Wed 3 Sep 2008
The Librarian Type (A True Story)
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Photo: Katenadine
Karolina was the librarian type: bushy brown hair, dangly frame and a pair of glasses hanging awkwardly on her long, narrow nose. Her Russian had a bit of a drawl. “Estonia,” she replied nonchalantly to my question as we walked home from school, kicking October leaves that spread like a carpet beneath our feet.
Karolina and her mother were ‘illegals’: they overstayed their visas and didn’t return to Estonia like they were supposed to, choosing a life of struggle instead. Aunt Olya, as I called her, worked long hours cleaning other people’s homes to sustain herself and her daughter, and pay the rent for the tiny studio they occupied in the Bronx. Most of Karolina’s days were spent alone, left to her own devices.
By mid-November I was over at Karolina’s almost every day, hanging out and doing homework together. Sometimes we’d spend entire afternoons eating bananas and baby carrots – her self-invented diet – and chatting about life back home and our parents’ divorce. Despite being a year younger, Karolina somehow seemed more seasoned than me: she spoke about life and boys knowledgeably, peppering her Russian with curse words freely. At my 17, I knew none; she was the one to teach me an Estonian equivalent of the word ‘whore’. Karolina seemed ambitious; she was considering a career in modeling and constantly wore hot pants showing off her mile-long, perfectly straight legs. We even called up a Barbizon ad once. The more I grew to know my new friend, the more I sensed she was as far from a ‘librarian’ as one could get.
My family moved away from the Bronx by early January. Karolina and I lost touch and the only bits of information I could collect was through an odd friend. I was told she had changed – dyed her hair bright red, ditched the glasses in favor of green contacts and became ‘a lot more outgoing’. After graduating, she allegedly tried to enroll into college but was unsuccessful due to her illegal status.
A few years later, Karolina’s number randomly lit up on my cell phone. As we were catching up, I learned that her mother had married an American guy (making her no longer illegal), and Karolina herself had just bought a new car and a 1-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn. When I asked where she got the money, she replied with an evasive “from working my ass off for 2 years”. When queried further, she alluded to working at a real estate agency.
Just like her call – completely out the blue – she once stopped by my house. During our brief exchange outside my rented townhouse apartment, I saw that the newly bleached-blonde Karolina now smoked Marlboro Lights (something she did, according to her, since she was 14; I must have just never noticed), and was getting full use out of her modelesque body in a mini skirt and tall shoes. Her boyfriend – whom I saw just long enough to tell he was in his late 30s and possibly Yugoslavian – for some reason preferred to stay in the car while we talked. With tinted windows.
It didn’t occur to me until years later that Karolina was a prostitute. Several months after our last exchange her number was disconnected and I never heard from her again.
P.S. Photo used for illustration only. Names and some facts were altered to protect identities.
Deerlings: Did any of your childhood friends grow up to be something unexpected?
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September 3rd, 2008 at 11:14 am
I had a friend that always was nice to everybody and then started to steal stuff and bash people(that was when I said I don’t want to be her friend anymore because she didn’t wanted to stop thaht). She always wanted to become a veterinarian but the last time I saw here she was working at a company that makes cardboard(I think).
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September 3rd, 2008 at 12:11 pm
Wow thats a wild but sad story!
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September 3rd, 2008 at 1:02 pm
what a story … o.O …
i remember going to high school with that wild, loud and really outgoing girl named anne. but not only was she a little crazy and “artsy” , she was also highly intelligent and beautiful . actually, she was very close to what i wanted to be . by now we’ve lost touch, but the last time we talked, she told me about her future carreer as a stage actress …
just a few months ago a frind of mine told me she moved to australia though, got married there and works in real estate something … it’s odd how some people change so much .
haha, now i feel like i ought to call her :)
anyways , goodnight for now
(it’s evening already in berlin)
belle
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September 3rd, 2008 at 1:19 pm
Ah! I spent the late morning pondering this, and I think I’ve finally found the person.
Throughout high school, SR & I were close friends, though we were vastly different. He was very conservative (politically & socially), very religious. He was very much a pro-life/pro-Bush/religious right person, and I’m a sexual, outgoing, liberal tree hugger borderline communist. Our friendship worked though, because we enjoyed the conversations we had with one another, the way we made each other think.
We lost contact over the years, though one day I found his profile on Facebook. His short hair had grown longer and curly, and in his arms was a beautiful little half-black girl.
I can only presume that SR either married, or at the last had a child. But I was so happy to see that he had overcome racial boundaries to have a child with someone. (Note: not that he was racist, because he was friends with everyone, regardless of color. But he definitely preferred dating women of his own pale complexion.)
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September 3rd, 2008 at 4:01 pm
My best friend in high school hung out with me every weekend and we threw parties that never had any drugs or alcohol. We were so proud of the fact that we could have a great time and share it with others without harming our bodies or doing anything illegal.
3 years later, she’s the biggest pothead I know. All she ever wants to do is get high and get drunk. She won’t even hang out with me if it’s not at a bar or in her basement.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 4:46 pm
A lot of the people I knew as friends decided that I was too odd for them. The girl I knew the longest, the one I called friend, had an argument with me back at the end of our sophmore year in high school in regards to her claiming her father was abusing her and me wanting more information so I could help her; the information was never given and in the end it turned out to be a ploy for attention. This past June she had me be a part of her wedding, when in actuality she wanted a blame depository and then got upset when I didn’t take the crap she was piling on me. We both changed; I became more confident in myself and not so willing to be walked all over and she rewrote her childhood and refuses to acknowledge that we used to run around the house and yard trying to fly so we could find Peter Pan.
It sucks that we’re not friends anymore but I still have those happy childhood memories, and I’m happy to elaborate on them.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 7:14 pm
I had a friend that was very thin and beautiful that my sister repeatedly claimed could be a model. Unfortunately, she came from a home with a conniving, nasty mother & leniant, alchoholic father. We both made pacts when we were 7 to never smoke, do drugs, or get pregnant too soon.
I went to her baby shower four years ago. She was just 14 and had dropped out of school to live with her then 18 year old boyfriend and his mother.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 9:15 pm
At the college from which I graduated and now work, One of our current students is one of the 4 finalists for the Playboy Playmate 50th anniversary. And another one is Miss High Times magazine from 2007 to 2008. A third student is Miss Deaf Texas and also first runner-up to Miss Deaf America. And they are all 3 top students on the Honor Roll.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 11:11 pm
I knew a very sad little boy named Clint in elementary school who came from a really bad home. His father was abusive and the one time I visited the apartment he lived in, I felt like crying. It was filthy and he slept on the floor. At school he was picked on and he only had a few friends. He didn’t do well in school because he was always getting into trouble. He eventually ended up in foster care because his dad hurt him very severely. I didn’t see him after that.
A month ago at my university this gorgeous tall young man came up to me and gave me a hug. I didn’t even recognize him! Clint is a double major studying to be a doctor, hes very handsome and sweet and hes making a wonderful life for himself despite how hard his childhood was. Its great to see him doing so well and being so happy. :)
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September 3rd, 2008 at 11:30 pm
More acquaintances than friends, but from the people I graduated with in high school, one of the really shy, geeky guys went to LA to become a model. Then there’s a honor roll guy that went on to do gay porn (my friends tell me that they’re kinda freaky).
With my friends, the only real shocker is that the one that I thought would succeed in life refuses to move from her parents or even get a job. She’s older than I am (early twenties). It was disappointing to see her motivation to succeed slip away.
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September 4th, 2008 at 3:55 am
My once best friend (all through middle school and most of high school) and I were very proud of not being involved in drugs or alcohol and now she is all over the stuff. Its really sad.
You write beautifully.
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September 4th, 2008 at 5:17 am
How do you know that she was a prostitute? Is this something you know for a fact or something that you assume?
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September 4th, 2008 at 8:33 am
Thanks for your input, everybody. I’ve always wondered why seemingly ambitious people sometimes head straight for failure. I guess it’s different for everybody – some get depressed, others have experiences that make them change the way they look at life; others – maybe they only seemed ambitious to us at the time but really weren’t?
♣ Ashe
That’s a GREAT story!! It once again reaffirmed my faith in humanity. :)
♣ Zanthia
Deer god, that’s horrible! A lot of people go through a drugs/alcohol period in their 20s, let’s just hope she snaps out of it…
♣ Milk Mongrel
A baby at 14? Let’s hope the experience made her grow up and become more responsible.
♣ William Scott
Where is this magical, wonderful, deviant-producing college?! Must be something in the water! :)
♣ Kelly
:D Your friend is a Cinderello!!!!
♣ Spatter
You don’t need no excitement in your life, girl – your friends are providing it for you! :)
♣ Deanna
Thanks sweetie. I enjoy writing greatly. :)
I never understood WHY some people get hooked on that crap. It’s gross.
♣ Jessica
It’s not possible to be 100% sure of anything… But let’s just say there were other facts (not mentioned in the story) that pushed me to make that conclusion. I don’t judge prostitution or prostitutes. In fact, I think it’s a job just like any other IF you can handle it. Not everyone is cut out for it, but there are women who are, and take pride in their profession. Whether my friend is such a person is a different question and remains unclear. :\
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September 6th, 2008 at 10:58 am
Woow.
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September 18th, 2008 at 12:45 am
One of my best friends from HS who I lost touch with for a while ended up becoming a suicide girl which was of total surprise to me, and then later dying of a overdose which broke my heart…
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November 12th, 2008 at 11:21 am
There was a girl I knew in grade school, she moved to another city about an hour away after 6th grade. She was that girl in school everyone is jealous of, very pretty and VERY smart. She was in the gifted program and I just knew she would grow up to be a doctor or something. I recently found her on facebook, and her life is so different. I assumed she would be done with school (she’s 27), married to some fabulous man, have a couple of kids, and live in a big house and have a wealthy life. Instead, she basically lives by the seat of her pants. She and her boyfriend travel around the country, doing lots of hiking and camping, really doing the outdoors thing. She’s just recently gotten back into school, and just seems to have the happiest life in the world. Very “Into the Wild” for a while I think. It’s interesting how you can be jealous of the life you think they lead, then be jealous of a total different one that is actually the way it is!
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July 13th, 2009 at 6:05 am
I like your blog, it’s written very well.
Hard life for the girl,uhm.
Greets Mirella
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