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Yesterday’s post inspired some interesting comments on the subject of – what else? – boobs & bras. I mentioned that I often skip the bra because my boobs are small and I don’t see the point most of the time. Of course there is so much more to bra-wearing than just the support. Sometimes I feel like women are expected to wear bras out of decency, to ‘cover up’ what is different from men. Different people & cultures have various tolerance levels for nudity. Unlike Russia & Europe, American girls are trained to wear chest-covering bathing suits since toddler-hood. It’s always funny to see the shock on our friends’ faces when they run into a picture of my then-little sister in nothing but swimming trunks on the beach. All the same, I didn’t own a two-piece until I started developing breasts.
My first realization that people viewed nudity – specifically female breasts – differently happened sometime in grade school. I was changing into my gym clothes in the presence of a handful of classmates, some of whom were boys. As I pulled a boy-beater off and over my head, I heard giggling and (I suspect) finger-pointing coming from their direction. I didn’t understand why. A 10 year old girl’s chest looks exactly the same as a boy’s, and therefore did not require covering up as far as I was concerned. A few years later I was very confused to see my friend wrapped up in a towel after the shower because her dad was in the room. I would’ve schlepped by in my birthday suit. I mean, my dad raised me, what hasn’t he seen?
Being notoriously oblivious to all things sex-related in my teenage years, it took me a long time to understand that breasts meant more to men than just female anatomy. A nipple poking through the shirt equaled scandal in tabloids and unwanted attention in real life. Before I knew it, I was surrounded by bras – girls hiding newly developed breasts behind fabric, girls investing in push-up brassieres to show off cleavage…
Dita von Teese for Wonderbra
By the time I hit 18, I still despised and refused to wear bras. Smaller boobs didn’t require support, and I wasn’t interested in attracting boys with my cleavage. Most importantly, I felt if a woman was going to wear something, she should do it for herself – not someone else. Crushing my ribcage with a bra – or boob muzzle, as I christened it – just so that an occasional penis doesn’t get hard seemed like an awful waste of bras. This wondrous invention of humanity was designed to make you feel glamorous, sexy and to inspire a little bit of jealousy – just like Dita von Teese.
As I stepped into my bra’d 20s, I couldn’t believe how many varieties already existed and how many more were still being invented. I even did an article examining all the different types, ranging from the functional ‘demi’ bra to extravagant ‘plunge’ to provocative ‘peek-a-boo’. In addition to being a practical accessory, the right bra can make you feel more feminine & curvaceous.
I understand that to some women who were blessed with a hefty cleavage, a bra is a necessity. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be ugly! Many girls – including myself back in my investment-banking days – use underwear as a reminder to themselves that underneath that pantsuit is a big personality.
I leave you with this quote from a Deerling:
“Bras are wonderful… as are boobs which they contain.”
Deerlings: what is your stance on bras? Love them, hate them, obsessed with them?
I don’t really care if I wear one or not. I have very small boobs, only 32A…And I can never find any that fit me. So the two I have now are really plain and a little too big. I’d love to find some fancy frilly ones sometimes. I’m a sucker for lace and bows.
I HATE wearing bras because I have such small boobs and gained so much wieght NOTHING fits. I gained weight because of an accident that messed up my back and YES BRAS CRUSH MY RIBCAGE. But we Americans have been conditioned to wear bras. So wear one I must even if it doesnt fit me right. They still hang. LOL but at least my nipples dont show. LOL.
Being one of those heavy girls who HAS to have a bra in order to have any figure really I like mine and never would think to not wear one.
The fact that you don’t and have small breasts is nothing new. Girls who have small ones either wear one because society states blah blah or because they want to cover up the fact that they don’t have much going on up there.
I wear one because I like to look good in my clothes. If I didn’t then I would look like I was smuggling saggy sacks of flour. A look I do not want.
Also, I find it funny that people, instead of focusing on your outfit in that post decided to focus on the scandal that was your lack of a bra.
OH forgot to add that Bras can be sexy though. And if I fit in them I would probably wear them duing quality time with hubby.
34/36 DD (depending on the brand) here! I need my Over-The-Shoulder-Bolder-Holder. I even wear a bra to sleep, which is for comfort and not modesty.
I got boobs the summer between 4th and 5th grade. My mother got me a bra to wear. I hated it. I used to wiggle out of it during recess because it was odd to move in. By the time I was in the 6th grade I had C’s and I was an avid bra wearer. I also wore very oversized t-shirts though this was more due to the unwanted attention they caused.
While I like my breasts as they are (I think they have a nice shape), I hate the unwanted attention. They literally enter the room before I do. They bump into people. Hell one of them tries to escape it’s underwire jail. I also hate as some other’s brought up, the lack of larger sizes in stores. Even if they so carry larger sizes they are torpedo shaped with a pound of lace and are the brightest puritan white you have ever seen. Plus they cost extra due to the use of extra material. This is my biggest problem with companies like Victoria’s Secret. So it’s Macy’s for be and a hope for the best that I get to buy a color other than black (I recently just got navy blue w00t).
Anyway, I evny every girl in the IBTC. You will never try on an empire dress and cringe because the seam sits directly over your nipple. Be proud of you handfuls because it’s more than enough. I wish I were you, but surgery is $8,000 bucks (more than to make ‘em bigger).
I’ll love mine, you love yours and we can come together and form the Tits and Jugs Co-Operative. Join the sisterhood (though there are some men who boast breasts large enough to join, and so should.)
Way to much pontificating here, but I’m very passionate about breasts and their place in society.
I have several pictures of me as a young pre-teen folding my arms across my chest in a very odd fashion. I was hiding my then-just forming boobies! I remember being SOOOOO embarrassed about them. It would be nice if America’s odd-ball ways perceiving nakedness as just sex (or gross for pubescent kids) and not natural would change.
i myself have a D-cup as well and let me tell you i used to hate my boobs growing up! i started wearing a bra when i was 11 and instead of feeling empowered i was embarrassed! part of the reason i didn’t like my chest was because no. 1 I was waay more developed than any of my friends/peers and no.2 all the bras big enough to fit me were either unattractive or uncomfortable.
it wasn’t until i turned 18 that i really started to appreciate my breasts. more and more girls kept telling me how lucky i was to have big perky boobs and once my best friend got implants i knew what i had was not something to hide or hate but rather they were a gift from god (lord knows they weren’t a gift from my mom haha my mom has a 34B and my sister is a 34A!)
i finally learned that i was blessed with a big chest!
i’ve also accepted that i will always have to spend a little more money than most when it comes to buying bras but Victoria’s Secret and Frederick’s of Hollywood offer a large, affordable collections suitable for any size breasts!
I was just having this conversation with a friend of mine. I just dont’ get underware.
not just bras, but undergarments in general. sometimes my friends make comments when you can see my nipple a little bit through a shirt, and i always respond “if we were in europe, it wouldn’t be a big deal”
if you love them, just like if you love 6 inch heels, then go for it. otherwise, why allow society to tell you what support you need or don’t need?
great post! i really enjoyed it.
I’m not big on bras, I don’t wear them usually unless I have too, Like for work, or if the outfit I’m wearing won’t look as good without one.
Boobs forever, man! XD
Well, I was raised in that same environment ofnudie-ness(I loved to clean the house when I was a nekid little girl XD), then I came to America. It’s like some kind of sexual paranoia. I went to take a shower after swimming on a field day once, and all of the girls were so disgusted that I came to the locker room with just a towel on. Weird? Nasty? I just wanted to wash and dry my swimsuit. Same for getting dressed in front of each other. I was a little girl that loved Classical Greek and Roman art, statues,and culture. I thought the human body was beautiful(not sexually per se) and I was seen as a perverted pagan who stared at statues. It’s okay to appreciate, but not abuse, boobs and the rest of our bodies(God gave them to us, after all). If we get too restricted, then we will become obsessed later on.
(I’m from Sweden in Europe, sorry if my spelling is a little off)
I remember one time in the first grade when I was about 7. We where changeing clothes befor gym class, one of my classmate had a “bra” on her. She was really embaressed about it, all the girls thought it was a little wierd cause we had never seen that befor. but most girls thougth she was brave.
Also some years ago when I was home at my mothers and her new husbands house. His daughter that was about 7 or 8 years old skipped around the house in just pjama pants and when she saw me she got embaressed and covered her non-exsiting boobs with her hands. I thought that was silly cause she didin’t have anything to cover up.
I wear bra’s sometimes and sometimes not, it depends on my mood, outfit and things like that. like when i’m grumpy I like to have no bra on and curl myself up in a big sweatshirt reading a book or watch a movie.
I must say I LOVE boobs x.x’ – I think is one of the most beautiful things in woman’s bodies.
And, so, I really like bra’s… ’cause I think some can make the shape even more beautiful.
I was always bored by the fact boys were so… boring. Even if I’m straight, I do think woman are much more pretty than the guys.
I don’t use bra’s to show cleavage or to cover myself up. I think it’s not as scandalous here at Brazil, maybe(Even if we are not as sexual as people make it look). I always hear things like: “this clothes looks better without bra, this looks better with bra”, etc… to me, it’s always been something to do with keeping your pretty round things were they should be and feeling pretty…
It took me a long time to wear them, ’cause they are not comfortable when you are not used to them. Then I only used them ’cause I needed, but I do like frills and lace a lot, so, after a while, I ended up buying some just because they were pretty… (and comfortable. I do not buy it if I can’t use it the whole day without even remembering of it…)
In the end it became like all the rest of my clothes. I’m really picky and just get what I feel fits me best…
I love my breasts and my body. It took me a while in my life (specially after so much bullying), but I find myself a beautiful girl now. – I hate the fact that, sometimes, the clothes we wear get so much attention of unwanted man… but it won’t stop me from being me.
Besides, there is something really interesting about breasts and their nutrition meaning that we are not always conscious about… they are the first way of contact in a mother-child relationship, the first place where you get your nutrients and the first really meaningful thing in your life, even before you get the idea of what a human or a mother is…
I am an A cup, so it isn’t necessary for me to wear a bra. I love having freedom to do that. Bras can be fun to wear sometimes, but they are just and uncomfortable hassle most of the time.
I love bras! I have no problem going without one, in theory, but I fin it uncomfortable. Honest, I feel uncomfortable without the wires and padding. Besides, they are so pretty!
Well, my babies, erm, boobies aren’t so small, but I still don’t like bras :P And I skip them when I can ;D
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I’m only an A cup but I still wear bras out of paranoia that my boobs will sag when I’m older. I won’t wear a bra if I don’t have to though, like for a backless top/dress.
This might sound weird but I like the feeling of being binded, rather being all over the place. It makes me feel like I can make a quick escape, like wearing a cat suit.
Oh, goodness. I am so jealous of girls with small boobs! I am 5 foot 1, and have a 34D. And sometimes, even a 34D bra can’t contain the monsterboobies. (Not that they aren’t great boobs, just HUGE!) I can’t go a single day without wearing a bra, I feel naked when I don’t have one. Plus, large breasts sag. And I could really use the support. :P
Buying bras and lingerie is a depression cure for me.
Strange I know.
But there’s just something about all the colour and lace, frills and silk, that makes you feel good about yourself. If you can’t make yourself feel sexy about how you look then that’s just really depressing. And lingerie is a cure for that, for me. It makes me proud to be who I am.
Frankly, it still sounds strange…
i do think it depends on the american family… my sister and i spend most of our formative years going around in varying degrees of nudity– even around our male cousins! however, as we’ve gotten older (and went through puberty) we’ve become much more conservative. i can barely even wear two piece swimsuits. i mostly blame my dad. he gets embarrassed just seeing bras laying around the house. :)
I hate bras, but unfortunately I don’t really have any choice but to wear them.
Maybe if I could get away with not wearing them, I would like them?
I think it’s all very well saying that there are lots of different types and that you can have fun with them etc, but I am an unusual size, which means that even when I go to specialist bra shops, my choice is very limited.
Whenever I go bra shopping I always look at the smaller sizes with envy, because they are about a million times cuter than the ones which I can fit into.
The problem is even worse now, because I live in a country (Japan) where I have never seen a bra for sale that is actually in my size.
I am really very jealous of you! My breast size is one thing that I would really like to change about my body (along with my feet), not because I don’t like them, but because they are so damn inconvenient!
I have relatively medium sized boobs, so I could get away without wearing one once in a while, but unless I’m sick, it’s bras for me!
I don’t like the pointy look I get when i don’t wear a bra, and I look a lot smaller without one. A good bra can do wonderful things! I opt for the perkier, fuller looking boobies I can have by wearing a bra. :)
Besides, it makes all my shirts look so much better on me.
I love bra´s, think mine are so cute. But when Im at home or just taking my dog out for a walk I dont wear a bra. I live in sweden and like you say, here in europe everybody is naked and its okey, but in america they would never show a neked kid on the tv and now i mean kids that are 2-4 years old.
I find bras uncomfortable, but I feel possibly even more uncomfortable if I go without one – not physically, because I’m barely a B cup, but mentally, because I don’t much enjoy the look of my shape without a bra. Oh, societal standards… *shakes head*
I probably fall under the “obsessed” category – I love bra shopping! I guess it’s mainly the idea of having this little secret for myself under my clothes. My usual choice of clothing is loose and not at all what most people would call “sexy”, but I love wearing black, lacy bras & underwear underneath. It’s definitely just a secret for me though – ain’t nobody seeing these goodies at the moment! ;)
Sometimes I do like going without a bra, but only when I’m not going out. I always get embarrassed when I get pokey nipples, ha! Plus I’m a C cup, not huge but going braless can definitely get uncomfortable after a while.
I’m a 32F, so bras are an absolute necessity for me – without them it’s, well, pretty much impossible to do anything. Braless feels incredibly uncomfortable.
I have maybe 10 bras, but I’m always on the lookout for more. Sadly bras my size are a lot more expensive than those for smaller-chested girls, and as such I do not buy them as often as I’d like to. I have both plain bras for fitted clothes to fun, colourful ones.
In some ways I envy people with breasts small enough that do not have to worry about things like bras or clothes sitting funky because were not designed for people with actual cleavage. They have no idea how easier they have things going for them.
well, since I got my period at an awfull young age (10, to be precise), I developed earlier than my friends or the regular girl. So I’ve grown used to wearing bras. I don’t have an unsually large breast, but nowdays I feel weird without any support. I remmber when I was about six, and -as espected- flat as a board (but still way too tall for my age), and I was in a sort of vacational camping and we came across some water hoses and got all dripping wet (it was a super hot summer day). The adults taking care of us, took off as much of our clothes as they could so it could dry in the sun while we were still playing. Of course I was out and about with my chest exposed, as all the other kids. The thing is, one of the older girls (i think she was barely 12) was super shocked and said “why are you naked! aren’t you embarrased all the boys can look at your chest?”. That was the first time I actually felt ashamed of bing in the nude. Sort of my “Adam and Eve” epiphany.
Anywho, I love buying bras, even if I’m the only one looking at them, they make me feel super femenine.
Mm.. the thing is, once you go past about a C.. pretty bras that offer support are hard to find at a high school prince. The pretty, lacey bras that Victoria’s Secret offers in large sizes are for women with fake boobs that don’t need support.
Until about a month ago, I was always wearing the wrong size bra. I went to Nordstrom and found not only bras in my right size, but pretty ones. But also ones that break the bank. But it’s a price I’m willing to pay.
I am also on the larger end of the chest spectrum. I developed early, and by the time I was about 10 I was already nearing a C cup. I’m 22 now, and the last measure I got at a really great professional place in my hometown about a year ago, put me in a 32 E (which I’m still not sure if that’s DD or DDD or something else entirely!), so I tend to wear a 34 DD, with a bit of spillage and a whole LOT of cleavage. Also, I think I have terrible posture and I HATE exercising, sports bras just push my boobs into my armpits and up over the top.
I used to be very self-conscious, until I started dating my husband. I was always hiding beneath high necked tshirts, but now I’m more comfortable with my boobs and I wear whatever I can with a bra (sadly, I can’t wear any strapless bras I have, so I have limited options).
It’s really ridiculously hard to find a cute or sexy bra at this size, and when you manage to find some (www.barenecessities.com is pretty good for cheap, cute, huge bras), most are around $70!
I love bras for many reasons, mostly because of the crazy variety and cute styles! The support is wonderful when you carry so much weight around on your chest. I typically wear bras that are more structured, so there isn’t much of a high beam effect, because I get enough attention without showing my nips to the world. I love my boobs (despite them being a colossal pain in the ass more often than not), and if it weren’t for the awkward attention, I would have no problem broadcasting my nips to the world. I’m a woman, and I’m proud of my tits! Although, I think even if I didn’t HAVE to wear a bra, I still would the majority of the time just to feel cute and as another means of expression. I have a lot of cute bras, I just can’t wear them out of the house because they’re SO ill fitting. I’ll probably end up getting a reduction one day, especially if I have kids, once I get tired of hunching and wearing ill fitting clothes.
I’m 14 and still an A, but I’m extremely self conscious about EVERYTHING and in today’s society, I’m not one of the ones who can mentally allow themselves to go bra-less. All my friends started wearing them, and I feel weird now when I take it off, even to sleep. However, I like that there are so many cute colors and patterns. like several have probably said here, I don’t care if no one else sees it, nobody else really should ,but it makes ME feel good and that’s what matters!
I like bras but sometimes I wish I could find a pair of nipple covers and go sans bra. Most nipple covers have latex adhesive and that really irritates my skin. Most of the time, if I go braless, I use regular ol clear tape and run off. I’m a 34B so it’s not criminal.
99% of the time though, I’m wearing a bra just because I feel sexier with one on. I wear a bra for myself, not for others, and they usually are very plain. I do have a balconette bra that I love to death but can’t wear with tight shirts as the corset embroidery sticks right out!
Well, even though I’m asexual, I like having pretty bras. Nobody gets to see them but me, but I like having them.
Contrarily, I don’t actually like wearing bras. I find them uncomfortable, some of them don’t create a flattering shape, some don’t look good under certain clothing, etc. Most of my underwear is dark, so if I’m wearing something white, I would much rather wear another little vest underneath it if I can, rather than have a dark bra showing through.
Most of the time, I don’t wear a bra. I don’t have very big boobs, so I don’t think I need one, and I actually try to avoid buying things if I think they’re going to show nipple. My ideal dress/outfit is something with a built-in bra/support which creates a nice silhouette and is thick enough to hide things.
Having said that, I do usually wear a bra for work and such. I take it off as soon as I get home, but somehow it makes me feel better-dressed while I’m out. I don’t know if this is a throw-back to the olden days when respectable women would wear tightly-laced corsets rather than having everything hanging out. Pretty interesting, huh? XD
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I was always a bra wearer…. until recently I have been embracing the no bra and it’s awesome. The first time out I was self conscious but got over that quickly. I think this would be much harder with larger breasts.
I hate bras. With that being said I HAVE to wear them. I was the first in my school to develope and it sucked. Everyone was jealous, and or made fun of me carring a purse with tampons, and my big C cup at 6th grade breasts.
Now I have to wear them they feel like heavy flour sacks as there now a terrible size 40 D.
Being a 40 D sucks since obsiously I have a little more weight up top than I would like (and no weight on my thighs and I don’t have a butt at all which sucks), but companys cater to women with smaller sizes. All my bras look like something a 80 year old woman would wear. It is hard to find a good bra to hold the sandbags up, and look stylish. I’ve decided that this year I will loose weight, and I want to get down 40 pounds and 36 size in a bra. Then I can get more fancy things. I need to shape up a bit anyways.
I have allways beleived that boobs are bad. I really don’t flaunt my bust much, and feel that my boobs are in no way sexy. I think a womans curves, and body, and eyes are all far more wonderfull than what she has to hide.
Im pretty much boobless…So I don’t pay much attention to bras but those bras are so cute!
I’m noticing that a lot of people just hate bras. Period.
The problem with me is that I can’t go without one, not because of my size (32B, relatively small) but because of comfort. I sleep with a bra on because without one I just don’t feel right.
I’ve been wearing a training bra since I was eight. Not because I needed it or because of my parents – I just thought they were cute.
So, I was pretty much raised wearing a bra, and now I feel naked and not comfy without one. I’ll only skip it if I’m trying to convince my boyfriend to take me on a date. :)
My boobs aren’t that large (34C) but because I’m only 5′ they look much larger. To add to this, I have the bonus of constantly hard, very prominent porn-star style nipples. I love my boobs, so do girls and boys…. but the problem is the gawkers. I would go braless if I didn’t have to deal with the looks.
I have done it a couple times and even completely straight girls can’t keep their eyes to themselves. Though it can be flattering it’s mostly embarrassing.
Lucky you with your ability to go braless. It would sure make wearing most of my clothing much easier if I didn’t have to hide straps.
I am (luckily, imo) a small-boobed lady (currently around 34B, but sometimes smaller, sometimes bigger), which I love because I don’t have to wear a bra all the time.. I like sundresses and backless shirts a lot, and those are practically impossible to put a bra under! I do sometimes really like the added shape of a bra (and can even have a bit of cleavage with some…) but man, bras are SO uncomfortable!! I feel like I always squirm around and try to adjust it so it will feel better but it’s impossible, haha. I do get self-conscious about pokey nipples when it’s cold, haha.
“I understand that to some women who were blessed with a hefty cleavage…”
I’ve ALWAYS found it nothing but a curse. Chest measurements always made me cry (although I’m convinced my last one was for a type of bra that claims your breasts are about 2 cup sizes larger than they actually are), shirts rarely fit right or look pleasing, not to mention the lowered self esteem, having to wear XL shirts when my waist can fit a medium. It’s been pushed so much in the past few years, the issue of breast size and showing how ideal having smaller ones are, in order to make the supposed general population (mainly of teenage girls) feel better about theirs, it’s had the opposite effect on me.
Bras are pretty necessary for me, any sort of movement makes me so very self conscious. And it’s unfortunate that the ones that fit properly and give enough support so I don’t get back pains like I used to strangle my ribcage and begin to leave marks on my skin after wearing them for too long (similar to if you wear a pair of pants that are too tight, and when you take them off, you can see the imprinted marks in your skin around your hips/stomach for a little while).
ugh you are SOOO lucky you dont have big boobs!
i do, im only 15 but i’m a ballerina and no one has boobs there except me, and i get so self consious!
lucky… :/
I love bras and underwear they can make you feel sexy even when you dont feel like it!! What I want to know is where are those Hello Kitty bras are cause I LOVE her!!!
I’ve always liked bras. As a child, I couldn’t wait until I had boobs so I could fill out a bra and look like a sexy woman everyone envied or had the hots for.
I always wore undershirts as a kid, and actually, as a toddler my older sister wore boys beach shorts at the beach a few times. I might’ve too as a child, but I don’t think there are pictures like there are of my older sister. We’re american, by the way, so I know it’s kind of unsual that my mom let us girls go topless on the beach as toddlers, but hey, we had no boobs yet. From a distance we would have looked like boys anyway.
Anyway, once I started developing breasts, I started wearing sports bras and didn’t switch over to regular bras until the middle of high school, only because I had no idea what size I was and was too embarrassed to get measured professionally. At first, the reason was because I thought I was still small enough that I didn’t need a “real bra” just yet. But I was just guessing; I know now that my boobs were pretty big. They were most likely a C or small D.
Back then, I sort of had an idea of what size I was from measuring myself, but once I learned more about it and actually got measured professionally 2 years ago, I started to be much more confident about wearing certain clothes that I couldn’t wear before. I’ve also really never liked seeing nipples show through my shirts before, so not only do I like bras for the support, but I also like that they keep my body looking nice and smooth.
Personally, they are comfortable for me to wear. I don’t even take my bra off to go to bed. I’m more uncomfortable without it on. Maybe I am just used to them, but I think they’re cute and fun and sexy. Even if my breasts were small, I would wear them. I guess that’s no surprise because I like to wear other “uncomfortable” things like corsets too. ;P
Bras are awesome! I mean, yeah, it feels fantastic to just rip it off and get that freedom, but I do prefer to wear them when I’m going out. I don’t like how I look sans bra, even though I am small enough to pull it off. But bras.. there are so many pretty ones out there, and they can do so much to enhance, lift, support, emphasize… And don’t even get me started on matching panties! A great undie set can make a woman feel FANBLOODYTASTIC! :)
I don’t have large boobs, but I feel uncomfortable without a bra. Both physically, and just with my body – I live in a town with an inordinate number of dirty old men who do nothing but look at the girls walking by all day, so I don’t like to give them something to look at. I’m trying to not care, because it would be nice to dress a little sexier; I’ve noticed since I’ve moved here I’m dressing down a lot more!
But if physical comfort wasn’t an issue (and there were less dirty old men around) I definitely wouldn’t be a bra girl. I absolutely hate bra shopping, even though they are all pretty and sexy.
depends on the top I’m wearing, plus the look I’m going for. I also have small breasts, so a bra isn’t 100% necessary for me all the time. Granted, I *am* very nervous about my nips showing through (as well as everything else involving naughty bits… flies accidentally open and such), so I tend to only go bra-less when I’m wearing something black or something that is *meant* to be flat-chested, like a kimono or a men’s shirt.
Actually, I’m unusually squeamish about body parts. It’s not that I’m embarrassed by my body or anything (I *love* my bod. :3 ). I think it’s a weird combo of my mom’s over-the-top anti-sex upbringing and my worry that other women will be jealous of *me* and dislike me for it or something… *o* Yeah, I have all kinds of weird hang-ups. ^^;
I have NEVER understood (nor will I ever understand) why it is socially acceptable for a man to go topless in public, but not acceptable for a woman to do the same. It’s one of those vestigial gender rules that is sexist to the core.
Oh, America.
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I’m right at the borderline for needing a bra or not, I’m about a B and a half. But even since when I was younger and my breasts were smaller I’ve simply loved wearing bras! I think it takes a load of my mind and I have one less thing to worry about, and of course the physical support is nice too. And I also like to get really pretty ones to help remind myself that it’s what’s on the inside that counts. Cliche, I know, but to me it’s just a good reminder that even if I’m having a bad day, there is always something special about everyone, just maybe no one knows it. [:
I adore bras.
At age 15 I got Ds (I’m currently a 34D) so they kind of became neccesary.
When I was 12 I didn’t like wearing a training bra, just because I was the only girl of my friends who had to, and I hated being different.
But now I love having a massive rack; it makes me feel more girly.
And honestly, to me, I think plain black bras are sexiest. I managed to make a group of my friends (boys and girls) fall silent when we went swimming and I was just standing in my pink underwear and a black bra. ;D
phooey with bras! im barely large enough up there to even be in the women’s section at the store. hah! i buy cheap $4 target bras, just to cover up my nip piercings. ;) the last thing i want is attention drawn to my chest area because of a piercing. i love going braless when i can. i didnt even start wearing a bra until i reached high school!
A good foundation garment makes clothes look so much better. You stand straighter, things hang correctly from your shoulders. If they’re small, you get an improved profile with a little padding. And if you’re large, you get that lift and support you need. Its all about choosing the right bra and other foundations for your outfit. For me, I need the lift. But even for smaller-chested girls, I think the payoff is worth the investment in good bras.