Thu 11 Sep 2008

‘Bipolar’: by MS Paint
These two things have nothing to do with each other, yet I have been a concoction of both for as long as I can remember. How can this be: a volatile cocktail of extreme sadness and extreme exhilaration, bottled up for one girl to drink?
I was diagnosed with a Bi-Polar Type II disorder in my mid-20s. Formerly known as Manic Depression, this condition causes a person to experience drastic mood swings due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. Type II is the milder version of Type I; in a way, I am lucky that my ‘happy’ episodes don’t cause me to spin out of control and straight into the psychiatric ward. I have my normal days, when my mood is stable, mixed up with occasional periods of intense, irrational sadness known as depression. And then, there are periods when I feel like I’m the Queen of the Universe – or at the very least, Socrates.
Many know about depression, but few are aware of the dark, erratic, deceitfully glittering world of hypomanic euphoria. It always starts out pleasantly – the wind of inspiration lifts you up and carries you on its iridescent wings. This is how most people feel when they are inspired; except in my case, I feel like the concept of failure had left the building. Hypomania makes you lose inhibitions and makes you feel like you can succeed at absolutely anything. I’ve been known to take up way too many projects during this period, pursuing them eagerly and with zeal, only to lose interest once the high is over.
During my manic stages, I tend to dress flamboyantly and gravitate towards bright colors – to liven up the surroundings, which suddenly seem lifeless and dull. I feel like I’ve got a magic touch – practically anything I sneeze on becomes a work of art! Sleep is an annoyance rather than a necessity; 4 am writing sessions ‘because I felt inspired’ become commonality.
And what do you know? People love the new you! They think you’re the best thing since sliced salami with all your eccentricities and overflowing enthusiasm; even you yourself can’t help but marvel at your newly found charm, sense of humor and generosity. You go on shopping sprees, become overtly social, your calendar bursting with all the exciting events you’re planning to attend. You’re too preoccupied to notice the inevitable crash for which you’re headed.
If I had to describe the tail end of hypomania, I would say it’s like speeding through a dark tunnel with bright lights rushing towards you – and you trying to catch every single one. You keep grasping but there are just too many, too fast. Your thoughts start racing, so you speak faster to keep up. You feel madly inspired, but can’t seem to focus – and as a result, for the first time in weeks, you produce nothing. The physical exhaustion takes toll: you begin to feel tired from weeks of incurred sleep debt and realize you’ve got a huge callous on your right wrist from mousing for 10 hours in a row. You want to keep going but everything you touch falls apart. You get frustrated, blame others, turn into an asshole. Paranoia sets in: you feel like everyone is trying to tear you down and don’t understand your genius. You get careless, egotistical, aggressive. Nobody likes you any more; not even you.
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Pop culture likes to glamorize manic depression – it plays into the whole tortured genius stereotype. Some of the people who had (or are thought to have) the disorder are Isaac Newton, Kurt Cobain, Edgar Allan Poe, Peter Steele, Van Gogh and Beethoven, alongside many others. Most have produced some of their best works during their manic stages. While I in no way compare myself to any of these people, it does feels good to know that I am not alone and, in fact, in good company. I might have to manage mood swings for the rest of my life, but in a twisted way, I am grateful to my bipolarity because it makes me who I am.
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September 11th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
…. i loved this post. i feel like it’s something i could’ve written myself.
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September 11th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
I can understand both sides of the swing, although the downswing is the one I’m more familiar with–I deal with depression on a regular basis.
That said, I think you handle things beautifully. You’re an inspiration :) and your drive and determination add to your awesomeness.
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September 11th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
I have anxiety and I believe a little bit of Bi-polar thrown in though I haven’t been diagnosed. I definitely know the depressed side of things, but when I am on an up and feeling good and creative it seems to go away so fast because of my fear of being told my ideas are bad or wont work and I fall back into depression. I have been having a bad time with it lately but I hope things will be looking up.
I think you have no reason to ever feel depressed! I know it’s chemical related but.. you’re a great and creative person and you should always be happy. <3
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September 11th, 2008 at 5:28 pm
I know exactly how you feel, I’ve had “manic depression” since high school. Bravo to you for taking control over your disabilities and for being brave enough to tell the world that you don’t fear your inner demons :)
Also, fyi, Cobain’s first name is spelled Kurt, not Curt. :)
Much love.
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September 11th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
Thanks for this post – it was very informational, as I don’t know anyone personally who’s been diagnosed with manic depression.
To relate, anxiety problems run in my family – my grandfather and all three of his children have it, to varying degrees. It’s difficult growing up in that environment, especially with my dad’s particularly severe anxiety disorder, and knowing that I probably have/will have it too.
I do feel sorry for my mom for having to put up with all our neuroticisms :( For us, anxiety hasn’t really positively impacted our lives, unfortunately. I’m happy that you’re happy with your mood swings – I hope to feel that way sometime.
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September 11th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Deer Doe :),
You are such an inspiration! You are living your dream and you’ve never let anyone or anything get in your way. That is very admirable!
I can relate to you in a way. Although I’ve been too embarrassed to seek any official diagnosis, I’ve always kind of thought I might have an emotional “disorder”. I am not certain if it is bipolar (or even anything at all), but I have terrible mood swings as well. There will be time where I’m so depressed and I can’t figure out why, but I just feel terrible inside about EVERYTHING, including myself. Then there are other times when I’m on top of the world, singing, shopping, giggling and smiling. THEN there are times when I am very serious (usually right before or after the depression), and these are my creative times when I usually write poetry and make paintings. Other times I am just “normal” or “stable” (like right now for example). I usually cycle through these moods either every couple days or sometimes up to 3 a day. It stinks when I am depressed, but the “highs” when I am happy or very creative are fun!
Also, I just wanted to know, how do you feel about the way “pop culture glamorizes manic depression”? Do you think it has a positive or negative implication for those affected as well as the general public’s informity of the condition? Just curious, because I actually wrote a letter to my local newspaper about the public’s need for better understanding of mental illness! I was so happy when it got published. It will soon be on my website if you ever want to read it. :)
Take Care Deer-y!
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September 11th, 2008 at 8:32 pm
That was a very interesting and yet extremely accurate description of hypomania. I was diagnosed with type 2 bipolar when i was 19, (7 years ago).
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To those people who have commented about wanting to seek help for what they fear may be anxiety or depression I highly suggest that you do. If you suspect that you suffer from mental illness you owe it to yourself to seek help. Only you can help youself
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September 11th, 2008 at 8:39 pm
Thanks…it feels better knowing you have the same thing I do
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September 11th, 2008 at 8:55 pm
That was a very well-written, brave, and insightful piece. I was diagnosed as BiPolar Type 2 when I was 19. My mood swings quickly. My depressed periods involved extreme fatigue and a feeling of worthlessness and during my manic periods I have fantastic spurts of creativity (I’m in school for apparel design and fashion merchandising) and am known to stay awake for sometimes up to 48 hours in a row feverishly working. Its good to hear that others out there take their disorders and learn to live life to the fullest anyway.
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September 12th, 2008 at 6:41 am
I’m have manic-depressiond too. I was diagnosed about two years ago. So I know how hard it can be to live with it.
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September 12th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Hey missus, fair play for being so open about this xx
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September 12th, 2008 at 8:39 pm
A great post for Invisible Illness Week, and thank you for sharing your story with us.
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September 14th, 2008 at 12:08 am
I was diagnosed with type I Bipolar disorder when I was 17. Later I was told my mood problems were related to a more serious condition- Multiple Sclerosis- and the brain damage it was causing. I spent a long time taking medication and being in the hospital for a condition that was actually soon to become a physical disability too. Good for you for being open about your dx! Remember to focus on the happy and lovely times. :)
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September 15th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Hi Xenia,
WOW I love your Blog!
It’s wonderful to hear that you can overcome your disorder and continue to follow your dreams. I know we have been disconnected for a while and last time I saw you was at Dominique’s farewell party. I have changed my phone number, career, job, email but yet I always still wonder what you’re up to.
To me you have always been an inspiration, to this day I remember going to Maskara to meet you for the first time and that event to me was life changing. I realized then, that I wanted to be in the fashion industry that I did not have to follow the “rules” of going to college work in a firm and live on that way until I kicked the bucket.
I realized that I could also follow my dreams and you giving me the opportunity to have my FIRST fashion show changed my whole mindset.
I also remember connecting with you while having lunch and eating crepes at Yaffa Cafe. I know I still owe you our Bronx fabric shopping trip ;) But if you’re still up for it I’ll take you to the Bronx any day!
Thanks for always being yourself and being an inspiration to others!
much love,
Glendy <3
PS: I have also started a blog, it’s really simple but I have much to learn :3
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September 15th, 2008 at 4:54 pm
Wow, so many kind words of encouragement. Thank you guys. It’s hard to find acceptance and understanding, but it seems I have managed to find it in my own blog. :)
♣ Amelia
Congrats on getting published – well done! As far as glamorization is concerned, media only does it because we do. The truth is that mania (at least some of its stages) can be intensely colorful and productive, it’s the aftermath that’s less than glamorous.
♣ Glendy
Omg, I was just thinking about you the other day! How random! We really must catch up. And guess what – I love, love, love your blog! I’ll be a regular reader from now on. :)
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October 13th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
yo, bella! i was poking around wikipedia from your links and started visiting some more sites (is there a verb for this trail of following links?) and i came across this neat video about the “time warp” one undergoes. do you experience such a sensation? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BM1CSqzQPq4
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December 3rd, 2008 at 2:43 am
Wow! I too deal with the “Rollercoaster condition” (as I call it), and it is comforting to know I’m in such cool company :)
I’ve only recently discovered your blog, and love it. This post makes me respect and admire you even more.
It’s funny how most people I know of who are bipolar are also highly creative! I suspect there is a connection there….
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December 27th, 2008 at 8:00 am
I can’t believe YOU are bi-polar! My grandmother who died when i was almost 2 (and my 1st memory ever is realizing she’d died) suffered from it. As well as my uncle. They probably have type 1 since it was very severe but I’m not familiar with the types. Anyway, I DO have a point.
I was diagnosed as bi-polar. They didn’t say what kind and to this day I don’t trust or believe them since it was the same doctor who gave me an experimental drug i didn’t consent to(approved by the FDA for schizophrenia ONLY which i DO NOT have and they were testing it to treat other things) and it almost killed me literally! He also only diagnosed me immediately after my mom told him her brother had it.
The thing is that Now, reading this, I doubt my refusal to even accept the possibility i might be bi-polar. The way you talk about yourself sounds exactly like me…just I’m a lot less extreme. So now how do I know if its just my anxiety/depression and mild OCD or a real possibility? Am I like you? or just another creative ambitious person who sometimes gets depressed?
I don’t trust my doctors (even though i have a new psychiatrist) so i suppose i shall keep living and time will tell (I’m 19 in January)
But could you do me a favor and satisfy my curiosity by answering this question?: Do you take medication or see a doctor or therapist for you condition?
P.S. thank you for writing this =)
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January 2nd, 2009 at 8:06 am
wow…it’s a popular problem among the deerlings then…during childhood i have always kept quiet about my mood swings, i would curl up in a ball in a corner of my room and when i would dare to look at my smiling face in the mirror i would recon that that person over there is not me…it was too creepy! When i started to let muself loose and be more open about my feelings it became a bit easier…i just take it out on creating and destructing and vice versa :P there are times that my dreams of excellence in interior design become too much to take in…it has become even easier the last 3months that I’ve been practising tai chi (wu style to be exact) and i hope it will only get better.
sometimes i fear that i will eventually lose the love and care of my loved ones…
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January 31st, 2009 at 7:26 pm
I’m a psychologist student and my father has maniac-depression, which is genetic and I know will hit me sometime soon.
What scares me is that lots of diagnosis are being given way too fast and lots of doctors’ve been acting like personality and feelings were disease.
Sometimes they give medicine to people who are not on a serious case and can improve with therapy and some of this medicines have horrible side-effects.
It’s a shame pharmacy’s been ruling a lot of lives…
On the other side, it’s a shame sometimes people don’t take this stuff serious and think the bi-polar or the depressed are just claiming for spotlights….
When my father started to take his medicine his body reacted with euphoria.
It was the most stressful time to my whole family, he spent money we didn’t have and almost had serious car-crashes ’cause he was acting like King of the Road.
Euphoric people can hurt themselves as badly as depressed people and it worries me that lots of bi-polars are diagnosed as depressive only and then, when they feel “happy”, no one cares anymore….
Bi-polar has lots of intensities… some people have less depression, some people have less euphoria.
I think what matters most is that we are not our diagnostics. We are a whole lot more.
Still, the disorders don’t need to be always seen in a negative way.
They are part of ourselves too, a way of expression and sometimes a way of showing that society is not as perfect as it pretends to be.
I wish society would be more aware of all mental-disorders, without all the glamor they like to add and without all the catastrophic tone they give it.
Depressed, bi-polar, anxious and even schizophrenic – people are people.
Sry about english mistakes! Not my main lenguage!
I liked the post a lot. (I’ve been liking the blog a lot, spoted it today and been reading like crazy, ha!)
It’s good to see someone tell people they have bi-polar diagnostic, ’cause we have enough people in world playing super-hero and it’s just not healthy!
Hope my bad english won’t make misundestandigs!
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May 13th, 2009 at 1:42 am
suddenly i feel like some one understands what i’m going through! as of yet i’m un diagnosed because i haven’t had the ability to get to a doctor, let alone a psychiatrist. but i know i need to soon, as my highs are staying the same, but my lows are getting dangerously lower.
thank you very much for writting this.
I have 2 question thoughs, other then medication, has your psychiatrist suggested anything for you?
and, What kind of side effects are you experiencing from medication(if you are taking it).
thanks again, take care.
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