- 1. Always look your best.
I’ve done both, and let me tell you: it’s better to be over-dressed than under-dressed. Whether you’re at work, going to a party or at the post office dropping off Christmas gifts for your grandma, show respect for others and yourself by making an effort. As sad as it is, people who don’t know you will judge you by the way you look, so you might as well dress for success! Don’t save that pretty frock for a special occasion — if you like it, wear it today! I like to dress a little festive — a brooch here, a scarf there, let them think it’s my birthday! ;) I can’t count the times a beautifully-dressed girl brought a smile to my face, so why not be that girl every day?
- 2. Smile!
Sometimes I feel like smiling in New York is prohibited by law. Showing your teeth in a friendly way has somehow become a sign of weakness. Nonsense, I say! There is a difference between grinning foolishly and smiling with a purpose. A confident smile shows that you’re comfortable in your surroundings and are in control of your life. Having the stones to smile will make you feel great on the inside and maybe even put others in a good mood. There is a guy on Houston St. selling antiques who always tells Mark and I that we look like rockstars (what sunglasses will do!) — this makes me smile even more. :)
- 3. Be daring.
Take a stroll on the wild side, take risks, talk to strangers! Whatever it takes to get you out of your comfort zone. The point here is to make yourself *a little* uncomfortable — not do something you’re dead-against. Throw a tea-party for you and your friends! Start a secret club! Go on Craigslist and do an apartment swap! Dye your hair an unnatural color! You get the idea.
- 4. Capitalize on your fabulous skills & talents.
Have you ever seen someone play an instrument who’s really good? Their face lights up, their eyes begin to sparkle and as if by a miracle, they become impossible not to like. Nothing makes a person more irresistible than watching them do something skillfully. I believe that every single person on this planet has a special, unique gift that they can do better than anyone else in the world — even if it’s just one thing. Go discover yours! Hone it, love it, and share it with others.
- 5. Proceed through life as though everybody already loves you.
It may sound conceited, but it works! Believing that everyone will be receptive of what you have got to offer often makes it so, like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Just like walking into a room thinking nobody wants to know you will probably result in nothing but misery, you can project positivity and success. You don’t have to be arrogant to be confident in your abilities to charm damn near anyone, and you don’t have to act entitled to know you’re worthy of the best things in life. You are lovely — just the way you are — so go ahead and be FABULOUS!
Deerlings: Share your rules of fabulousness with us!