made it), we will be soon.
And to be honest, I haven’t noticed anything (and therefore haven’t changed my spending). I am 18, last year in secondary school and I don’t have my drivers license yet, so gas prices don’t have a direct influence on me.
(You have to be 18 to take the test in Holland, and I am taking driving lessons, which is mandatory if you want a license. BTW: average costs of the lessons plus the practical exam and theory exam are around 2200 euros or 2850 dollars total, so be glad you live in the States.)
However, my parents notice. A gallon of gas is about 7.10 dollars in my country. But I must say that gas prices have always been very high here, so we’re kinda used to that.
But, I am confident we (my family and I) will get through this without any major problems. My father has a job and he probably won’t lose it (for various reasons). My mom just got a job. We have a mortgage we can afford. I have an after school job (and I am pretty sure I won’t lose it, although it’s not a big deal if I do).
I’m pretty confident :)
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December 10th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
Very good entry once again!
It would be stupid to be scared of a recession and not live. It doesn’t do anyone any good to wait and stress over something that might not even happen. When the times might become tight, the more important it is for us to really enjoy our lives, and not skip eating out just because something might happen. And like you said, it isn’t the first one, and it definitely will not kill us.
Thanks for this entry.
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December 10th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Actually, I gave up real shopping as my funds started to thin out. My fiance and I go to New York often, and spend maybe 100 dollars between the two of us each time. The majority of the time we go window shopping and try clothes on that we have no intention of buying. It’s easier not to think about the recession when you put up the mindset that you’re saving for Christmas shopping (which we were). I spent almost $700 saved recession dollars on his gift. However, on the note of not shopping for myself, I just started doing my own sewing when I wanted something new to wear ^-^
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December 10th, 2008 at 4:22 pm
I started reading your lovely blog a month ago, and just wanted to delurk to say a big thank you for this post! I tend to freak out about the economy and money (I grew up with very little, so these times of economic downturn tend to hit my panic button), but you’re so right: we shouldn’t stop living and celebrating and having fun–that only makes the bleakness more real and worse. ;) Bravo!
Cheers!
♥ Casey
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December 11th, 2008 at 12:15 am
I have cut down on my spending simply because I don’t have as much to spend as before and it would be foolish for me to go on like nothing has changed. However, you make a good point and it does not do the economy any good to stop spending altogether. I still try to indulge myself now and then, but I do try to be more frugal and responsible with my purchases.
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December 11th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Oh my god thank you so much.
The thing that people don’t realize is that, if you stop going out and spending money, the economy does not move. If you stop eating out, your favorite diner will have to eventually fire a few of it’s servers and cooks. It’s happening everywhere, us retail workers are getting hit hard. We understand you want to save, but mind you, there are waitresses out there trying to feed their kids with tip money!
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December 13th, 2008 at 12:38 am
I would be fine right now if I could only find a job.
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December 30th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
I eat my peas with honey, i’ve, done it all my life, it makes them taste quite funny, but it keeps them on the knife Peace free hugs 4 free ppl
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January 11th, 2009 at 2:48 am
I really liked this post. I feel so much the same way. I have been penny pinching for the last 8 months since I my car got totaled in an accident, I haven’t been able to get a decent job, my student loans & all my other bills kicked in since graduating college, and I’ve been paying off credit cards. But I realize just the comfort of throwing money at entertainment, fashion, or beauty makes me feel sooo good. There comes a point where you just need to LIVE!!! and every bit you spend is helping someone else out.
We will get through this just as we have gotten through previous recessions. This one just seems so never ending:(
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November 2nd, 2009 at 4:39 am
the Economic recession made a lot of jobless people in my own country. We could only hope that our economy becomes strong again :)
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